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AIBU to feel guilty for not stopping a crow?

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AliceNotInChains · 20/04/2026 09:38

Just seen a crow attacking a black bird nest down our driveway, all the black birds where dive bombing it and it didn’t care, it managed to pull a baby bird out of the nest, crow and baby fell onto driveway and crow was them divebombed by around 7 blackbirds 😱 it was throwing the baby around in the air, it was awful. I stopped watching but I’m assuming it got away with the baby. Now I feel guilty - I could have gone out and stopped it but I didn’t - it’s nature isn’t it 😞 would you have intervened?

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crowscomingafterYOU · 26/04/2026 16:45

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Ileithyia · 26/04/2026 08:56

jellyfish798 · 20/04/2026 15:08

Never heard of this in nearly ten years living in a rural area. Farmers were much more concerned about unleashed dogs, thieves, and sinkholes on the sheep farm!

This is kinda true, if a sheep gets stuck on its back crows will eat its eyes. (But they don’t attack mobile, healthy sheep or lambs) It’s not malicious, the eyes are the softest easiest part to eat. I grew up on a farm and have seen it happen, I might check with my mum, but I have a vague memory of having a one-eyed ewe due to a crow.

I’ll probably get flamed, but foxes are far more destructive than crows, they’ll kill far more than they'll eat, decimating chickens, and killing small lambs, they are not the cute puppies that the media portrays them as. Farmers try to control fox populations for a reason, crows are only a risk to newly sown crops.

boatyardblues · 26/04/2026 08:49

Disturbia81 · 20/04/2026 09:53

For some reason I thought they only ate carrion, I love crows and never seen that side to them. But nature is nature

A jay emptied the great tit’s nest in our neighbour’s garden a couple of springs ago. I know because it stopped on the wall across from our kitchen window to rearrange its prey. It returned every 5-10 mins until it had emptied the nest. 😔

Ileithyia · 26/04/2026 08:45

AliceNotInChains · 20/04/2026 09:38

Just seen a crow attacking a black bird nest down our driveway, all the black birds where dive bombing it and it didn’t care, it managed to pull a baby bird out of the nest, crow and baby fell onto driveway and crow was them divebombed by around 7 blackbirds 😱 it was throwing the baby around in the air, it was awful. I stopped watching but I’m assuming it got away with the baby. Now I feel guilty - I could have gone out and stopped it but I didn’t - it’s nature isn’t it 😞 would you have intervened?

Crows are corvids, birds of prey similar to kestrels, falcons, owls etc. It’s brutal to see them steal baby birds from nests, but there would be no point intervening as the baby would die of shock (and probably internal injuries) even if you did manage to put it back in the nest. There’s also an element of Darwinism here, the nest was obviously not in a good spot, too accessible to the crow, so mummy blackbird needs to choose a different site next time. Sad, but as others have said, it’s nature, and baby crows need to eat too.

WarmLilacHiker · 22/04/2026 11:26

jellyfish798 · 20/04/2026 15:08

Never heard of this in nearly ten years living in a rural area. Farmers were much more concerned about unleashed dogs, thieves, and sinkholes on the sheep farm!

Maybe it's more a small rural area of Scotland issue ... We're not going to be worried about thieves or sinkholes!

politicsdomyheadin · 22/04/2026 07:31

You should’ve stepped in.

Doone22 · 22/04/2026 07:26

Hallamule · 21/04/2026 09:53

Corvids and song birds have coexisted for millenia. Its human impacts, particularly in forestry and agriculture, that have decimated songbirds.

You can hardly avoid human impacts without removing people from the planet - our entire countryside is a managed landscape - and has been since humans existed - if you take predator control out of the equation you remove the balance. You can of course leave everything to to return to the "wild" but such a thing doesn't really exist anymore and its the managed landscape has far greater biodiversity than any rewilding

tiptoptoemaytoe · 22/04/2026 03:09

Bloody hell- I had to google crow grudges 😱😱😱

AIBU to feel guilty for not stopping a crow?
AIBU to feel guilty for not stopping a crow?
Hallamule · 21/04/2026 09:53

Doone22 · 20/04/2026 21:15

Yes crows are relentless predators and their numbers largely uncontrolled these days thanks to Chris Packham's interference in general licensing. They and the rest of the corvid family are partly responsible for the decimation of song birds in the UK.
The rspb try to control them but fighting a losing battle.

Corvids and song birds have coexisted for millenia. Its human impacts, particularly in forestry and agriculture, that have decimated songbirds.

Lomonald · 21/04/2026 09:37

gannett · 20/04/2026 15:46

Some crows in Japan have been known to drop nuts with shells on roads so the traffic will crush the shells. The crows then fly down to retrieve the nuts. That's not all - some crows then started doing this at pedestrian crossings. They would drop the nuts when the light was red, then waited til the light was green (and the cars had stopped) to go down for the nuts.

Always help out a crow, or at least remain firmly in their side.

I think i saw this on a nature programme was about animals in cities, they are not daft.

We have crows on our drive this morning replacing the seagulls i wonder if they work in shifts 😀 they are not 1 bit bothered about the dog either.

CurlewKate · 21/04/2026 09:35

Generally, I think, hard though it is, it’s better to let predators get on with it. Once they’ve started it’s vanishingly unlikely that the prey will survive, so at least this way the young crows will get to eat.

Flannelfeet · 21/04/2026 09:27

Keroppi · 20/04/2026 09:44

No because crows can remember faces and spread this info on to their flock & even descendants (apparently) so it may then have had - and passed on - a grudge towards you 😆
Imagine being divebombed by crows every time you go out to your drive.
I've never heard of similar with blackbirds either

Jeezo had a vision of Alfred hitchcocks the birds 😬😬😬

pizzaHeart · 21/04/2026 09:27

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 20/04/2026 10:36

In situations like this I just ask myself "What would Attenborough do?"

What would he do?

Pudmyboy · 21/04/2026 09:21

Yesterday I saw a buzzard being 'bombed' by a seagull and a crow, working together to drive the buzzard away. Crows can be predators or prey too, and the poor buzzard chicks went hungry.

NettleTea · 21/04/2026 09:09

gannett · 20/04/2026 15:46

Some crows in Japan have been known to drop nuts with shells on roads so the traffic will crush the shells. The crows then fly down to retrieve the nuts. That's not all - some crows then started doing this at pedestrian crossings. They would drop the nuts when the light was red, then waited til the light was green (and the cars had stopped) to go down for the nuts.

Always help out a crow, or at least remain firmly in their side.

the crows in some part of Japan steal metal coat hangers from peoples washing lines and make their nests from them on pylons. they are far stronger and easier to bend into shape. They obviously line them with something soft, but they are exceedingly clever birds. I adore them, I like all the corvid family. I follow an amazing rescuer/ re wilder on FB called Nicholas Crawford - he doesnt allow them to be 'pets' even the ones who will never be able to be released, he is extremely passionate about allowing them to live as natural a life as possible.
https://www.youtube.com/@NickCrawford-s7f https://www.youtube.com/@NickCrawford-s7f]]]]

NettleTea · 21/04/2026 09:04

jellyfish798 · 20/04/2026 15:08

Never heard of this in nearly ten years living in a rural area. Farmers were much more concerned about unleashed dogs, thieves, and sinkholes on the sheep farm!

I think that it may be ravens not crows, but in some communities they just use the general 'crow' label for all the corvids.

RafaFan · 20/04/2026 21:26

jellyfish798 · 20/04/2026 15:08

Never heard of this in nearly ten years living in a rural area. Farmers were much more concerned about unleashed dogs, thieves, and sinkholes on the sheep farm!

Absolutely true, hooded crows are usually the culprits. Also some seagulls. They also peck out the tongues of newborn lambs. It maybe depends on the area, and if sheep are lambing outdoors. It's a big problem for flocks lambing outdoors in Scotland.

Doone22 · 20/04/2026 21:15

Yes crows are relentless predators and their numbers largely uncontrolled these days thanks to Chris Packham's interference in general licensing. They and the rest of the corvid family are partly responsible for the decimation of song birds in the UK.
The rspb try to control them but fighting a losing battle.

Nofeckingway · 20/04/2026 20:57

Stone the crows . 😱

Greenandyellowday · 20/04/2026 20:49

NettleTea · 20/04/2026 14:11

I got a magpie off my cat - who had obviously bitten off far more than it could handle, as was holding it by one paw as far away from itself as he could, and scared to let go. All the crows and magpies were bombing him.

The magpie was OK and REALLY pissed off, and from that day onwards the magpies have like me, but HATED that cat and used to scold him everytime he went outside.

they left his brother alone though.

Dont mess with the corvids, is all I will say

I've seen a dive-boming by different types of corvids together. A cat had taken (probably) a baby jackdaw. The rage was extraordinary. Every time the outrage and noise showed signs of dying down a little, one crow high in a tree would start shouting and egging them all on again. It lasted at least 20 minutes.

Greenandyellowday · 20/04/2026 20:39

SoScarletItWas · 20/04/2026 11:40

I would have sent it round to my sister’s house.

(Sorry, couldn’t resist.)

😂

Cantthinkofanewusernameffs · 20/04/2026 15:55

jellyfish798 · 20/04/2026 15:08

Never heard of this in nearly ten years living in a rural area. Farmers were much more concerned about unleashed dogs, thieves, and sinkholes on the sheep farm!

Our garden borders a farmer's field with sheep in. I've seen the crows attacking the new born lambs. I have hated crows ever since.
I know it's nature, but I still try to scare them off when I see them doing it.

Snowhailrainsun · 20/04/2026 15:53

CanIbeRio · 20/04/2026 15:37

Oh yes, nature is so cruel. Not too long ago I witnessed a sparrowhawk murder a blackbird in my garden - it was horrific. It was standing on the poor thing and plucking out its feathers while it was still alive 😪. The blackbird was squawking and making a horrific noise but was completely pinned down unable to move. I did try and shoe the sparrowhawk away - it did hop off the blackbird who was clearly half dead, then grabbed the poor thing and flew off with it in its claws. In hindsight I reflected and thought i shouldn't have intervened purely because it's probably best to let the prey be finished off quickly rather than be left to die slowly. It also probably sounds a bit shallow but I was glad I didn't have the messy aftermath to deal with in my garden

Don’t worry about any mess, leave it for a few hours and every last scrap will be gone, including the feathers. Nature is both resourceful and thrifty!

We have Red Kites aplenty here, and the only birds that will chase them around are the corvids. Incredible intelligent birds and yes they absolutely do hold a grudge and pass it down the generations. My kids always stop and give them a little bow if they are on the path, I always try and say hello! Sounds mad I know, but they really are remarkable.

It’s horrible to witness a bird attack, but best left alone. This is how nature works.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/04/2026 15:51

MedlarJelly · 20/04/2026 10:12

It knows you have been posting about it on mumsnet 😄

It had an account and has been posting

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