To ponder legal action for being slapped on the arse

Apologies, I didn’t read all posts.

If he’s done it before he will do it again so I would report to the police. Not because I think they would actually do anything worthwhile but maybe they would visit him in his home and speak to him. Maybe that would make him realise he can’t do it again?
I would also maybe think of some way of publicising it too, either on social media or in some other way. Shame him in to realising it’s unacceptable

I cant believe what I'm reading in this thread . Mysogony inside the house

Read all the posts. He's done it before and will almost certainly do it again.

Also why is a slap on the bottom seen as predominantly humour rather than violent? If he slapped her on the hand because she went to take the last coffee cup, or on the face because she said something he didn’t like, or on the legs because she stepped over near him, would that all be fine and just need a gentle ticking off from HR?

I definitely don’t think it was right what he’s done and I can totally see why this has upset you immensely. I would feel exactly the same, although I might have head butted him. However, I really don’t see what would be gained from taking it further and potentially ruining his life over what was a dreadful error of judgement on his behalf. He has apologised and will now probably think twice before ever doing something similar again.

Its horrendous to see "a slap on the bottom " written down in this minimising way i felt sick reading it. Shameful when the mysogony is coming from inside th house

Ffs

From someone who’s very chilled out and think most of what is on here is tosh…you are absolutely NOT overreacting. Best wishes OP

How many of the posters on this thread who are baying for the man’s blood would feel the same if it had been a woman who had slapped the OP’s bum? Or is the hatred only reserved for men, as is usually the case on Mumsnet?

Gosh how times have changed as a student in the 90s I was grabbed between the legs whilst at a bus stop by a man in a balaclava ,also in my twenties had the same by a drunk man in a pub I chased the first guy down the road and slapped the other round the face . No police involvement . If this happened in a work place I think if would be a hr matter not the police . Yes it was wrong but it was a slap on rthe bum I wouldn’t involve the police god that if the guy is genuinely remorseful and has been repremanded what are you going to gain from contacting the police the stress of a legal case and he’ll probably get a slap in the wrist

Who slaps someone's arse at a funeral?

YANBU op, terrible behaviour.

@BootMaker "A slap on the arse is not ok, but, jeysus, if that's the worst thing that's ever happened to you, you're doing OK."

Would you say the same about a slap on the face? Would you tell your daughter to get over herself if some bloke had done this to her. And if so, where do you draw the line with physical assault and humiliation?

Calling someone silly for calling out your minimisation of sexual assault says a lot about you. Police involvement is the correct way of dealing with a repeat sexual offender. Sexual assault is not an attempt at very badly judged humour. What the hell is wrong with you? And it's interesting that you say flashing is "undoubtedly sexual violations" as a lot of people would actually see that as either funny or a bad attempt at being funny. Your entire post is about minimising this assault and any reasonable person can see that.

I am sorry this happened to you. You ste not over reacting. Shame on every one of you minimising this. It's terrifying when the mysogony is coming from inside the house.

So why didn’t he slap another man’s bottom? If it’s entirely non sexual and just clumsy humour?

Do men go around slapping other men's bums?

Why don't they? Why didn't they in the past?

Of course he does deserve to lose his job.

I wouldn't waste my time with legal action. I'd report the assault to his employer and to the police. It needs to be recorded if there's to be any chance of stopping him assaulting a woman again.

The reason it's being minimised is that some of us see that the guy could just have been trying to be funny.
An attempt at being humorous.

OK it's very ill-judged humour for sure.

A slap on the face, on the other hand, would never be seen as an attempt at humour. Never.

I'm unprepared to call a man a sexual predator on the basis of this.
A Neanderthal stuck in the 70s who doesn't realise this style of humour has gone, perhaps.

In any case, does any serious sexual predator slap someone's bottom in the circumstances OP describes?
Drawing attention to himself? Seems unlikely.

I'm not making excuses for him. He should be reprimanded for professional misconduct and upsetting OP at least.
Oh yes.

Mimimising the 'smacked bum' is absolutely shocking .

Cannot believe the apologists and minimsers on this thread.

Maybe to do with thread title? Replaced slapped arse with slapped face, slapped head, slapped thigh? It's disgraceful, illegal behaviour. No, we don't put up with it and no one ever should.

I can’t believe the posters minimising this assault. Women need to report any type of violence to the police.

There’s one force in England who are currently using female officers who go running with back up. They are warning men against behaviours such as hooting their car horns, shouting, wolf whistling etc.

@IneedAniffler was actually assaulted. This needs to be taken very seriously with appropriate action from the police. In your shoes @IneedAniffler , I would want officers to go to his home, interview him and give him a warning.

Are you joking ? If I was running a workplace I absolutely would not want a man like that on my team. He’s a liability. And he only has himself to blame

Of course he doesn’t deserve to lose his job. It was the wrong thing to do but it was a smack on the bum and the sort of thing that women have been dealing with themselves for years and years. .

I agree that slapping someone on the bum would warrant a slap on the face and causing a scene. Oh yes.
Grabbing someone's breast though I would very much regard that as sexual assault and go to the police.

To me, the former could reasonably be seen as a badly judged attempt at humour, the latter most definitely not.
It is blatantly sexual assault.

I agree with the rest of your post.