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What are your thoughts on homemade clothes?

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ClothingDilemma · 18/04/2026 19:59

My mum has recently retired and taken up sewing. She’s absolutely brilliant at it and we’ve come to an agreement that if I pick patterns, she’ll buy them (as she can reuse them) and I will buy the fabric for her to make the clothes for me.

I am really keen as it seems such a sustainable and fabulous idea. Clothes that are made to measure (so they’re more flattering) and no waste or fast fashion. It also works out to be a lot cheaper than purchasing at a high street store!

My partner, however, thinks it’s a stupid idea and I’ll just look silly.

YABU - it’s a bad idea.

YANBU - it’s a fabulous idea

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mcmuffin22 · 18/04/2026 20:38

ClothingDilemma · 18/04/2026 20:02

It’s all very normal. Cotton trousers, linen dresses, some skirts. Very much what I’d normally wear. He thinks that if someone asks where it’s from, saying “my mum made it” sounds childish.

I tgink he is being ridiculous. Everyone will be impressed and a bit envious that you get made to measure clothes!

Chewbecca · 18/04/2026 20:31

Plus the cost of the pattern

Thechaseison71 · 18/04/2026 20:31

I would really really love to be able to make clothes. Unfortunately most of my sewing efforts resulted in the un picker or sewing machine needles through my fingers.

ClothingDilemma · 18/04/2026 20:31

Chewbecca · 18/04/2026 20:28

It also works out to be a lot cheaper than purchasing at a high street store!

Have you checked this point out? I find dressmaking really expensive!

But it's very satisfying to choose a perfect pattern & fabric combination, I agree and I bet your mum is really enjoying it too.

Patterns are about £3 on Etsy, and we’ve got a few cheap fabric stores nearby. She also uses a lot of cheap online fabric stores

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henlake7 · 18/04/2026 20:30

I'm quite jealous as well! Nothing wrong with handmade clothes, esp if the person knows what they are doing. And TBF things like handmade, recycled, thrifted clothes are very popular right now.
I would also be proud to tell people my clothes were made by my fabulously talented mother!😄

outerspacepotato · 18/04/2026 20:28

I grew up with a lot of creative design types and we all sewed and made and remade clothes for ourselves and ou friends. Something I make is going to be of a nice fabric, and the fit and make will be better than store bought. Because of fabric quality and technique, my handmades tend to last better than store bought. I also knit my winter sweaters and hats and socks and spin some of the yarn. No sweatshop labour involved.

My mom used to make gorgeous bed and pillow covers and sell them. My MIL did couture embroidery.

Your husband should educate himself how modern mass produced clothing is made before he makes pronouncements like that.

Chewbecca · 18/04/2026 20:28

It also works out to be a lot cheaper than purchasing at a high street store!

Have you checked this point out? I find dressmaking really expensive!

But it's very satisfying to choose a perfect pattern & fabric combination, I agree and I bet your mum is really enjoying it too.

Fairyliz · 18/04/2026 20:26

Blimey I’m jealous I would love someone to make something to my exact measurements instead of something being not quite right.
Your DH is nuts!

justasking111 · 18/04/2026 20:25

My friends clothes are amazing. She bought a tailors dummy and makes incredible outfits that fit perfectly. I made my own maternity clothes because we didn't have anywhere locally back in 1980.

AnotherName2025 · 18/04/2026 20:25

ClothingDilemma · 18/04/2026 20:02

It’s all very normal. Cotton trousers, linen dresses, some skirts. Very much what I’d normally wear. He thinks that if someone asks where it’s from, saying “my mum made it” sounds childish.

He's an idiot. Is he always this ridiculous!

SarahAndQuack · 18/04/2026 20:25

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/04/2026 20:22

It is definitely cheaper than buying quality clothes. I don't count the time making them as I don’t charge myself by the hour.

The one exception is jeans as it can difficult to source good denim. I have made jeans successfully but jeans from e.g. Sainsbury's are about £20.

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Well, yes, obviously if you don't count the cost of time it's cheaper! It's even cheaper if you don't count the cost of fabric, which is my bad habit - I have so much stored up that when I use any I feel really good for stash-busting, but it did actually cost money once upon a time. Grin

Thechaseison71 · 18/04/2026 20:23

ClothingDilemma · 18/04/2026 20:02

It’s all very normal. Cotton trousers, linen dresses, some skirts. Very much what I’d normally wear. He thinks that if someone asks where it’s from, saying “my mum made it” sounds childish.

I had it custom made. Doesn't sound silly at all

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/04/2026 20:22

SarahAndQuack · 18/04/2026 20:19

I don't imagine for a moment it's cheaper, even if you have cheap fabrics, because it takes time. But it's absolutely lovely. You can do really lovely details on home-made clothes, too. I know a few people who make clothes for themselves and it's just a gorgeous thing to do. I don't have the skill but when DD was a toddler I made her dresses (toddlers are very easy to fit, being straight up-and-down, and you don't need the fabric), and I still love seeing pictures of her in them.

It is definitely cheaper than buying quality clothes. I don't count the time making them as I don’t charge myself by the hour.

The one exception is jeans as it can difficult to source good denim. I have made jeans successfully but jeans from e.g. Sainsbury's are about £20.

sesquipedalian · 18/04/2026 20:22

OP, the best thing about home-made clothes is that you can buy nice material to make them with - and know that no-one else will be wearing your dress/blouse/ trousers or whatever. They’ll also fit you - if you’re making your own clothes, you can alter them however you want.

Delphinium20 · 18/04/2026 20:20

I hated sewing when I was young, OP, but then I took it up again in my 30s and learned to love it. It's really good for your brain as you age!!

SarahAndQuack · 18/04/2026 20:19

I don't imagine for a moment it's cheaper, even if you have cheap fabrics, because it takes time. But it's absolutely lovely. You can do really lovely details on home-made clothes, too. I know a few people who make clothes for themselves and it's just a gorgeous thing to do. I don't have the skill but when DD was a toddler I made her dresses (toddlers are very easy to fit, being straight up-and-down, and you don't need the fabric), and I still love seeing pictures of her in them.

ClothingDilemma · 18/04/2026 20:19

Delphinium20 · 18/04/2026 20:16

The best summer of my life was the one where I taught my teen DDs to sew and we fitted, with lots of effort, a dress for my youngest DD which matched her shape perfectly. She has a much smaller chest and waist but larger shoulders and dresses would gape in the front, but this one was exceptional because we built it to suit her. My oldest DD got to use some vintage 70s ribbon on a peasant top- it was so cool, like something to wear at Coachella. We used math (which scares me) successfully too! Honestly, those months spent in fabric stores and our dining room, with everything spread across the table, were some of the happiest days I have spent with my DDs. There's something special about sharing a craft, teaching it, and creating a usable garment. I'm thrilled they know how to sew now. What a waste and exploitation is the clothing industry - fast fashion is not only awful for workers but for the environment.

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I’m really keen to learn but where my mum is a wizard I’m sort of a goblin in the corner. I’m awful at crafting

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Delphinium20 · 18/04/2026 20:16

The best summer of my life was the one where I taught my teen DDs to sew and we fitted, with lots of effort, a dress for my youngest DD which matched her shape perfectly. She has a much smaller chest and waist but larger shoulders and dresses would gape in the front, but this one was exceptional because we built it to suit her. My oldest DD got to use some vintage 70s ribbon on a peasant top- it was so cool, like something to wear at Coachella. We used math (which scares me) successfully too! Honestly, those months spent in fabric stores and our dining room, with everything spread across the table, were some of the happiest days I have spent with my DDs. There's something special about sharing a craft, teaching it, and creating a usable garment. I'm thrilled they know how to sew now. What a waste and exploitation is the clothing industry - fast fashion is not only awful for workers but for the environment.

ClothingDilemma · 18/04/2026 20:13

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/04/2026 20:11

I make nearly all my own clothes and buy the fabric from a shop selling dead stock or market stalls. It definitely works out cheaper for me. I use the off cuts for craft projects which makes it more sustainable.

I don’t look silly but people sometimes ask where I get my clothes from and are impressed that I've made them. Don't say 'My Mum made my clothes', say 'they are hand made'.

I’ve found some gorgeous striped cotton, £5.50 a meter. She needs 2.5 to make a pair of trousers (it’s very handy that we are the same size so she knows for me), so it’s less than £18. The same trousers in M&S would be £28, so it’s a tenner saved!

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XenoBitch · 18/04/2026 20:13

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/04/2026 20:11

I make nearly all my own clothes and buy the fabric from a shop selling dead stock or market stalls. It definitely works out cheaper for me. I use the off cuts for craft projects which makes it more sustainable.

I don’t look silly but people sometimes ask where I get my clothes from and are impressed that I've made them. Don't say 'My Mum made my clothes', say 'they are hand made'.

Or, 'oh, it was from a very small and exclusive label, and is one of kind' Smile

ChaToilLeam · 18/04/2026 20:13

Your DP is VBU! Well made garments always look better and last longer, and if made to fit you, will look so stylish! I make a lot of my own clothes and wear them all the time, as well as home furnishings such as cushions, seat covers and tablecloths. It's not a cheap hobby though - good fabric is expensive. I look for sales and discounts and people getting rid of fabric they bought but never used. I'm very short so have been sewing and altering garments all my life.

ThatFairy · 18/04/2026 20:13

If your mum's really good at it I don't think you will look silly. I wish I could sew as I am tall with long arms and legs and struggle to find clothes that fit well. It's also hard to find just basic classic dresses with a nice cut that aren't either too short or too long

GardenCovent · 18/04/2026 20:13

I can’t comment on it being cheaper or more sustainable as I have never done it, because I don’t have the skill not because I wouldn’t but your husband sounds the childish one.
Id imagine if you told someone your mum made your outfit the only reaction they’d have is to be impressed

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/04/2026 20:11

I make nearly all my own clothes and buy the fabric from a shop selling dead stock or market stalls. It definitely works out cheaper for me. I use the off cuts for craft projects which makes it more sustainable.

I don’t look silly but people sometimes ask where I get my clothes from and are impressed that I've made them. Don't say 'My Mum made my clothes', say 'they are hand made'.

ClothingDilemma · 18/04/2026 20:10

TonTonMacoute · 18/04/2026 20:09

If your mum is good at sewing then there is no way you will look 'silly' wearing home made clothes that she has made to fit you.

I would say that, as someone who has made their own clothes for many decades now, it is not cheaper to make your own clothes any more. Fabric is bloody expensive! If you know somewhere to get reasonably priced fabric please share.

Check out pound fabrics! That seems to be where she gets most of it, lots on there for £1-£2 a metre.

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