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AIBU to regret handing in cash found in a wallet?

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Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 09:02

Found a wallet with £200 cash in it on a train. DH made me hand the wallet and cash in at the train station. I’m so annoyed - yes it was the right thing to do but we’re struggling financially and there’s no way that cash is making its way back to the owner. I shouldn’t have told him and should have just kept it.

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Wynter25 · 19/04/2026 11:15

Meant to click yabu

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Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 11:15

Bye @Zov, it was nice having you round for a bit. Keep an eye on your blood pressure.

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Whoops75 · 19/04/2026 11:15

CCTV would have seen everything
You did the right thing.

Witchonenowbob · 19/04/2026 11:15

Zov · 19/04/2026 10:47

Exactly what I said. The OP isn't getting any good karma anytime soon, because her husband made her hand it in. SHE wanted to keep the money.

The best she can hope for is no bad karma!

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Like karma exists 🤣🤣🤣🤣

DesolatedCheese · 19/04/2026 11:14

At the start of my granddad's memory loss, he casually left £300 in cash on top of a washing machine in a launderette and went off to the supermarket. When he got back for the washing later, a student had found it and was waiting for it's owner to return for it. I'm sure that young lad could have made very good use of it and it would have been absolutely untraceable; his choice made my grandpa feel much better in that moment of feeling a forgetful old eejit. He'd felt so weak and stupid when he realised what he'd done, that lad gave him back a little bit of himself along with the cash. He spoke about it a lot after. It's always worth not being a thief.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/04/2026 11:14

Mymanyellow · 19/04/2026 11:13

I don’t believe in karma. I would have kept it. 🤷‍♀️

It’s not relevent whether or not you believe in karma, it’s still theft.

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Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 11:13

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/04/2026 11:07

You literally took the wallet home with you? To where he was?

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Yes, I was experiencing a moral dilemma and wasn’t sure handing it in to the ticket office was the right thing to do anyway given the amount of cash in the wallet. And my bus was waiting and I wasn’t about to miss it.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/04/2026 11:13

Zov · 19/04/2026 11:11

So, you're saying that before your husband MADE you hand the wallet with the £200 in, he thought about ways of keeping the £200 (of someone else's money!) ... Even though he is an ex copper. (You said this on a previous post on here that he's an ex copper.) An ex copper would KNOW you don't just keep a wallet full of money that you have found! In fact, the vast majority of people know this!

You asked on AIBU, so you KNOW (deep down) on every level that you're in the wrong. Why are you doubling down? EVERYONE on here (almost) is telling you you're being unreasonable, to even think about keeping the money.

You started off by saying your husband MADE you hand it in, and then said later in the thread that he tried to think of some ways to keep it. What ways? What was in this brainstorm he had, what ideas did he have to 'keep the cash' and then go on to decide he is making you hand it in. And all this when he wasn't even with you?

I'm done on this thread now. I can't keep up with you.

YABU definitely though. And you know it. That's why you're so defensive. And you only did the 'right thing' because your husband made you.

94% of around 750 posters so far are saying you are wrong and YABU. Accept this and move on, and stop making excuses.

As I said, I'm done now.

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The OP said very clearly ‘obviously IABVU’ - she isn’t denying she’s being unreasonable.

OneNewLeader · 19/04/2026 11:13

You did the right thing.

toomuchfaff · 19/04/2026 11:13

you should have tried to find the owner rather than handing it in.

Mymanyellow · 19/04/2026 11:13

I don’t believe in karma. I would have kept it. 🤷‍♀️

jalepenowine · 19/04/2026 11:13

You did the right thing and it may well make its way back to the rightful owner. Fingers crossed it does, as you don’t know the situation of the person that has lost it.

I remember once when I was younger and in a nightclub I found a purse on the back of the toilet and inside it was about £60. After a few drinks my logic was that if I put it back where I found it the person would go back in to find it. I was washing my hands and touching up my make up when another girl ran out to her group shouting that shots were on her as she’d found money in the loo! I didn’t confront them but felt so bad that I didn’t take the money and hand it to the bar or something.

JoWawa · 19/04/2026 11:12

Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 09:02

Found a wallet with £200 cash in it on a train. DH made me hand the wallet and cash in at the train station. I’m so annoyed - yes it was the right thing to do but we’re struggling financially and there’s no way that cash is making its way back to the owner. I shouldn’t have told him and should have just kept it.

There is a criminal offence called theft by finding. You did the right moral thing, don't regret it.

Gamerlady · 19/04/2026 11:12

Youre not a decent person wanting to steal someone's wallet. Your husband is a better person than you! You've given me the ick!

Zov · 19/04/2026 11:11

Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 10:56

Maybe, who knows? I told DH about it knowing his stance. In my OP I said “DH made me hand it in”, but he didn’t frogmarch me to hand it in as someone else suggested and I suppose that’s how one might interpret being made to do something - but can a grown man make 40 year old heffer sized me do something I don’t want to do?

Anyway, how does karma actually work? Does it rely on people being perfectly pure? Maybe DH won’t get any good karma because he thought about ways of keeping it before saying I should hand it in. Maybe I won’t get any good karma because actually handing it in cancelled out wanting to keep it. Or maybe I will get good karma because actions speak louder than wants and thoughts.

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So, you're saying that before your husband MADE you hand the wallet with the £200 in, he thought about ways of keeping the £200 (of someone else's money!) ... Even though he is an ex copper. (You said this on a previous post on here that he's an ex copper.) An ex copper would KNOW you don't just keep a wallet full of money that you have found! In fact, the vast majority of people know this!

You asked on AIBU, so you KNOW (deep down) on every level that you're in the wrong. Why are you doubling down? EVERYONE on here (almost) is telling you you're being unreasonable, to even think about keeping the money.

You started off by saying your husband MADE you hand it in, and then said later in the thread that he tried to think of some ways to keep it. What ways? What was in this brainstorm he had, what ideas did he have to 'keep the cash' and then go on to decide he is making you hand it in. And all this when he wasn't even with you?

I'm done on this thread now. I can't keep up with you.

YABU definitely though. And you know it. That's why you're so defensive. And you only did the 'right thing' because your husband made you.

94% of around 750 posters so far are saying you are wrong and YABU. Accept this and move on, and stop making excuses.

As I said, I'm done now.

.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/04/2026 11:09

Womanofcustard · 19/04/2026 11:07

I’ve twice found cash (notes) lying in the street, nobody around.
i donated it to charity. I would of course have handed in a wallet/purse to the police.

Donating them to charity rather than giving them a chance to get them back to their owner isn’t really better than outright theft.

Ella31 · 19/04/2026 11:08

You'd be amazed at how things do get back to owners. It only takes one honest person to make an effort. Thank god, your husband was that person. So there is a chance. That 200 could be someones food or rent money.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/04/2026 11:07

Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 11:07

He wasn’t there …

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You literally took the wallet home with you? To where he was?

Womanofcustard · 19/04/2026 11:07

I’ve twice found cash (notes) lying in the street, nobody around.
i donated it to charity. I would of course have handed in a wallet/purse to the police.

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Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 11:07

RightOnTheEdge · 19/04/2026 09:55

Only because your husband made you!
You'd have stolen it if he hadn't have been there!

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He wasn’t there …

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PracticalPolicy · 19/04/2026 11:01

Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 10:56

Maybe, who knows? I told DH about it knowing his stance. In my OP I said “DH made me hand it in”, but he didn’t frogmarch me to hand it in as someone else suggested and I suppose that’s how one might interpret being made to do something - but can a grown man make 40 year old heffer sized me do something I don’t want to do?

Anyway, how does karma actually work? Does it rely on people being perfectly pure? Maybe DH won’t get any good karma because he thought about ways of keeping it before saying I should hand it in. Maybe I won’t get any good karma because actually handing it in cancelled out wanting to keep it. Or maybe I will get good karma because actions speak louder than wants and thoughts.

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Karma is not a thing.

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Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 11:00

Obviously IABVU - I know I am, hence posting. But by equal measure I don’t think I’m morally bankrupt for feeling how I do after actually doing the right thing!

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HeyThereDelila · 19/04/2026 10:56

YABVU. That would be stealing. How do you know the money didn’t belong to someone elderly who needed it?

You should always hand it in; it’s not yours.

If you’re worried it won’t make it back to the owner then tell the police as well so they can log it.

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Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 10:56

Zov · 19/04/2026 10:47

Exactly what I said. The OP isn't getting any good karma anytime soon, because her husband made her hand it in. SHE wanted to keep the money.

The best she can hope for is no bad karma!

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Maybe, who knows? I told DH about it knowing his stance. In my OP I said “DH made me hand it in”, but he didn’t frogmarch me to hand it in as someone else suggested and I suppose that’s how one might interpret being made to do something - but can a grown man make 40 year old heffer sized me do something I don’t want to do?

Anyway, how does karma actually work? Does it rely on people being perfectly pure? Maybe DH won’t get any good karma because he thought about ways of keeping it before saying I should hand it in. Maybe I won’t get any good karma because actually handing it in cancelled out wanting to keep it. Or maybe I will get good karma because actions speak louder than wants and thoughts.

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BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 10:51

Finderskeeepers · 19/04/2026 10:47

This is exactly where my mind goes. I then imagine being caught in the middle of a gang war and regretting keeping the money!

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Every time you regret handing it in imagine it belonged to a gangster and their mission was to find you.