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AIBU to consider legal action after dismissal for long-term sickness?

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KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:18

I’ve been dismissed from my job today due to long term sickness since August last year. I have crohns, ASD, and very severe OCD. I have intrusive thoughts and last summer I declared these to my boss who completely misunderstood me and was worried I’d act on these thoughts shock I told her they caused me immense distress.

Last month, I was confident I’d be able to return to work as I’m finally having CBT and on the right medication, now on an SSRI combined with an anti psychotic. My boss was supporting my return. But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. I then fed this back to my line manager saying I’ll beat this decision as in prove occ health wrong and that I am indeed fit for work. She arranged a meeting with me to discuss suspension and she knew my union rep was on annual leave but decided to go ahead with it anyway!!!

They dismissed me due to long term sickness and not taking into account what’s working well with my mental health!! I’m looking at finding a solicitor as I believe this is unfair dismissal due to my disabilities under the Equality Act 2010. I’ve contacted a few and had a few quotes back.

AIBU by wanting to take legal action and sue them because my OCD is deliberating and because of my ASD I have different communication styles that they’ve completely misunderstood. Do you think this is unfair dismissal ?

im so traumatised by it all and im worried ill be made homeless and have my property repossessed as I’ll have no money and won’t be able to find a future job

OP posts:
Negroany · 01/08/2026 10:48

KittyCoo · 01/08/2026 09:34

So the update on this:

I did pursue the legal route and sought advice from an employment lawyer who said there’s a strong case for unfair dismissal but because it was a public sector job it would be difficult to sue them. I then forwarded this to someone very senior and I made it very clear that it was in no one’s best interest to take it to a tribunal and pushed for a settlement agreement. After negotiations with the solicitor, a settlement agreement for both sides was reached back in June with a neutral reference and changed to resignation.

Im now about to start a 0hrs job

Edited

I'm glad you got a decent outcome.

But it's rubbish that it would be hard to take a public sector employer to tribunal. It's no different to any other employer that way.

In fact, if anything, getting a settlement is harder.

KittyCoo · 01/08/2026 09:34

So the update on this:

I did pursue the legal route and sought advice from an employment lawyer who said there’s a strong case for unfair dismissal but because it was a public sector job it would be difficult to sue them. I then forwarded this to someone very senior and I made it very clear that it was in no one’s best interest to take it to a tribunal and pushed for a settlement agreement. After negotiations with the solicitor, a settlement agreement for both sides was reached back in June with a neutral reference and changed to resignation.

Im now about to start a 0hrs job

OP posts:
Wordsmithery · 01/08/2026 08:14

If your OCD is debilitating and affects your work for much of the day, Occupational Health and your employer have the right to say no.
The union is your best option first of all, if you want to challenge.

Gateappreciation · 01/08/2026 05:57

@KittyCoo what was the outcome? Did you take it any further?

GarlicAnywhere · 01/08/2026 04:27

Shrinkhole · 18/04/2026 19:20

This is a common and very stigmatising misunderstanding of harm OCD

People with harm OCD thoughts absolutely do not act on them. They fear that they will and they take unnecessary steps to stop themselves but they are not any risk to others.

When reading OP's posts, I imagined that her 'unnecessary steps' are what take up too much of her working day, per her occ health assessment. Many people with OCD feel compelled to perform rituals and/or repeat mantras, which they irrationally believe will keep them safe. When OCD is severe, these can take hours.

OP hasn't replied to the many posts asking what they meant when they said it takes up too much of the day.

I'm very sorry you're in this predicament, @KittyCoo and it's obviously a good idea to find out if you may have a case. You'll be making the stress even worse, though, if you perseverate over being dismissed for having OCD when, in fact, it looks like their reason is that the condition leads you to be incapable of doing the job properly.

I know this may look like splitting hairs. I was dismissed after having a long time off with a mental illness - it was my need for time off that made me superfluous, not the thoughts in my head.

It's good to know you've found treatments that are working. I hope your psych will fix you up with suitable support to help you come to terms with what's happening. All the best.

11AndCounting · 01/08/2026 04:17

Betterbyfar · 19/04/2026 08:27

If i knew that a colleague had expressed such sentiments and i knew that they had ocd - I would still refuse to work in the same work environment as them, and I believe my colleagues would do the same.

If i was the manager, and a member of my team came to me and told me this thought they were having and I knew they had OCD, I would ask them to stay in my office for a minute. Meanwhile I would leave my office, call HR, explain situation and say that I want them off the premises as I believe they constitute a possible threat to employees

Well, hopefully you'd receive some education and, if you persisted regardless, get sacked.

JMSA · 01/08/2026 03:51

MrsMigginsBrunch · 17/04/2026 19:28

Definitely. My union said that I probably wouldn’t be sacked for being off sick for three years but they might offer me a settlement to leave.

Off sick for 3 years?? But how could you honestly expect to keep your job? And why would you even want to?
This place is an education at times, it really is 😮

Fedupmumofadultsons · 01/08/2026 02:26

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:28

@Velumental Yes it’s harm ocd and id do anything for my life before this all started due to one stupid thought about a knife!!

@ItsOnlyHobnobs nearly 4yrs.

@Itsmetheflamingo thank you for your advice. I feel like if I dint tend legal action they’re getting away with murder and could do it to someone else with a disability in the future

I doubt you would get anywhere you gad harmful thoughts about a knife in work
So yes they sound within there rights to sack you .having a disability does not trump others safety

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 23/04/2026 19:28

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 13:20

I love how that’s all you took from Shrinkhole’s comments. Says a lot really.

I took her comments on board.

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 22/04/2026 23:34

Upearlyaseva · 20/04/2026 11:31

What would you do
@bigboykitty if one of your team expressed OCD intrusive thoughts about violently harming colleagues with a knife ?

A few things...

  1. I would ask why that person was telling me these thoughts, ie do they have impulses, are these new thoughts, etc

  2. I'd ask what they are doing from a medical point of view, counselling, Dr's, medication, what not. I would be checking if this was a diagnoses or self diagnoses.

But I would be inclined to medically suspend with a meeting with occ health arranged asap.

musiclover2026 · 21/04/2026 19:12

gamerchick · 21/04/2026 07:09

That won't help. It's still there in the back of your brain.

You don't tell random people what your intrusive thoughts are. It'll always get you into bother with someone. Whether it's fair or not.

I think it's irrelevant anyway as she told her boss not all her colleagues. As someone pointed out earlier, how would her colleagues even know? Presumably she told her boss in confidence.

How do you know her mental state of mind? Unless you’re her psychiatrist or doctor?

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain because she's already been diagnosed with harm OCD by a professional and it's obviously a manifestation of that. Why wouldn't it be?

Livpool · 21/04/2026 17:17

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:49

@HermioneWeasley I feel awful for having these thoughts and would cut my arm off no pun intetended to stop them!!! I really punish myself because of it

I have this too and feel for you. Mine was at its worst when I was post partum. It was both the happiest and worst time of my life.

Certainly raise with your union, but you need to possibly argue with the OccHealth assessment. Wishing you lots of luck in your continued recovery.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 17:01

PoppinjayPolly · 21/04/2026 16:32

What would we do without you keeping us all right thinking!

You’d just be ignorant about OCD, instead of wilfully ignorant.

PoppinjayPolly · 21/04/2026 16:32

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 15:42

They said the statements are stupid. Which they are.

What would we do without you keeping us all right thinking!

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 15:42

PoppinjayPolly · 21/04/2026 15:41

10:57. - I can’t allow stupid statements like this to go unchallenged

They said the statements are stupid. Which they are.

PoppinjayPolly · 21/04/2026 15:41

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 15:00

Where have they called anyone stupid?

10:57. - I can’t allow stupid statements like this to go unchallenged

Heresatwist · 21/04/2026 15:09

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PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 15:00

PoppinjayPolly · 21/04/2026 14:22

Maybe if those who are declaring themselves experts in OCD stopped being so abrasive towards other posters this thread may have gone better?
A self proclaimed psychiatrist calling others “stupid” for not having their knowledge and experience?

Where have they called anyone stupid?

PoppinjayPolly · 21/04/2026 14:22

Maybe if those who are declaring themselves experts in OCD stopped being so abrasive towards other posters this thread may have gone better?
A self proclaimed psychiatrist calling others “stupid” for not having their knowledge and experience?

C8H10N4O2 · 21/04/2026 13:58

Gymnopedie · 19/04/2026 01:59

That the dismissal is in part due to concern for the safety of other staff has come entirely from PPs.

The reason given by the company is that OP is not capable of doing the job she was employed to do. She has been off for seven months (so not doing the job at all), with no timescale for return, and when she is in work much of her time and headspace is taken up by intrusive thoughts so she is not giving the time and attention to the job that it needs from her. The reason seems watertight to me, as long as they have followed the correct procedure. While it is a reasonable business decision, if it was implemented without compliance that would give rise to a claim however valid the reason.

I agree. We don’t know what was in the letter as the details have not been shared but the OP initially said it was due to the OH assessment considering she could not perform the duties due to the time cost of the OCD.

That sounds like a proper process was followed. All the stuff about intrusive thoughts and knives is irrelevant to that process unless the OH raised it and could be shown to have misunderstood the condition (which seems unlikely since the reason given was time, not content of thoughts).

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 13:55

HelenaWilson · 21/04/2026 13:53

Clearly I cannot risk assess an individual person from a Mumsnet post but if the info she has given is accurate that she is correctly diagnosed with OCD (and what she has said about the thoughts and the treatment does seem consistent with that) then yes my professional opinion is that she does not pose a risk to other people.

But the manager is not a professional and is not qualified to give an opinion.

Edited

But he/she will have consulted with occ health, who I presume will know that OP has OCD and therefore the manager will be advised by them.

HelenaWilson · 21/04/2026 13:53

Clearly I cannot risk assess an individual person from a Mumsnet post but if the info she has given is accurate that she is correctly diagnosed with OCD (and what she has said about the thoughts and the treatment does seem consistent with that) then yes my professional opinion is that she does not pose a risk to other people.

But the manager is not a professional and is not qualified to give an opinion.

C8H10N4O2 · 21/04/2026 13:49

whatradiatorstopick · 17/04/2026 20:17

Three YEARS? What business can support that level of absence?

Businesses which include PHS with their pension schemes. Extended absence due to a major health crisis which may or may not result in a return to work could well be covered.

My company certainly does this in the hope that the highly skilled employee may be able to return once recovered or with adaptations. Sometimes this isn’t possible and they end up leaving but I can think of more than one who returned after a year or more off for medical treatment and recovery.

Scarlettpixie · 21/04/2026 13:40

Surely OH have to give reasons for saying what they have. It isn't unreasonable for your employer to dismiss you if you have been off for an extended period with no real prospects of returning to you duties. They have to make reasonable adjustments to help you do your job bit if there isn't anything that will help, then they can't.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 21/04/2026 13:20

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 21/04/2026 12:36

Might learn to quote a post. Like mine.

I love how that’s all you took from Shrinkhole’s comments. Says a lot really.