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Swinging and Sexual Health

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HealthySwinging · 19/04/2026 16:25

Name changed for this.

I've been involved in the swinging scene for a while now and regularly get sexual health kit checks free on the NHS. In my area, they only tell you if there is an issue with your test, rather than if you're 'all clear'.

A few months ago I contracted chlamydia after a meet - condom failure. Prior to the meet he said he'd been tested, that he was clean and showed me the text that he'd sent off for a test. However, there is nothing to say he took / returned the test or he was clear. I appreciate he could've contracted chlamydia after his test.

Obviously someone can delete a message that says there's an infection - to pretend they're ok, but would be unlikely to do that if the result was ok.

I've also realised that my positive chlamydia result and subsequent antibiotic treatment wasn't shared with my GP (the sexual health clinic deal with everything independently), so there is no tracking on my medical records either.

AIBU to think if you have a sexual health test on the NHS they should message the result, positive or negative?

(Note - this op isn't about whether the NHS should provide free checks for swingers..)

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HealthySwinging · 19/04/2026 16:41

BlueMum16 · 19/04/2026 16:37

Surely it should be on the NHS app. Like any other test results. It's your information, you're entitled to see it.

It doesn't appear to be... I suppose I could call the GP to see if they ever got it, but everything does appear to be managed separately by the health clinic. Not sure if that's to encourage people to use the service.

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BlueMum16 · 19/04/2026 16:37

Surely it should be on the NHS app. Like any other test results. It's your information, you're entitled to see it.

HealthySwinging · 19/04/2026 16:33

They only text the negative result / to say you've ordered a test in my area, so there's no other way to check. I can't make someone else pay for private test..

It feels a bit like 'silence means consent' - has the system worked, did the NHS get my test? You just don't know with no reply (this covers any result the NHS don't follow up on).

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BuffetTheDietSlayer · 19/04/2026 16:29

Waste of time to send one saying it’s negative. You could always pay privately though.

You really shouldn’t trust people showing you a text message with their results on though. It’s so easy to fake a text or letter using AI.

ScaryM0nster · 19/04/2026 16:28

It seems to be a general theme with all test results - only contacted if there’s an issue. Which leaves a gulf between silence meaning all fine and silence meaning sone breakdown in communication.

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