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Having ‘a cuppa’

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:49

Why does this sentence infuriate me so? I already know I’m probably being unreasonable but it’s so grating. I can’t be the only one?

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ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:29

BringBackCatsEyes · 19/04/2026 18:32

Not everywhere it's not. In many places tea is a meal.

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Yes, but those people are wrong, though. And they don't know it. You just have to take pity on them. 🤭

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:26

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:24

Yes! Thank God - someone else on the same page! It's the only linguistic tic that actually makes me want to commit murder!!!

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I’ve always hated it. I think you’re the first person I’ve come across who shares my pain.

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ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:25

piscofrisco · 19/04/2026 21:19

It’s my least favourite word if you can even call it a word. I can’t even look at it

"I can't even look at it." 🤣🤣🤣

I get that same feeling when I read someone who's written "loose" when they mean "lose." Gives me the rage, although it hasn't risen to murderous proportions - yet.

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:24

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:19

OMG, this! I bloody hate it when people say ‘baby’ without claiming it as their own or someone else’s. This is more annoying than at least a thousand cuppas.

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Yes! Thank God - someone else on the same page! It's the only linguistic tic that actually makes me want to commit murder!!!

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:23

ainsleysanob · 19/04/2026 14:42

Because it feels gross in my mouth when I say it and I hate the sound of the word when someone else says it!

🤢🤣

I just say ‘we’re going out tonight for something to eat’!

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🤣🤣🤣

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:21

ChocolateCinderToffee · 19/04/2026 13:43

It's slang and sort of precious. I also hate people who say they're having 'a wine', as though all wine were the same.

Top of the list though, is 'having a ciggie'. This grinds my gears because as a student I lived in a shared house and two of the other people were the only smokers and they chain-smoked every evening in the shared living room until the air was literally blue and it always started with one of them (who had a lisp) saying 'Thall we have a thiggie?'

I can hear her now, and she was unbelievably awful.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 "Thall we have a thiggie?"

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:19

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:17

Ooooh, the one that really gives me the red mist is all the baby books and articles that miss out the word the before baby. It's SO infantilising and twee. Just because a woman is having a baby doesn't mean we need to talk baby-talk to her.

"Put baby on the changing mat" and "When baby wakes up from a nap.." etc. It literally sounds like a book for toddlers.

I've seen it so much, and every fibre in my being wants to scream It's THE baby!!!! Nothing, but nothing language-wise has EVER irritated the crap out of me as much as this one. Not even close. I see it once and my blood starts boiling like Vesuvius before eruption. It just sounds so, so thick.

OMG, this! I bloody hate it when people say ‘baby’ without claiming it as their own or someone else’s. This is more annoying than at least a thousand cuppas.

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piscofrisco · 19/04/2026 21:19

It’s my least favourite word if you can even call it a word. I can’t even look at it

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:18

AccordingToWhom · 19/04/2026 21:14

Oh Christ....

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Haha, that's actually quite funny!

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:17

Ooooh, the one that really gives me the red mist is all the baby books and articles that miss out the word the before baby. It's SO infantilising and twee. Just because a woman is having a baby doesn't mean we need to talk baby-talk to her.

"Put baby on the changing mat" and "When baby wakes up from a nap.." etc. It literally sounds like a book for toddlers.

I've seen it so much, and every fibre in my being wants to scream It's THE baby!!!! Nothing, but nothing language-wise has EVER irritated the crap out of me as much as this one. Not even close. I see it once and my blood starts boiling like Vesuvius before eruption. It just sounds so, so thick.

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:17

Also, all that tea makes your mouth taste weird.

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AccordingToWhom · 19/04/2026 21:14

MadamRaz · 19/04/2026 19:52

A friend of mine calls it a mugga. "Popping in for a mugga?"

Oh Christ....

AccordingToWhom · 19/04/2026 21:12

I hate it.

'Brew' is even worse though.

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 21:11

HaveACuppaBrew · 19/04/2026 21:10

Also love a Cocky T 🍹

Now you’re just taking the piss

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ButterYellowHair · 19/04/2026 21:10

Cuppa and cup of sound identical in my accent so it’s never bothered me

HaveACuppaBrew · 19/04/2026 21:10

Also love a Cocky T 🍹

ruethewhirl · 19/04/2026 21:10

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 19/04/2026 19:28

No.

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So why say tea isn't a meal if you're perfectly aware that many people do use 'tea' to describe a meal? 🤔

HaveACuppaBrew · 19/04/2026 21:09

Love Cuppa and Brew.
Also love Sainsbos, Mozzas, Tezzers and
The Asda.

Hate Tommy K, Hot Choc, Nuggs, Yorkies (for the dog breed or the pudding) Landy (Land Rover),
Runners (for trainers).

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 21:08

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 14:22

With bags of lettuce, tomatoes and lashings of ginger beer?

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🤣 Yes, and with Timmy wanting to be fed scraps from the table!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 19/04/2026 21:02

BananaPeels · 19/04/2026 20:08

Yeah my family are from there but they are southern! North starts about Sheffield.

i feel this is a whole other topic!

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I actually like being a Midlander, if for no other reason than we get to avoid the north/south bollocks

CurdinHenry · 19/04/2026 20:49

ConnieHeart · 19/04/2026 11:19

Doesn't bother me. I use the term for any hot drink really. If I offer someone a cuppa I don't necessarily mean tea. I'm just offering them a cup of something. Their choice. If I'm asking OH if he wants a tea, I'll ask him exactly that as he doesn't drink any other hot drink

I mean everyone wants wine instead

SALaw · 19/04/2026 20:44

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 18:30

"Takeaway fish and chips" means fish and chips, or anything else available in the fish and chip shop, surely.

Or would you say "You can't have sausage and chips, because although the fish and chip shop sells sausages you can only have fish and chips unless I list every item on the menu when describing the kind of takeaway you can buy in a fish and chip shop".

"Takeaway fish and chips" works very well in our family, because everyone knows exactly what's available in the fish and chip shop.

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No clearly I wouldn’t say that because I would say “chippy tea” which is a better description than “takeaway fish and chips” for those not ordering fish and chips from said takeaway establishment.

TheDelcosArabiaNSoul · 19/04/2026 20:37

If yir making it ma quine..is there a funcy piece.

Toottooot · 19/04/2026 20:32

Prefer wee cuppy. Onybidy funcy a wee cuppy?

springintospring26 · 19/04/2026 20:30

'A wine' is vomit inducing as are 'Come round for some wines'
It's a bloody glass of wine you philistine

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