AIBU to regret handing in cash found in a wallet?

Shhh you did the right thing - try to forget it now.

Or their mother's - to do the right thing even when it's hard. A lot of us frail mortals have to grit our teeth to do the right thing sometimes.

The owner of that cash may be worse off than you. Stealing is never good, yuck yuck. Be pleased you husband is a decent bloke.

I left an iPhone on a train recentlly. Some kind dole handed it in and I got it back.

why would you steal from someone?

The owner can describe the wallet to the lost property department and claim ownership. He will also know how much money was in it.

I lost a make up bag on a bus 30 years ago and it was at the depot the next day for me to collect. I described the bag and its contents to claim it. Not having ID in a lost item won't prevent the owner claiming it.

you will get good karma op
Not so sure since OP did it under duress and regrets it!

It is alien to me to think how you are OP. Such selfish attitude to misfortune.

Losing the purse is bad enough but to have an emptied purse returned to you is just awful.

Honestly OP I can’t believe you still regret handing it in. Yes maybe it will never get collected and you won’t get the money, but that’s a small price to pay compared to being a thief. Wouldn’t you feel ashamed in front of your more honest dh when you spent the money?

So you’re regretting not being a thief? If you have children, I hope they will be brought up to follow and respect your husband's principles.

Imagine you had lost the money and went back to find out someone had handed it in?
I lost my purse once in a cafe out shopping for the sales back in the day when I carried more cash.
A teenage boy found it, handed it in and the owner took his parents’ details.
I went in the next day and it was returned to me. Sent the very honest lad a note (via his parents) with a reward in.
Keeping and spending some else’s money is really, really shit.

If Id found the wallet I would also have counted the money because Id want the amount in it exactly recorded when I handed it in.

This. I left my handbag with a months wages in cash (and heaps of other stuff besides) in a trolley in a supermarket in Neath. I had a call from the help desk to say it had been handed in and all was intact. I sent a bunch of flowers to the hander innerer.

That was 35 years ago and I am still grateful. Still have the handbag. Still think about how kind that person was.

Imagine you had taken the money. Would you not now be sat at home, worrying that the owner realised they had left it on the train, the CCTV got checked, and you were seen taking it? At least you have a clear conscience, and don't need to worry about the police turning up at your door.

But if you found an actual wallet with cash in would you remove the cash? Finding some loose notes in a random place is somewhat different as pretty difficult to trace back to rightful owner.

Maybe use a different word, rather than loser, when you tell those stories! Loser is very different in meaning from owner or person who lost.

If you has lost your wallet with a large amount of money in it, wouldn’t you hope someone would hand it in?

You did the right thing. If you’d handed it into the police station you would get it back if no one claimed it.

Everyone, put your phone number in your wallet/purse now!

DS found a purse left on a park bench last summer when he was 6. Not much value to it, maybe £20 cash, but would have been a pain to replace her union card, library card, Tesco club card etc. we left a note there and then rummaged through trying to find a way to contact her. Trade union worked in the end. I didn’t think the loser was particularly grateful given the effort expended.

I also found an iPhone and was able to get it back to the loser. That just required 5 mins of hanging around.

I once left my handbag on the night bus in Stoke Newington with my watch, my phone, my purse with all my cards, and my wages (the days when you had wages in a physical packet) which were £250, roughly.
Called my phone when I got up in the morning and it was answered by someone at the police station because everything had been handed in, money, watch, everything.

Np matter how broke I am I have a roof over my head and food in my belly. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if I took someone else's money. What if they have a child and have to feed their child with that money? My friend once lost a wallet with all the money for first months of rent and the deposit. She never got it back. She was an immigrant, worked hard to save those money (months) in a factory and she had to stay in one nasty room infested with bugs for another few months. She also lost her id's and bank cards. Nobody gave it back.
My heart broke for her but I couldn't help her as I was a poor immigrant myself. People are nasty.

Because she’s judging by her own low standards.

If I lost a wallet with that amount of money in I would be devastated to be handed back an empty wallet, and my opinion of the lowlife who took it would be in the gutter. You say you need it so what makes you think the owner doesn’t?

You know theft is wrong
You handed it in because theft is wrong
Don't think about it anymore.

Stick the old knife in? How is that going to work for your karma? @Zov

@Finderskeeepers well done for doing the right thing.

Mumsnet does seem to love a pile on....

Only because your husband made you!
You'd have stolen it if he hadn't have been there!

I lost my wallet once. It contained a substantial amount of cash. The wallet and my cards were handed in. Some cunt had stolen the cash. Cash I needed to pay a bill. I was a struggling single parent at the time. It still makes me sick thinking about it all these years later. Don’t be that cunt!

I don’t understand why you don’t think the person who lost the money won’t contact the train company?

Or are you accusing the train staff of dishonesty?