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AIBU to consider legal action after dismissal for long-term sickness?

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KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:18

I’ve been dismissed from my job today due to long term sickness since August last year. I have crohns, ASD, and very severe OCD. I have intrusive thoughts and last summer I declared these to my boss who completely misunderstood me and was worried I’d act on these thoughts shock I told her they caused me immense distress.

Last month, I was confident I’d be able to return to work as I’m finally having CBT and on the right medication, now on an SSRI combined with an anti psychotic. My boss was supporting my return. But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. I then fed this back to my line manager saying I’ll beat this decision as in prove occ health wrong and that I am indeed fit for work. She arranged a meeting with me to discuss suspension and she knew my union rep was on annual leave but decided to go ahead with it anyway!!!

They dismissed me due to long term sickness and not taking into account what’s working well with my mental health!! I’m looking at finding a solicitor as I believe this is unfair dismissal due to my disabilities under the Equality Act 2010. I’ve contacted a few and had a few quotes back.

AIBU by wanting to take legal action and sue them because my OCD is deliberating and because of my ASD I have different communication styles that they’ve completely misunderstood. Do you think this is unfair dismissal ?

im so traumatised by it all and im worried ill be made homeless and have my property repossessed as I’ll have no money and won’t be able to find a future job

OP posts:
KittyCoo · 18/04/2026 17:20

@AnyoneWhoHasAHeart psychiatrists are highly specialised!!!! Do you think they sit around for 7-8yrs on their arses doing nothing ??? They’re consultants and doctors for a reason!!!!

@PhoebeBuffay1234 very well said again, thank you for advocating about OCD

OP posts:
PhoebeBuffay1234 · 18/04/2026 17:11

And associating someone having OCD with criminal activity is exactly why we need more education.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 18/04/2026 17:04

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 18/04/2026 16:23

No, they don’t.

if that was the case no-one who had ever been deemed fit for release after committing a crime would ever re-offend.

Yes, they do. Psychiatrists know that someone with OCD and no other diagnosed condition will not harm someone.

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 18/04/2026 16:23

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 18/04/2026 14:39

Psychiatrists know.

No, they don’t.

if that was the case no-one who had ever been deemed fit for release after committing a crime would ever re-offend.

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 18/04/2026 16:14

bridgetreilly · 18/04/2026 13:00

It seems to me that it all hinges on the occupational health statement that OP is unfit to work with no reason to see that changing in the foreseeable future. The employers are not unreasonable to accept that report and act accordingly. OP disagrees with the report, but she would need to find medical evidence to challenge that, and then see whether her employer would reverse their decision. The only case she could possibly bring against her employer is around failure to follow due process, but there’s nothing in what she has said to show that to ne the case.

Best comment. 100% agree.

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 15:03

wombat1a · 18/04/2026 14:40

Sorry OP but they pay you to work and do the job they assign to you. You are not fit to do the job and have not been for the last 7 months. While you may find a t they didn't cross or an i they didn't dot it doesn't sounds like they have done much wrong.

Even if you have professional expertise in this field, there isn’t enough information from the OP about her situation for you to pronounce this.

wombat1a · 18/04/2026 14:40

Sorry OP but they pay you to work and do the job they assign to you. You are not fit to do the job and have not been for the last 7 months. While you may find a t they didn't cross or an i they didn't dot it doesn't sounds like they have done much wrong.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 18/04/2026 14:39

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 18/04/2026 14:31

People are entitled to not want to be educated in regards to a condition where someone expresses a desire to harm innocent people with knives, even if that desire leads to feelings of guilt on their part.

As for whatever his name is who apparently keeps a knife in his drawer to encourage people to hold it to his throat, he clearly has issues of his own which absolutely shouldn’t be encouraged or advertised on here or anywhere else.

If a woman posted on here that she’d started seeing someone who told her that he had thoughts of stabbing people but that that was harmless because he had OCD there is hopefully not one poster who wouldn’t tell her to run for the hills, and hopefully anyone who tried to guilt her through talking about non understanding of OCD in that context would be lynched.

It’s sad if anyone genuinely feels the wish to harm people and then feels they need to suppress those feelings.

But it’s not reasonable to expect anyone to be tolerant of those feelings when they’re expressed publicly because the truth is that no-one knows whether someone is a danger or not. no-one and no-one has the right to guilt people into compliance through accusation of non understanding.

Psychiatrists know.

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 18/04/2026 14:31

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 18/04/2026 12:20

Oh FGS, no one said it is. Most people on here, including me who has offered OP support with the misunderstanding around what OCD is and the ‘risk’ it involves, have agreed that it’s possible the illness is causing her not to be able to do her job. Like I said earlier, it’s likely compulsions, anxiety and/or distress caused by OCD are stopping her and in that case her occ health dept may be right to have done what they did. I only say may as I don’t know the full facts.

That doesn’t mean we should stop trying to educate people on what OCD actually is.

People are entitled to not want to be educated in regards to a condition where someone expresses a desire to harm innocent people with knives, even if that desire leads to feelings of guilt on their part.

As for whatever his name is who apparently keeps a knife in his drawer to encourage people to hold it to his throat, he clearly has issues of his own which absolutely shouldn’t be encouraged or advertised on here or anywhere else.

If a woman posted on here that she’d started seeing someone who told her that he had thoughts of stabbing people but that that was harmless because he had OCD there is hopefully not one poster who wouldn’t tell her to run for the hills, and hopefully anyone who tried to guilt her through talking about non understanding of OCD in that context would be lynched.

It’s sad if anyone genuinely feels the wish to harm people and then feels they need to suppress those feelings.

But it’s not reasonable to expect anyone to be tolerant of those feelings when they’re expressed publicly because the truth is that no-one knows whether someone is a danger or not. no-one and no-one has the right to guilt people into compliance through accusation of non understanding.

Kimura · 18/04/2026 14:28

RestlessSnail · 18/04/2026 05:29

Fair, but this assessment should be done by a professional who understand OCD. To quote from the article again:

If healthcare professionals are uncertain about the
risks associated with intrusive sexual, aggressive or
death-related thoughts reported by people with OCD,
they should consult mental health professionals with
specific expertise in the assessment and management
of OCD. These themes are common in people with
OCD at any age, and are often misinterpreted as
indicating risk.
(This is from the NICE guidelines)

However, a
person with OCD can be harmed by an incorrect or
unduly lengthy risk assessment, responding with
increased doubts and fears about the implications
of their intrusive thoughts. At best this will lead
to greater distress, avoidance and compulsive
behaviours, and mistrust of health professionals;
at worst, to complete decompensation of the patient
or break-up of the family. In reality, there is no need
for overcautious reactions. Provided the clinician
has appropriate expertise in OCD, there are very
rarely any serious doubts about the diagnosis.

My post was mostly a response to folks talking about these thoughts as though they do indicate risk, which is incorrect.

Fair, but this assessment should be done by a professional who understand OCD.

Absolutely. They're usually done by an outside agency, or internally with input from a medical professional.

However, a person with OCD can be harmed by an incorrect or unduly lengthy risk assessment

Employers should be making every effort to make any process of this nature as easy as possible on the employee. Another reason to have it led by a qualified medical professional rather than just management/HR.

In reality, there is no need for overcautious reactions.

A risk assessment isn't in any way an overcautious reaction.

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 13:14

Abitofalark · 18/04/2026 13:12

Before you go to a solicitor have a read of the ACAS website for a general understanding of how dismissals can be fair or unfair and of the procedures and codes of practice that apply.

Under 'Dismissals' there is a short explanatory section "Dismissal because of long-term illness" www.acas.org.uk/dismissals/types-of-dismissal
and a link to a section about disability discrimination.

You could phone the free ACAS helpline for further information or advice and also go to your trade union before you start shelling out on solicitors.

Also bear in mind the time scale for lodging an appeal under your employer's dismissal procedure - and the time limit for an application to an employment tribunal if it ever comes to that.

No need for any of this. SHE IS IN A UNION

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 13:13

TheCobbleCreekMonster · 18/04/2026 13:10

The OP has stated that she is pondering legal action herself and has been in touch with various solicitors.

Yes, and she is being advised that there is no need to do that. The union will be able to tell her if she has a case and to support her through it if she does.

Abitofalark · 18/04/2026 13:12

Before you go to a solicitor have a read of the ACAS website for a general understanding of how dismissals can be fair or unfair and of the procedures and codes of practice that apply.

Under 'Dismissals' there is a short explanatory section "Dismissal because of long-term illness" www.acas.org.uk/dismissals/types-of-dismissal
and a link to a section about disability discrimination.

You could phone the free ACAS helpline for further information or advice and also go to your trade union before you start shelling out on solicitors.

Also bear in mind the time scale for lodging an appeal under your employer's dismissal procedure - and the time limit for an application to an employment tribunal if it ever comes to that.

TheCobbleCreekMonster · 18/04/2026 13:10

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 12:47

Not really, she is in a union so they will support her if she has a good case. It won’t cost her thousands because she won’t need her own lawyer

The OP has stated that she is pondering legal action herself and has been in touch with various solicitors.

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 13:03

KilkennyCats · 18/04/2026 12:51

She doesn’t have a good case.

Let the union determine that. They might be able to agree a settlement for her rather than just being sacked with nothing.

Monty36 · 18/04/2026 13:03

An employer will tolerate absence up to a point. They will I hope have policies which are set out and communicated.
The issue for you is that they have tolerated your absence since last August.
But now the Occupational Health have told your employer you are unfit to be at work. Occupational Health will often provide or set out to an employer if part time or reduced hours return to work would or should be provided.
I assume they have not ? Did they consider this option or discuss it with you ? The OH report will not have been done without a meeting with you.
In which case the employer would be on a sticky wicket allowing you back to work if they sought advice from OH only to then ignore it.
I would check the OH report again to see if there is any mention of a reduced hours return to work.

TheCobbleCreekMonster · 18/04/2026 13:01

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:58

@Avslighthead long term sickness was the reason why

@Itsmetheflamingo Thsnk you very much for helping me to clarify the reasons why I was dismissed were unfair and explaining that it’s illegal to sack someone with a disability. It makes me feel like absolute shit calling me dangerous and my psychiatrist has confirmed it not dangerous to my boss but she’s still having none of it!!!

How did the conversation around the knife actually go with your employer @KittyCoo ? In a post prior to this one, you use present tense to describe that you have the urge to use to use a knife (not in a good way).

If you indicated to your employer, even in the tiniest way, that you have these urges and from the way you worded this post, it suggests that you did, you have put your employer in an incredibly difficult position.

In the event you harmed a co-worker and your employer knew this was a possibility, she is exposing herself to litigation.

I suspect, if this went to court, discrimination, it could be stated, was not regarding your disability but regarding this matter.

You don't have to answer that here obviously but consider this factor. The union may struggle to defend you under these circumstances.

How long have you worked for the company please?

bridgetreilly · 18/04/2026 13:00

It seems to me that it all hinges on the occupational health statement that OP is unfit to work with no reason to see that changing in the foreseeable future. The employers are not unreasonable to accept that report and act accordingly. OP disagrees with the report, but she would need to find medical evidence to challenge that, and then see whether her employer would reverse their decision. The only case she could possibly bring against her employer is around failure to follow due process, but there’s nothing in what she has said to show that to ne the case.

KilkennyCats · 18/04/2026 12:51

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 12:47

Not really, she is in a union so they will support her if she has a good case. It won’t cost her thousands because she won’t need her own lawyer

She doesn’t have a good case.

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 12:47

ladyamy · 18/04/2026 12:41

The best advice I’ve seen this thread.

Not really, she is in a union so they will support her if she has a good case. It won’t cost her thousands because she won’t need her own lawyer

ladyamy · 18/04/2026 12:41

TheCobbleCreekMonster · 17/04/2026 20:55

The thing is the OCD is irrelevant here. You are not capable of doing the work the employer needs you to do as a result of it. It could be any illness. It makes no odds. Try and see it from their POV. They have employed you in good faith and you haven't done a stroke in seven months. In this economy, they have to protect themselves and try and run at full strength. Unless you have really really good evidence of discrimination, don't even consider legal action because it will cost you a fortune and what bit of your mental health you are clinging on to.
Let it go and concentrate on healing all day every day and when you are well, start afresh.

The best advice I’ve seen this thread.

Nsky62 · 18/04/2026 12:37

NoSoupForU · 17/04/2026 19:22

Having a disability doesn't mean an employer has to keep you in their employment. They can't dismiss you because of your disability, but if you're not capable of doing the job they can dismiss you on the grounds of capability provided they follow their own procedures properly, which it sounds like they have?

Which wasn’t explained

Nogimachi · 18/04/2026 12:34

All of my recent employers (large multinationals) would only confirm employment dates - they won’t offer a reference or any detail about you. Your health situation is your private information that they can’t share.
Get back out there and work, it will be much better for your mental health than staying home and spiralling into poverty.

somanychristmaslights · 18/04/2026 12:30

You said you’re with a union- what have they said?

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 18/04/2026 12:28

StrictlyCoffee · 18/04/2026 12:24

This thread is about the OP. It’s not all about you and your OCD. The projection on this thread is unreal. The bottom line is, there are so many issues out there and people are just trying to get on with their lives. You can’t worry about everyone or every health issue they might have. It’s not all about you

No one said it is about me. It is about OP and her OCD. My comments have all been relevant, coming from a place of understanding. The wilful ignorance on this thread is also unreal.