Dick Pic Comment Just Before 1st Date

Did he ever get back to you with an explanation op?

I am so confused with this.

It's been a couple of months and you haven't even met? Have you ever even spoken on the phone?! You were engaging in some sexual texting, sent "almost" nudes and then he mentioned as you signed off he was thinking of sending a dick pic and now you're turned off?

Anyone can put anything on a dating app

i could put a pic of someone else and say I love animals own my own business and who is going to know

wise up

meet up within a week or don’t bother
your already hyperventilating over prospect number 2

What I do know about men is that if they really like you they 100 percent make the effort to meet you

distance , work won’t get in the way for a bloke who’s really interested in someone

2 months and you haven’t met him I don’t think you ever will

your a nice free ego boost for him
sexting , chatting pictures your most probably not the only one he’s chatting to

edited to say I just saw that you haven’t even FaceTimed him or had a video call with him

how do you even know he is who he says he is
he could be anyone
80 years old and 5ft with no teeth

I seriously wonder how some people navigate life

Waiting so long to meet up and YOU seemingly like a prude is NO COINCIDENCE. He's waiting for the GO - AHEAD Before he's going forward with a rendezvous..... You need this message to sink in. It won't go any deeper into commitment. He wants a HOOK UP. This will drag out till you end it or agree to his suggestions.

Who do men think the are? Nobody ever wants to see a manky beef olive- they know this as well. I always think it’s an assault.

Good luck @BrokenWingsCantFly . I met dh online. I had to sift a few frogs before meeting my prince.

Definitely meet soon and date a few. Nothing serious until you know. That's what men do. Well the ones who are real.
You should try facetiming though. It's easy once you get used to it. Then you know it's them. But better to actually meet so you can see if there's chemistry?
Keep us posted as am hoping for a happy ending 😊

@BrokenWingsCantFly but if he is sending photos to other girls he hasn't even met, then I don't want to be with someone who does this. Thinking if we got together, then many random strangers would have been having photos of my man. Yuk.

Except that we all know that there are very few women who actually like receiving intimate pictures of men, or "dick pics."

He only sent you those photographs after you had a chat that went down a sexual path.

Given that women generally don't have sexual conversations with random men, and are very clear that they don't enjoy receiving intimate pictures of random men, then what on earth makes you think he would send unprompted pictures of himself to random women?

Hey, good luck with the new one!
He sounds promising @BrokenWingsCantFly

You’re still considering meeting him?

omg your bar is set SO LOW!

stop wasting your time with idiots like him. Seriously

Hes married , a catfish or both

Nah with it all. The sexual chat, the sending photos to each other, not even met in person yet.

Ahh, for the old fashioned dating game where went out for at least dinner first! 😂

Sorry, he doesn't want much else from you than sex. If that's what you are in to, fine but if not, chat to some new people...

That I kind of get. But not all people who are ‘catfishes’ also want to exchange raunchy pictures or have sex chat either. He probably is years older than he claims to be but he still tried to get op to send a certain type of picture to him and he talked about sending a dick pic to her. So regardless of if he looked older now, he was purely on there for sex/ sex chat/ raunchy pictures and getting off on it without the intention of needing to meet anyone.

Yes it's definetly a mine field out there now,I think because of the amount of Social media and dating apps it's so,so easy to just pick up a phone and scroll to find hundreds and hundreds of people to 'choose from' and men like the one you were chatting to just exploit women who are genuinely looking for love and use dating apps to just get their kicks.
I know what you mean about the family thing,I have 2 sisters who both have great partners,my younger sister married her first ever boyfriend and they've been together for 25years now,3 boys who are now young adults and her husband worships the ground she walks on.My other sister has been with her partner for 23 years and he's a great man too,works hard,treats her well,pulls his weight etc.Then there's little old me who just picks the worst men 😖.
How are you feeling this morning OP? x

Who knows if he is married or in a couple but that would make you think "ahh makes sense" if he isnt then that could do more harm.. you might think what you done wrong. What's wrong with you. What signals you missed. And there you have it, analysing over someone not even in your life. So yes block and forget.
I used to chat to people for months online dating. I never had any intention of meeting. I would avoid the subject if brought up. I just wanted male conversation but wasnt ready for dating or casual relationship. Infact, I spoke to my dh for over 3 months!! I ended up really falling for him. Looking for his conversation, missing him when he was busy etc.

So who knows what this guys intention was. It could be so many things. But dont put all your eggs in one basket. Once youve met yes, I think you should but not at talking stage for months.

I do think the sex chat and bikini photo and his photo blurred the no dick pic or sex chat lines. Not saying it is right as he was trying to obv test you but I think you need to be clear. Im not saying unsolicited pics are okay. But to send pics not suitable for family or friends and then talk about sex defo blurs things. If you are against all of that or if youre not interested be firm and not engage until you want to or at least met.

Thank s

This is such a long thread for someone who didnt even send a dic pick and for someone who didnt even have decency to cancel!!
Op, seriously, stop giving this man anymore of your time. Block, who cares what his excuse is. Do you really think this is the one?? After 2 months of messages... not even a phone call. That doesnt even scream red flags???

Block, move on and dont spend too long in the messages back and forth trap.

Sadly I have a long term friend who does just this in never grown up. My empathy.

They totally lied and kept it hidden about getting married first time round that marriage lasted in excess a decade before they paid out to get out (divorced) and now they are set up to get married again in 6 months time to the person they were most probably having an affair with at same point whilst married, sending me disgusting pics claiming it is all down to their high libido (makes me angry) whilst being so secretive and lying. How do people do that?

I’ve fallen out with my friend before over topic this so don’t know what to suggest. A northern colleague years ago said I should get respect for myself and start playing said person at their own game and maybe find out they are hot air? But more recently their behaviour feels quite stalker-ish. How do people like this keep it from their partner?

Yes. But I wouldn't be too sure. This woman I was talking about sent up to date photos but of her flatmate. The photos you have seen could be photos of a friend, brother, flatmate or someone he follows on social media.

I guess what it comes down to is that until you meet someone in real life it is hard to know what is genuine and what is not. And with AI this is getting worse and worse.

As others have said don't get invested until you have met.

Also whilst you should never ever compromise you standards of wanting a good, decent man maybe look at some of your other criteria.

Depending on your age ruling out anyone who has a child might filter out quite a few men who might suit you.

Sensible men who want a serious relationship with you do not send dick pics before you’re even together. Don’t bother.

Surely you can see that he is full of shit OP? He's paying lip service about not needing sex or being willing to wait because this echoes what you've expressed you want, then whenever he can he's engineering towards that anyway because that actually is what he hopes he will be able to persuade you into and hopes he can continue to escalate.

There's something very pathetic about a man storing posed nude pictures from god knows when on his phone in a gallery, clearly to send to women. The whole "I was going to send a dick pick never mind" isn't a joke, it's literally just him hoping you would agree to it.. This obviously gives him a kick. He will continue hinting at it until you give in.

I'd remember that you actually don't know him at all, he's just now starting to show who he actually is past the initial charm and pretence. Be sensible and don't send pictures of yourself in any state of undress to a stranger, even less so a pathetic perv who's happy to pressure you into agreeing to see pics of his horrid knob.

I might be in the minority here but I wouldnt tell a man what I do and don't like too soon.

Just let him be himself and decide if you like it.

If you tell them you dont like xyz they'll just go "oh yeah yeah me too totally agree" and keep that up to get what they want. Eventually the mask slips as you have just found out.