Dick Pic Comment Just Before 1st Date

I think those just weren't photos of him (or were photos from a long time ago and he doesn't look like that anymore) and that's why he couldn't meet you.

It happened to a male friend of mine years ago. The woman he had been talking to kept making excuses not to meet. When he did finally persuade her to meet she was not at all attractive and it turned out she had been using photos of her flatmate.

This would explain why you felt there was a connection but he won't meet up in real life.

Don't waste anymore headspace on him and good luck.

I absolutely agree with this. Don’t waste any more time texting, get on and meet. I’m afraid I could see it coming with this guy. The writing was on the wall.

That is disgusting and against the law, it's called cyberflashing. If he ghosted you after you set a boundary you should report him to the police for being a disgusting sex crazed creep. Fuck I hate tinder so much every woman who has ever used Tinder deserves a purple heart medal.

And yes any man who sends a dickpic has zero serious intentions beyond sex or sex chat. BLOCK.

This is just weird.

I don’t think he’ll have the guts to contact you after that, but at long last at least you know he really is an asshole.
Your list of criteria seems quite rigid, perhaps be a bit more open minded, you might end up being quite surprised.

For shot read shit.

I expect @BrokenWingsCantFlyyou are feeling a bit shot tonight, just thank the Lord for three things, you didn’t send him the pics he was after, you didn’t set off on an abortive date and most importantly you are not him, some sad sap whose hobby in life isn’t learning an instrument, or mountaineering, or ice hockey - it’s stringing women along to get kick and thrills. You are worth a million of him.

I don't understand why you haven't met up by now, he sounds like a massive waste of time.

I don't think you've done anything wrong OP. It's not your fault that this bloke wasn't genuine. Please don't get sucked in to his next excuse. Don't give up. You only need 1 decent chap. Perhaps be wary of the alpha male types and give someone a bit more introverted/niche interests a chance?

Unfortunately what you thought was an innocent holiday picture, he will probably be seeing it as a more suggestive picture, albeit disappointed that he only got to see part of you. The best thing to do is just send fully clothed pictures until you have met them and slept with them. It will weed out the idiots from the more serious ones. Anyone serious isn’t going to be sending you naked pictures with their parts covered unfortunately. He has shown you how he is now. He had no intention of meeting you, just wanted the ‘fun’.

Also always remember, anyone wanting sex chat or to exchange naked/ semi naked pictures very early on even before meeting = only after sex.

Regardless of what your bikini picture shows or didn’t show, you was half naked and as I’ve chatted to many random men on OLD, just the ‘imagination’ of wondering how the rest of your body would be is enough for these sort of men. Sorry to say that op but I’m just telling you from my experience exactly what some of these men who resort to sex chat and sending half naked pictures annd suggesting sending dick pics (as a joke - ha ha hilarious!) are like. There are many that will ask what you’re wearing… because they like to imagine it even if they can’t see it! They’re pathetic pervs unfortunately that are only on there either for the shits and giggles or only interested in sex. Like I said, if he was seriously looking for a relationship he wouldn’t have sent that half naked picture to you. He did that in the hope that you would validate his ego by telling him what he wanted to hear and also to try and encourage you to send him a similar one in return. I know exactly how they are and how they behave.

And yes I can guarantee you he will be chatting to many women not just you and seeing which one will send him a full frontal wearing nothing, then be nowhere to be seen when these poor women arrange a date with him.

Look op, all he has been doing is chatting to you for shits and giggles. He sent you a suggestive picture in the hope you would send him one back and you did! He will be no doubt using that as wank material now. He is had no intention of meeting you after the first time he cancelled. I do know that there are men with gf’s and wives who use dating apps just to try and get women to send provocative pictures without the need to meet up. He isn’t interested in you and that was made quite clear when he started talking about dick pics and sent you a half naked pictures of himself. Even if him suggesting he would send you a dick pic was a ‘joke’ it’s not the sort of joke a serious, self respecting man who is serious about a relationship would joke about and it completely shows his lack of respect for you unfortunately.
You seemed to have developed this ideal of him in your head and probably fantasied about how great your relationship with him will be without ever meeting him in person. All he wants to do is chat to random women and get provocative pictures from them and have sex chat with them. He will be chatting to many more than just you. You have already said the half naked picture he sent you was not a recent one. He will be sending that same picture to multiple women. I bet if you blocked him and then somehow came across him again on a dating app 12 months later he will have forgotten who you are and will send the same picture to you again… because he sends it to everyone and has been doing for a long time. Don’t be so naive to think he only sends these pictures to you, especially if some of them are out of date. Men who chat to multiple women usually send the same old out of date pictures to everyone… for years!

He already got what he wanted from you when you sent him your bikini pic.

I think he was stringing you along, he just wanted you to send nude pictures, never had any intention of meeting you. Good job you didn’t do that. He is probably in a relationship and you are a diversion, or a social misfit who gets his jollies toying with people.

You don’t need to be less fussy at all. I don’t think you’re asking for a lot from what you have said.
if this guy messages you again, please please don’t give him another chance - sounds like he’s had enough.

I completelty understand what you mean,that's what I always thought growing up too and I'll be 50 in June and still yet to meet a good and genuine man!.
I haven't tried online dating since 2010 but even back then they were all full of shit or just after sex.Its definetly not that there's something wrong with us,it's them that's the problem!
I know the feeling all too well of getting invested and thinking this may be going somewhere then having the rug completelty pulled from underneath you,it's a horrible feeling and I think that's why I have no desire to dip my toe in the dating pool ever again.I like to call it Self Preservation!

You had sexy messages and sent each other half naked photos? Mixed messages or what