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Having ‘a cuppa’

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:49

Why does this sentence infuriate me so? I already know I’m probably being unreasonable but it’s so grating. I can’t be the only one?

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SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:52

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:39

Couldn't edit this - I meant Fish Supper.

DH insists this should come with a cuppa and sliced white bread.

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I was wondering what you were on about with “chip supper” right enough. But “fish supper” isn’t the only thing available from the chippy so isn’t the equivalent of saying “chippy tea”?

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:51

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 15:39

You have missed the point of the thread.

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Em I don’t think I have? It’s about annoying abbreviations of words, that people find twee or childish. “Individual pie” is just a description.

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 16:50

SALaw · 19/04/2026 15:18

But “fish and chips”, “sausage and chips” etc is a specific order? So “takeaway fish, sausage, scampi, haggis, pizza, black pudding, white pudding or pie and chips”?

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I don't understand why that's complicated.

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:49

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:33

I remember being really genuinely startled when I came to England that people had things other than fish and chips ( and deep fried Mars Bars) from a chip shop.

where did you come to England from?

mamaduckbone · 19/04/2026 16:38

My Dh loathes it…I try to remember this and not say it but sometimes it just slips out!🙊

henlake7 · 19/04/2026 16:37

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:53

Cuppa is not cutesified. It's existed for years. The cutesified stuff (like holibobs) comes largely from online trends.

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All that means is that we having been doing it for years!😄
I come from the SE and every night as a 'saucepan lid' was sent 'up the apples and pears to Bedfordshire!' so I feel like cutesifying is a pretty ingrained habit in this country.

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 16:28

cardibach · 19/04/2026 15:44

I do thanks. It’s about shortened, slang or dialect words which are annoying. Initially one specific one. The OP wondered whether she was unreasonable finding it infuriating. People said either yes or no and suggested other similar words. You suggested a perfectly useful standard English word and I said you were unreasonable to be infuriated by it because it was so obviously useful. Why so rude?

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Rude 😂

Pieceofpurplesky · 19/04/2026 16:24

I don't drink tea or coffee so it doubly pisses me off. See also 'fancy a brew'

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 16:19

Surely 'a tea' is to differentiate from appearing to offer someone food?

Auroraloves · 19/04/2026 16:12

I don’t mind it. There’s plenty that get on my nerves though

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 19/04/2026 16:08

PinoirNot · 19/04/2026 15:15

Yes!

I had to stop reading anything Martin Lewis wrote because of his infuriating way of shortening everything and chocs just makes me think of him. Choccy is even worse and it just makes people look so thick.

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My colleague calls a spreadsheet a “spready” and it makes me murderous.

Nodirectionhome · 19/04/2026 16:01

CurlewKate · 19/04/2026 11:01

Hate it. Also “a tea”.

Yes I hate "a tea". No idea why. "A coffee" is fine; but it has to be "a cuppa/cup of tea" or even "mug of tea".

BringBackCatsEyes · 19/04/2026 16:00

henlake7 · 19/04/2026 15:45

Do people still have cups of tea? I only ever see people drinking out of mugs, in which case wouldnt it be 'a mugga'!?🤔

I think its just a British thing though to shorten and 'cutesify' words and phrases. We really cant help it!😁

A mug is a type of cup.
when I think of a cuppa I think of a mug rather than a bone china cup and saucer.
Maybe we also need a potta (pot of tea).

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:59

ClaraThePigeon · 19/04/2026 15:56

Chip shops in my then area of Glasgow sold the items I mentioned back in the ‘90’s if that counts as recent. I’ll take your advice on the deep fried Mars Bars and continue to avoid them.

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It's for the best!

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:58

Does anyone else say margarine with a hard G? MarG a rin? My gran also did this and I'm not sure if this is a North East thing. Shortened to Marg.

ClaraThePigeon · 19/04/2026 15:56

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:51

Yes, I am! To be fair, I grew up in a dry district - so no pubs and no chip shops for miles. But if someone said they were going to a chip shop they were 'away for a Fish Supper.'

I think the burgers and stuff are quite new to chip shops, no?

There were also had a lot of Chinese Chippies on the south side of Glasgow (I wasn't south but my best friend was). That was just for chips.

I have indeed had a deep fried Mars Bar. Think they were invented on the Byres Road. Do Not Recommend.

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Chip shops in my then area of Glasgow sold the items I mentioned back in the ‘90’s if that counts as recent. I’ll take your advice on the deep fried Mars Bars and continue to avoid them.

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:53

henlake7 · 19/04/2026 15:45

Do people still have cups of tea? I only ever see people drinking out of mugs, in which case wouldnt it be 'a mugga'!?🤔

I think its just a British thing though to shorten and 'cutesify' words and phrases. We really cant help it!😁

Cuppa is not cutesified. It's existed for years. The cutesified stuff (like holibobs) comes largely from online trends.

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:51

ClaraThePigeon · 19/04/2026 15:45

I find that odd if you’re from Glasgow(Are you?). It’s very common to order black pudding, haggis, smoked sausage, cheeseburger, sausage etc. I’d find the Mars Bars stranger personally. Does anyone actually order those besides tourists?

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Yes, I am! To be fair, I grew up in a dry district - so no pubs and no chip shops for miles. But if someone said they were going to a chip shop they were 'away for a Fish Supper.'

I think the burgers and stuff are quite new to chip shops, no?

There were also had a lot of Chinese Chippies on the south side of Glasgow (I wasn't south but my best friend was). That was just for chips.

I have indeed had a deep fried Mars Bar. Think they were invented on the Byres Road. Do Not Recommend.

henlake7 · 19/04/2026 15:45

Do people still have cups of tea? I only ever see people drinking out of mugs, in which case wouldnt it be 'a mugga'!?🤔

I think its just a British thing though to shorten and 'cutesify' words and phrases. We really cant help it!😁

ClaraThePigeon · 19/04/2026 15:45

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:38

Because I had never seen or heard of anything other than fish and chips (and deep fried Mars Bar) in a chip shop! Probably battered sausage and haggis existed.

But still, in my head , if someone is going to a chippy they are getting fish and chips.

I find that odd if you’re from Glasgow(Are you?). It’s very common to order black pudding, haggis, smoked sausage, cheeseburger, sausage etc. I’d find the Mars Bars stranger personally. Does anyone actually order those besides tourists?

cardibach · 19/04/2026 15:44

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 15:40

Yes, if you understand the point of the thread.

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I do thanks. It’s about shortened, slang or dialect words which are annoying. Initially one specific one. The OP wondered whether she was unreasonable finding it infuriating. People said either yes or no and suggested other similar words. You suggested a perfectly useful standard English word and I said you were unreasonable to be infuriated by it because it was so obviously useful. Why so rude?

Hernameisdeborah · 19/04/2026 15:43

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:51

It’s right up there with ‘my hubby’.

I entirely agree on both words. ‘My hubby’ sounds so self satisfied and smug. Mind you, the person I know who uses this phrase is a very smug, self satisfied person anyway so that’s probably why I see it that way!

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 15:40

cardibach · 19/04/2026 15:01

The word was my point…if they don’t use the word I don’t know which it is. I was wondering why the word irritates you when it’s so useful. But you’ve said it’s irrational, so I guess that’s answered.

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Yes, if you understand the point of the thread.

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:39

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:30

Chip supper in Glasgow. Which is really confusing!

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Couldn't edit this - I meant Fish Supper.

DH insists this should come with a cuppa and sliced white bread.

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 15:39

SALaw · 19/04/2026 14:55

What word would you use? It’s surely just descriptive, which isn’t the same as “cuppa”, “hubby” etc?

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You have missed the point of the thread.

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