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AIBU to consider legal action after dismissal for long-term sickness?

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KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:18

I’ve been dismissed from my job today due to long term sickness since August last year. I have crohns, ASD, and very severe OCD. I have intrusive thoughts and last summer I declared these to my boss who completely misunderstood me and was worried I’d act on these thoughts shock I told her they caused me immense distress.

Last month, I was confident I’d be able to return to work as I’m finally having CBT and on the right medication, now on an SSRI combined with an anti psychotic. My boss was supporting my return. But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. I then fed this back to my line manager saying I’ll beat this decision as in prove occ health wrong and that I am indeed fit for work. She arranged a meeting with me to discuss suspension and she knew my union rep was on annual leave but decided to go ahead with it anyway!!!

They dismissed me due to long term sickness and not taking into account what’s working well with my mental health!! I’m looking at finding a solicitor as I believe this is unfair dismissal due to my disabilities under the Equality Act 2010. I’ve contacted a few and had a few quotes back.

AIBU by wanting to take legal action and sue them because my OCD is deliberating and because of my ASD I have different communication styles that they’ve completely misunderstood. Do you think this is unfair dismissal ?

im so traumatised by it all and im worried ill be made homeless and have my property repossessed as I’ll have no money and won’t be able to find a future job

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40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:36

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 20:33

Only until you have confirmed that they OCD.

Yes agreed. I’m fairly sure that legally they couldn’t fire someone with OCD purely for saying they had thoughts about harming others, because of all the reasons mentioned above.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 20:35

Autumngirl5 · 17/04/2026 20:34

But your employer does not know that you won’t act on your impulsive thoughts and she has the safety of her other employees to think of.

But once they know someone has OCD and has spoken to someone in their HR/other relevant dept then they will know.

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 20:35

@PhoebeBuffay1234 Ive been diagnosed 4 times with severe ocd and it saddens me that people are misunderstanding!!! Thank you for your support, it means so much

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GaIadriel · 17/04/2026 20:35

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:29

Everyone has weird intrusive thoughts that pop into their head that they don’t act on, that’s just the human brain- are we going to become thought police? The point is, if someone with OCD had thoughts of harming their pupils, they are much less likely to harm the pupils than someone who doesn’t have OCD. They are horrified by even the thought of the harm, let alone doing something harmful. People with OCD are not psychotic and can control their actions.

I agree. But if the new nursery attendant tells you they're having intrusive thoughts about abusing your child once you leave? Could you really ignore it?

XenoBitch · 17/04/2026 20:35

If you have a case then go for it.
I wish I pursued it when I was let go for long term sickness. I was suspended for being suicidal. I text my friend a worrying message and because they were also a colleague, I was suspended. My boss had my text printed out in massive font on paper, and was so "proud" to show me it.
I worked in a hospital. I self harmed, was never a harm to anyone else but was forced onto leave because my cock of a manager had it in his head that I would go round slicing into patients. And he told me that too.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 20:34

Livelovebehappy · 17/04/2026 20:32

But what about the mental wellbeing of others, faced with someone who has thoughts of attacking someone, yet having to put their faith and trust into that person not to act in them. It’s a big ask.

Why would these people even know? It’s highly unlikely unless there was some kind of confidentiality breach.

Autumngirl5 · 17/04/2026 20:34

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:35

@TheRealMagic @Velumental but someone with ocd is very unlikely to act on their intrusive thoughts but the illness makes it feel so real that’s why I get so distressed cos I get urges to act!!!

But your employer does not know that you won’t act on your impulsive thoughts and she has the safety of her other employees to think of.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 20:33

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:32

I think everyone gets that… at the same time you have to treat everyone who verbalizes it the same way.

Only until you have confirmed that they OCD.

Livelovebehappy · 17/04/2026 20:32

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:29

Everyone has weird intrusive thoughts that pop into their head that they don’t act on, that’s just the human brain- are we going to become thought police? The point is, if someone with OCD had thoughts of harming their pupils, they are much less likely to harm the pupils than someone who doesn’t have OCD. They are horrified by even the thought of the harm, let alone doing something harmful. People with OCD are not psychotic and can control their actions.

But what about the mental wellbeing of others, faced with someone who has thoughts of attacking someone, yet having to put their faith and trust into that person not to act in them. It’s a big ask.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:32

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:31

There’s some really big misunderstandings about OCD here. Yes it’s possible that someone with the illness might act upon an intrusive thought, but they are less likely to do that than other people without OCD.

I think everyone gets that… at the same time you have to treat everyone who verbalizes it the same way.

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:31

There’s some really big misunderstandings about OCD here. Yes it’s possible that someone with the illness might act upon an intrusive thought, but they are less likely to do that than other people without OCD.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 20:30

PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 20:24

What about the well-being of the rest of the staff?
”well yes, Janet- I know Tom has shared that he has thoughts of harming you, am sure he doesnt mean it!”
if a teacher had recurrent thoughts about harming their pupils due to OCD, should they be kept in post?

Yes, they should. If you read the post before yours, @LifeOfAShowgirl13 explains it.

Livelovebehappy · 17/04/2026 20:30

Are you actually doing any work when in the office? You state OCD takes over your day. So if you’re constantly having to leave your desk to manage your OCD symptoms, it’s hardly fair on the company to continue to employ someone who has been off for 7 months, and even when they return, they’re not getting any work done. Sad that you’re ill OP, but surely you don’t expect a business to keep you on their payroll indefinitely when you’re not being productive.

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:29

PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 20:24

What about the well-being of the rest of the staff?
”well yes, Janet- I know Tom has shared that he has thoughts of harming you, am sure he doesnt mean it!”
if a teacher had recurrent thoughts about harming their pupils due to OCD, should they be kept in post?

Everyone has weird intrusive thoughts that pop into their head that they don’t act on, that’s just the human brain- are we going to become thought police? The point is, if someone with OCD had thoughts of harming their pupils, they are much less likely to harm the pupils than someone who doesn’t have OCD. They are horrified by even the thought of the harm, let alone doing something harmful. People with OCD are not psychotic and can control their actions.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:28

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 20:27

They can be removed from the workplace.

This isn’t the same as sacking.

again, if they are judged unfit to perform their job after reasonable adjustments, that is a legitimate reason to sack them.

Sacking them because you think that they pose harm to your workforce, even through you know they have an illnesses that causes these thoughts, is not legitimate

But that’s not what happened in the OP’s own words.

This should have been directed to @PoppinjayPolly… shit nevermiind I had it right the first time… sorry!

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 20:27

PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 20:24

What about the well-being of the rest of the staff?
”well yes, Janet- I know Tom has shared that he has thoughts of harming you, am sure he doesnt mean it!”
if a teacher had recurrent thoughts about harming their pupils due to OCD, should they be kept in post?

They can be removed from the workplace.

This isn’t the same as sacking.

again, if they are judged unfit to perform their job after reasonable adjustments, that is a legitimate reason to sack them.

Sacking them because you think that they pose harm to your workforce, even through you know they have an illnesses that causes these thoughts, is not legitimate

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 17/04/2026 20:26

I agree that the initial disclosure of thinking about harming a colleague is not the issue at hand, though understandably distressing for all involved, op included.

The issue is that you are not fit to work, and you acknowledge yourself that you see no end in sight. How long do you think you should remain employed but not carrying out the role?

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PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 20:24

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 20:17

And if you didn’t allow them to return once you had consulted someone who actually knows about OCD, you would be acting in a discriminatory manner.

What about the well-being of the rest of the staff?
”well yes, Janet- I know Tom has shared that he has thoughts of harming you, am sure he doesnt mean it!”
if a teacher had recurrent thoughts about harming their pupils due to OCD, should they be kept in post?

LifeOfAShowgirl13 · 17/04/2026 20:22

Velumental · 17/04/2026 19:30

If you're still struggling with harm OCD and on anti psychotics and SSRIs but still struggling. However better managed it is, it's reasonable for them to put the safety of all staff above just your recovery. Imagine if you (or anyone in this position' disclosed these thoughts then acted on them in future? Your organisation would be in serious trouble for continuing with your employment.

That would show a real misunderstanding of OCD given the research indicates people with intrusive, ego-dystonic thoughts about harming others are actually less likely to be violent towards others.

Velumental · 17/04/2026 20:20

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 20:16

@Avslighthead pkease don’t judge without knowing the full story

@AnyoneWhoHasAHeart ocd is a horrible mental illness and I genuinely hope you or someone you care about ever suffered from it, you clearly don’t understand. My schists has confirmed I’m not a danger to others so please don’t undermine their authority. I feel shot enough as it is and please show some compassion to someone who is very unwell

You state here you are very unwell. Not were unwell. Are.

How does the time it takes from your day manifest? Are you carrying out your workplace duties daily?

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:20

I think the threat is a bit of a red herring... I'm still trying to figure out what this means
"But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. "

@KittyCoo can you elaborate? It doesn't seem that the initial knife thing was the cause of the termination instead it's the bold bit above.

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 20:19

You've been off for 9 months (while on statutory sick pay and presumably getting PIP?) and you're surprised they dismissed you? Come on. this is not what the tribunal system is for. Being diagnosed with ocd isn't a shield against consequences for everything in life.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 20:17

Avslighthead · 17/04/2026 20:13

As i say - had a member of my team said that they were having violent thoughts regarding a knife and attacking colleagues - I would have had them immediately taken off the premises by security.

And if you didn’t allow them to return once you had consulted someone who actually knows about OCD, you would be acting in a discriminatory manner.

whatradiatorstopick · 17/04/2026 20:17

MrsMigginsBrunch · 17/04/2026 19:28

Definitely. My union said that I probably wouldn’t be sacked for being off sick for three years but they might offer me a settlement to leave.

Three YEARS? What business can support that level of absence?

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