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AIBU to consider legal action after dismissal for long-term sickness?

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KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:18

I’ve been dismissed from my job today due to long term sickness since August last year. I have crohns, ASD, and very severe OCD. I have intrusive thoughts and last summer I declared these to my boss who completely misunderstood me and was worried I’d act on these thoughts shock I told her they caused me immense distress.

Last month, I was confident I’d be able to return to work as I’m finally having CBT and on the right medication, now on an SSRI combined with an anti psychotic. My boss was supporting my return. But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. I then fed this back to my line manager saying I’ll beat this decision as in prove occ health wrong and that I am indeed fit for work. She arranged a meeting with me to discuss suspension and she knew my union rep was on annual leave but decided to go ahead with it anyway!!!

They dismissed me due to long term sickness and not taking into account what’s working well with my mental health!! I’m looking at finding a solicitor as I believe this is unfair dismissal due to my disabilities under the Equality Act 2010. I’ve contacted a few and had a few quotes back.

AIBU by wanting to take legal action and sue them because my OCD is deliberating and because of my ASD I have different communication styles that they’ve completely misunderstood. Do you think this is unfair dismissal ?

im so traumatised by it all and im worried ill be made homeless and have my property repossessed as I’ll have no money and won’t be able to find a future job

OP posts:
MrsMigginsBrunch · 17/04/2026 21:13

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 21:03

Erm, yes it is. You can't expect unlimited gimmes forever. 7+ months was generous!

“Unlimited gimmes”? What a disgusting thing to say

XenoBitch · 17/04/2026 21:12

S0j0urn4r · 17/04/2026 21:09

Have you contacted union? They may offer legal help.

It was my union who saved my job for 2 years (a 2 year final warning). Boss wanted to sack me, and the union came to the rescue.
I was sacked in the end, and that was also miss handled (I could not do overtime), but at the time I did not have the energy to fight it.
I really loved my job too.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 21:11

To add it’s hugely unlikely a direct discrimination claim would succeed unless the employee could provide a comparator who had been off for months with no prospect of return but hadn’t been dismissed.

Velvetandleather · 17/04/2026 21:10

Isn’t Aug nine months ago?

S0j0urn4r · 17/04/2026 21:09

Have you contacted union? They may offer legal help.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 21:09

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 21:05

You’re mistaken. There is no defence to discrimination.

think what you’re trying to say is this isn’t discrimination. That may be the case, we don’t know enough details to say if it is or not.

I am most definitely NOT mistaken. YOU on the other hand are 100% wrong in almost everything you have posted.

There is no defence for direct discrimination ie sacking someone because they are disabled. For that the employee would need to demonstrate less favourable treatment compared with a non disabled actual or hypothetical comparator.

However the other forms of disability discrimination ie indirect, discrimination arising from disability and failure to make reasonable adjustments most definitely can be justified as long as the action taken is a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim.

Go educate yourself before making a fool of yourself further

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 17/04/2026 21:08

OP, I know being dismissed is really distressing, but if Occ Health have said you are unfit to return to work, that would mean they don’t think there are any reasonable adjustments your employer can make, and it’s highly likely your employers will have taken legal advice. Acting on the advice of Occ Health is perfectly reasonable, and a GP note declaring you fit to work wouldn’t overturn that. Speak to your Union, but if you are worried about money I wouldn’t waste money on employment lawyers, your union will have access to legal advice they can take for you.

Blushingm · 17/04/2026 21:07

So

youve been off 7 months. OH say you’re unfit for work. You admit there’s no end in sight. What exactly do you think your employer has done wrong? Why should they keep you employed?

MutherTrucker · 17/04/2026 21:07

Tell us exactly why your boss thinks you are dangerous?

XenoBitch · 17/04/2026 21:06

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 21:03

Erm, yes it is. You can't expect unlimited gimmes forever. 7+ months was generous!

I worked with a lady who was off for months for cancer treatment.
Would you tell her that she should be thinking about her work collegues picking up the slack? No, because that is up to managment to sort, and no one off sick should be made to feel bad about being off.
But I am assuming that people off with MH should be treated different. I would be very happy to be corrected on that.

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 21:06

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 21:03

Erm, yes it is. You can't expect unlimited gimmes forever. 7+ months was generous!

No, the sick person doesn't bear the burden of the employers problem. It’s just a cost of doing business

employing people comes with risk.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 21:06

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 20:27

They can be removed from the workplace.

This isn’t the same as sacking.

again, if they are judged unfit to perform their job after reasonable adjustments, that is a legitimate reason to sack them.

Sacking them because you think that they pose harm to your workforce, even through you know they have an illnesses that causes these thoughts, is not legitimate

what adjustments can you make for someone threatening to harm colleagues?

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 21:05

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 20:59

Yes you can actually as long as you can demonstrate that the dismissal would be a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim

You’re mistaken. There is no defence to discrimination.

think what you’re trying to say is this isn’t discrimination. That may be the case, we don’t know enough details to say if it is or not.

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 21:03

XenoBitch · 17/04/2026 20:56

Whilst it sounds horrible for you; you could also think about it from the perspective of the company and other employees who have been understaffed for 7 months

That is absolutely not a burden for the person off sick to bear.

Erm, yes it is. You can't expect unlimited gimmes forever. 7+ months was generous!

Mollimayy · 17/04/2026 21:01

Oh goodness I feel for you but we have a girl at work bi polar ocd anxiety you name it and while I desperately feel for her she is useless in the job and we are feeling like we are providing care in the community while she gets paid. Really hard for everyone involved but trying to put it across from the other side x

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 21:00

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:58

@Avslighthead long term sickness was the reason why

@Itsmetheflamingo Thsnk you very much for helping me to clarify the reasons why I was dismissed were unfair and explaining that it’s illegal to sack someone with a disability. It makes me feel like absolute shit calling me dangerous and my psychiatrist has confirmed it not dangerous to my boss but she’s still having none of it!!!

It is not illegal to sack someone with a disability

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 20:59

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 19:35

That’s not why they sacked her and nor should it be. You can’t discriminate against someone with a mental illness by sacking them to protect your staff from harm.

if they did sack her for this reason and it can be proven then yes OP has a discrimination case

Yes you can actually as long as you can demonstrate that the dismissal would be a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 20:57

paulhollywoodshairgel · 17/04/2026 19:26

Have you looked at acas website? They should have exhausted every avenue before dismissing you. For the future have a look at access to work as well as they can provide grants for things to help you in the workplace. I suffer with agoraphobia and I get a transport grant for taxis to take me door to door.

Not quite. They have to make reasonable adjustments not exhaust every avenue.

Hallywally · 17/04/2026 20:56

It’s about what is sustainable from a business perspective. Seven months is unsustainable from a business perspective when OH have deemed you unfit to return to work. It’s that simple. Of course appeal the OH assessment and check they have complied with the law etc.

XenoBitch · 17/04/2026 20:56

Nuthatchtreelover · 17/04/2026 20:53

Don’t waist time money and angst on this, surely it will be long and stressful and very negative process. I’d use the money for something positive that you love.
Whilst it sounds horrible for you; you could also think about it from the perspective of the company and other employees who have been understaffed for 7 months.

Whilst it sounds horrible for you; you could also think about it from the perspective of the company and other employees who have been understaffed for 7 months

That is absolutely not a burden for the person off sick to bear.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 20:55

Before you’re going to get anywhere with this you’re going to have to produce medical evidence which will rebut the OH. From what you’ve said here it sounds like a fair decision so you may well struggle.

noctilucentcloud · 17/04/2026 20:55

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 20:40

After I lost my partner in a horrific incident and got diagnosed with ptsd and depression, I went back to work after 2 months. You just have to pull your socks up and get on with it, mental issues or not, especially if you have a mortgage. Honestly sounds like OP was trying to game the system and got burned.

Edited

I'm sorry, that must've been awful. Well done for surviving and getting through (and I don't mean that glibly as someone who's had poor MH myself at times). Not everyone's mental health problem can be dealt with like that though. The OP has been deemed unfit for work by OH so she's obviously still struggling significantly.

TheCobbleCreekMonster · 17/04/2026 20:55

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 20:07

@Avslighthead Please do some research on ocd rather than making me feel like shit.

The thing is the OCD is irrelevant here. You are not capable of doing the work the employer needs you to do as a result of it. It could be any illness. It makes no odds. Try and see it from their POV. They have employed you in good faith and you haven't done a stroke in seven months. In this economy, they have to protect themselves and try and run at full strength. Unless you have really really good evidence of discrimination, don't even consider legal action because it will cost you a fortune and what bit of your mental health you are clinging on to.
Let it go and concentrate on healing all day every day and when you are well, start afresh.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:54

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:51

Yes of course, I agree. Anyone could theoretically do anything.

And that is what everyone has been saying.

And on that note, I’m out. Can someone tag me if the OP ever responds to question about the OH comments on the time dedicated in the day on OCD?

I’m starting to feel like I understand why she was dismissed if she’s not able to provide basic information or answer a question.

MrsVBS · 17/04/2026 20:54

You’ve been off since last summer, do other people carry your work when you are off, how does it impact the team, will your OCD be a factor when you return? If you’ve been paid all this time I would say your employer has been more than understanding. Just because you have a disability, it’s not a get out of jail free card, if they have followed procedures then you won’t have a leg to stand on.