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AIBU to consider legal action after dismissal for long-term sickness?

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KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:18

I’ve been dismissed from my job today due to long term sickness since August last year. I have crohns, ASD, and very severe OCD. I have intrusive thoughts and last summer I declared these to my boss who completely misunderstood me and was worried I’d act on these thoughts shock I told her they caused me immense distress.

Last month, I was confident I’d be able to return to work as I’m finally having CBT and on the right medication, now on an SSRI combined with an anti psychotic. My boss was supporting my return. But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. I then fed this back to my line manager saying I’ll beat this decision as in prove occ health wrong and that I am indeed fit for work. She arranged a meeting with me to discuss suspension and she knew my union rep was on annual leave but decided to go ahead with it anyway!!!

They dismissed me due to long term sickness and not taking into account what’s working well with my mental health!! I’m looking at finding a solicitor as I believe this is unfair dismissal due to my disabilities under the Equality Act 2010. I’ve contacted a few and had a few quotes back.

AIBU by wanting to take legal action and sue them because my OCD is deliberating and because of my ASD I have different communication styles that they’ve completely misunderstood. Do you think this is unfair dismissal ?

im so traumatised by it all and im worried ill be made homeless and have my property repossessed as I’ll have no money and won’t be able to find a future job

OP posts:
MrsBrendaFarfetched · 18/04/2026 23:16

This thread has become pointless now. People debating what ocd means. Start a new thread and debate it. It is taking away from ops question. Ffs

RestlessSnail · 18/04/2026 23:15

@Velumental He's not a person with OCD. He's a clinical psychologist with extensive experience of treating it.

The knife to the throat thing, which tbf I could have explained better, is part of a treatment called Exposure and Response prevention, where someone with OCD will, with support, confront situations they've been avoiding and refrain from carrying out compulsions.

Sometimes ERP goes further than most people would go in everyday life. The idea is that the further you go the more you can counteract the worry about something awful happening.

If I'm checking all my plug sockets before leaving the house, for example, becuase I'm scared of causing a fire. I might deliberately leave them on when I go out. I might leave the oven and the lights on too. It's not reckless risk taking - I wouldn't leave my hair straighteners on - just pushing hard against OCD.

ETA As part of the treatment, Prof Salkovskis invites patients with harm OCD to hold a knife against HIS throat. He is not holding knives to anyone's throat!!

Velumental · 18/04/2026 23:05

RestlessSnail · 18/04/2026 22:59

Whatever his name is Professor Paul Salkovskis, who is one of the U.K's leading experts on OCD and has been working with people with OCD for upwards of 30 years.

But, sure, you know better🙄

She's not claiming to know better. She's telling you his expression of his mental health is harmful and traumatising to others. You don't get to traumatised others because of your mh

RestlessSnail · 18/04/2026 22:59

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 18/04/2026 14:31

People are entitled to not want to be educated in regards to a condition where someone expresses a desire to harm innocent people with knives, even if that desire leads to feelings of guilt on their part.

As for whatever his name is who apparently keeps a knife in his drawer to encourage people to hold it to his throat, he clearly has issues of his own which absolutely shouldn’t be encouraged or advertised on here or anywhere else.

If a woman posted on here that she’d started seeing someone who told her that he had thoughts of stabbing people but that that was harmless because he had OCD there is hopefully not one poster who wouldn’t tell her to run for the hills, and hopefully anyone who tried to guilt her through talking about non understanding of OCD in that context would be lynched.

It’s sad if anyone genuinely feels the wish to harm people and then feels they need to suppress those feelings.

But it’s not reasonable to expect anyone to be tolerant of those feelings when they’re expressed publicly because the truth is that no-one knows whether someone is a danger or not. no-one and no-one has the right to guilt people into compliance through accusation of non understanding.

Whatever his name is Professor Paul Salkovskis, who is one of the U.K's leading experts on OCD and has been working with people with OCD for upwards of 30 years.

But, sure, you know better🙄

Kimura · 18/04/2026 21:26

Shrinkhole · 18/04/2026 19:20

This is a common and very stigmatising misunderstanding of harm OCD

People with harm OCD thoughts absolutely do not act on them. They fear that they will and they take unnecessary steps to stop themselves but they are not any risk to others.

People aren't disagreeing with you. They're saying that employers can't take that risk without failing their duty of care.

ladyamy · 18/04/2026 20:56

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 18:37

Don’t be so vicious.

Of course I’ll stop 🫡

ScarlettSarah · 18/04/2026 20:50

I work for a union but I can't advise in full here, of course.

Initial thought would be to appeal with medical evidence disputing the OH report that seems to be the basis for the dismissal. A letter from your psychiatrist would be helpful.

I would also question why the final meeting wasn't deferred until your rep returned from annual leave. Did you ask about this? You should have had the right to be accompanied and could have requested a reasonable postponement.

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 18/04/2026 20:30

At the end of the day, op said ocd takes up alot of her day and there is no end in sight! This ties in with oc health.. not fit to return in the foreseeable. If the question was can they dismiss based on this info from oc health along with absence length then absolutely. But employer still needs to follow a fair process.
However would op win a tribunal? No one can answer that. We are getting one side of a story. A story that has holes.
Op, if you disagree with the decision then please appeal.

The op mentions asd and communication styles being misinterpreted. I have asked for more info as that could be useful/relevant. I imagine starting a thread like this and then answering lots of questions whilst other ops are telling op they are a bad employee and sharing misinformation about ocd would be overwhelming. Hence why op isn't being very forthcoming.

My opinion, I think you should exhaust appeal process. Speak to union, ensure they attend the appeal meetings with you and also speak to acas. But please give accurate information so they can give you the best advice.

Its impossible to know if you have a claim as this is all quite confusing and I think we aren't getting all necessary information. Id be wary sharing lots of information online as it could be triggering further ocd! Ie my ocd is triggered when I am anxious.

Crwysmam · 18/04/2026 20:08

The OPs opening question was whether she should take legal action for being dismissed as a result of a chronic condition that doesn’t look like improving soon.
It’s totally irrelevant to the question, what the condition is because it could be anything from cancer to having both legs amputated, if it prevents you from working then legally, through the correct process her employer can dismiss her.
They would need to have evidence that the OP is not going back to work soon. As long as the evidence is provided by the correct agency then they can proceed.
For some reason PPs are banging on about OCD which may be only part of her problem. There is insufficient evidence to comment on this.
Safeguarding includes all sorts of possibilities, and is not necessarily focused on the intrusive thoughts the OP expressed to her boss. It’s quite possible that the boss has kept that information to themselves. Safeguarding the workforce from burnout because they are having to pick up the slack is a bigger issue. The longer it goes on and the uncertainty it creates could lead to other staff members taking sick leave.
I think we can safely conclude from the posters who insist on repeating their message about OCD they have personal experience of the condition. We get it but it is not relevant to the original post, since the OPs dismissal was on the grounds of ill health not OCD specifically.

Soowww · 18/04/2026 19:49

Shrinkhole · 18/04/2026 19:45

I guess the worry is (intensified by the batshit responses on this thread) that they might not want to give OP a chance with a phased return etc because they are erroneously afraid of her like half the people on this thread seem to be. That might not be the case and it might be that she is incapable of doing the actual tasks but if she had been a good employee before and is engaged in treatment to get better it seems pretty harsh.

The OP said occupational health said not fit for work and she herself said she wouldn’t be anytime in the future. So whether or not work would allow or want a phased return is irrelevant. As it stands, she is not fit for any work phased or otherwise. This is most likely why she was let go.

Shrinkhole · 18/04/2026 19:45

I guess the worry is (intensified by the batshit responses on this thread) that they might not want to give OP a chance with a phased return etc because they are erroneously afraid of her like half the people on this thread seem to be. That might not be the case and it might be that she is incapable of doing the actual tasks but if she had been a good employee before and is engaged in treatment to get better it seems pretty harsh.

KilkennyCats · 18/04/2026 19:36

bumptybum · 18/04/2026 19:31

You said the reason for dismissal was that your ocd was still taking up a lot of your day and you were unfit for the role

It most assuredly is not “illegal to sack someone with a disability”, op.
If you mean sack someone because of their disability, then that’s correct, but it’s clear that that’s not what happened here.

Shrinkhole · 18/04/2026 19:33

We spend a lot of time in OCD therapy trying to get people to challenge ‘thought action fusion’. Having an unacceptable thought or even saying it out loud does not create a risk. Thoughts are not risky. I understand that the manager wanted to make a risk assessment but presumably that would be done by occupational heath and a a qualified professional would reassure them there is no risk.

I would 100% go out with a man who had thoughts of harming people even children in the context of diagnosed harm OCD for which they sought treatment. I would be happy for my daughter to as well. I advise my patients not to disclose their symptoms apart from to very trusted people however because of the attitudes on this thread.

Anyway it’s not the reason OP lost her job. That is more to do with excessive sickness absence which is factual and therefore hard to challenge.

bumptybum · 18/04/2026 19:31

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:58

@Avslighthead long term sickness was the reason why

@Itsmetheflamingo Thsnk you very much for helping me to clarify the reasons why I was dismissed were unfair and explaining that it’s illegal to sack someone with a disability. It makes me feel like absolute shit calling me dangerous and my psychiatrist has confirmed it not dangerous to my boss but she’s still having none of it!!!

You said the reason for dismissal was that your ocd was still taking up a lot of your day and you were unfit for the role

bumptybum · 18/04/2026 19:28

Winter2020 · 17/04/2026 19:34

I wonder if it would be helpful to see your GP and find out if they feel you are fit to return to work. If so would they put that in writing. They are probably more highly qualified than the occupational health people (unless occupational health are also doctors)

You think doctors are all knowing? Why on earth do you think a GP would know better than an OT? A professional trained in assessing someone’s fitness for a specific job?

Shrinkhole · 18/04/2026 19:20

Velumental · 17/04/2026 19:30

If you're still struggling with harm OCD and on anti psychotics and SSRIs but still struggling. However better managed it is, it's reasonable for them to put the safety of all staff above just your recovery. Imagine if you (or anyone in this position' disclosed these thoughts then acted on them in future? Your organisation would be in serious trouble for continuing with your employment.

This is a common and very stigmatising misunderstanding of harm OCD

People with harm OCD thoughts absolutely do not act on them. They fear that they will and they take unnecessary steps to stop themselves but they are not any risk to others.

XenoBitch · 18/04/2026 18:42

KilkennyCats · 18/04/2026 18:36

It’s a rude response used when losing an argument. Best ignored.

There was no argument. The PP was being rude so I was rude back.

Sparkler1234 · 18/04/2026 18:42

FKAT · 18/04/2026 11:35

(OP, this is not a comment to you but a broader observation about this thread. I very much hope you can get the treatment you need to recover.)

Regarding the 'misunderstanding' and 'stigma' of OCD - there also seems to be a lot of misunderstanding or ignorance of safeguarding. It is not an adequate safeguard that evidence shows those with OCD commit less violent crime. How do we know that OCD isn't a misdiagnosis? How do we know there aren't other factors like psychosis present? How do we know the person with OCD or the professionals aren't minimising? The employer's duty is to the entire workforce. Someone having a mental health issue is very distressing for them but a team manager and HR department have to consider the wider impact.

The most ignorant comment ever. Recommend you read up on it. Absolute nonsense.

MrsMigginsBrunch · 18/04/2026 18:37

ladyamy · 18/04/2026 17:30

Bet your colleagues love you for that. A real player.’

Don’t be so vicious.

KilkennyCats · 18/04/2026 18:36

ladyamy · 18/04/2026 18:36

DFOD?

It’s a rude response used when losing an argument. Best ignored.

ladyamy · 18/04/2026 18:36

XenoBitch · 18/04/2026 17:32

At times I was in hospital. I could not help that.
So DFOD Biscuit

DFOD?

KilkennyCats · 18/04/2026 18:33

NoSoupForU · 18/04/2026 17:29

@KittyCoo

Several people now have asked what you meant when you said that your OCD takes up much of your day.

It is that which will underpin the decision that you are not capable of fulfilling your role. And yet you keep ignoring it. Why?

Because she’s convinced her disability will overrule the fact that she simply isn’t doing her job even when she’s actually there, which is seldom enough.

XenoBitch · 18/04/2026 17:32

ladyamy · 18/04/2026 17:30

Bet your colleagues love you for that. A real player.’

At times I was in hospital. I could not help that.
So DFOD Biscuit

ladyamy · 18/04/2026 17:30

XenoBitch · 17/04/2026 21:35

I have been off sick for 9 months+ at a time.

Bet your colleagues love you for that. A real player.’

NoSoupForU · 18/04/2026 17:29

@KittyCoo

Several people now have asked what you meant when you said that your OCD takes up much of your day.

It is that which will underpin the decision that you are not capable of fulfilling your role. And yet you keep ignoring it. Why?