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DH Girls night joke

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vespersjack · 17/04/2026 20:05

I need to know if I’m overreacting here please.

i went out with the girls for the first time since pregnancy and having my 7 month old. Was really nervous about it but had a fun time and didn’t come back too disorderly. The plan was for DH to have baby through the night as I would have had a few drinks. I’ve been doing the nights exclusively for months.

i had the baby like normal today, and then DH wanted to take baby out around 4pm as he hadn’t seen him much this week. I took the opportunity to have a nap which ended up being an hour and half.

when I woke up DH made a ‘joke’ along the lines of ‘can you imagine if I went on a night out and had a nap the next day’

its really bothered me as it’s the first time I’ve asked for a chance to let loose and have a bit of extra support as I inevitably was going to have a bit of a hangover. I’ve said it’s upset me and I’ve taken myself off to have a bath, and now he’s getting shirty with me, saying I’m being over the top and it was a joke. To me it feels like a dig. He’s stormed off.

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vespersjack · 17/04/2026 20:10

Sorry I meant my ‘girlfriends’ - adult women

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 17/04/2026 20:09

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vespersjack · 17/04/2026 20:09

He’s maybe done 5 individual feeds in 7 months (breastfeeding but now baby does take bottle)

last night baby was screaming for the boob which I didn’t feel safe giving cause of having a drink but I had to step in to comfort him whilst DH made up a bottle downstairs

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goodnightssleepbenice · 17/04/2026 20:07

He hasn’t done one night feed !! ?