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AIBU to consider legal action after dismissal for long-term sickness?

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KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:18

I’ve been dismissed from my job today due to long term sickness since August last year. I have crohns, ASD, and very severe OCD. I have intrusive thoughts and last summer I declared these to my boss who completely misunderstood me and was worried I’d act on these thoughts shock I told her they caused me immense distress.

Last month, I was confident I’d be able to return to work as I’m finally having CBT and on the right medication, now on an SSRI combined with an anti psychotic. My boss was supporting my return. But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. I then fed this back to my line manager saying I’ll beat this decision as in prove occ health wrong and that I am indeed fit for work. She arranged a meeting with me to discuss suspension and she knew my union rep was on annual leave but decided to go ahead with it anyway!!!

They dismissed me due to long term sickness and not taking into account what’s working well with my mental health!! I’m looking at finding a solicitor as I believe this is unfair dismissal due to my disabilities under the Equality Act 2010. I’ve contacted a few and had a few quotes back.

AIBU by wanting to take legal action and sue them because my OCD is deliberating and because of my ASD I have different communication styles that they’ve completely misunderstood. Do you think this is unfair dismissal ?

im so traumatised by it all and im worried ill be made homeless and have my property repossessed as I’ll have no money and won’t be able to find a future job

OP posts:
Kimura · 17/04/2026 23:38

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 23:30

@PhoebeBuffay1234 @bigboykitty thank you once again for your kind words, I really appreciate your understanding at this time

@HoskinsChoice just because it’s gone on my record and no one will want me because of it. They’ve really knocked my confidence 😢

i don’t know why I bother after this 😢😢

Your previous employer can disclose the amount of sick leave you took, and that they dismissed you for long term sickness, but they cannot disclose details of your medical condition.

lazysundaymorning0 · 17/04/2026 23:36

It really is hard. I didn’t have a long period of sick but lots of single days off and ended up in a capability meeting for it. Endometriosis and was needing a day off every 2-3 weeks at the worst point

Beachtastic · 17/04/2026 23:32

I'm sorry you're having such a shit time of it OP, that constellation of illnesses must be a heavy burden to bear.

Legal action, though? Things have become very litigious in recent years, and I'm not sure it helps anyone in the end. Sure, you could kick up a fuss. But in the same spirit, they could kick up a fuss about your "threats".

It's a mismatch of expectations. Save your money and focus on getting well.

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 23:30

@PhoebeBuffay1234 @bigboykitty thank you once again for your kind words, I really appreciate your understanding at this time

@HoskinsChoice just because it’s gone on my record and no one will want me because of it. They’ve really knocked my confidence 😢

i don’t know why I bother after this 😢😢

OP posts:
YayRain · 17/04/2026 23:29

bigboykitty · 17/04/2026 23:26

In this instance, what it means is that people who think intrusive thoughts are indicative of risk, need to inform themselves better because they are factually incorrect. In OCD, the intrusive thoughts or urges are distressing to the person and they are ego dystonic. So yes, sometimes people have opinions based on ignorance and they do need to inform themselves. It's got nothing to do with my opinion.

Not sure the intrusive thoughts are necessarily the basis of the employers concerns though. OP has said it takes up considerable time. That's time she's not doing the job she is there and paid to do. That is more likely the issue. Employers don't pay people just to be nice.

OP needs to take legal advice from someone who can view the reasons given for her dismissal.

bigboykitty · 17/04/2026 23:28

To be fair, an Occ Health doctor is usually a medical doctor and may have very limited knowledge around mental health and definitely around specific anxiety disorders.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 23:26

PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 23:20

I’ve started to dislike the term “educate yourself” as it gets used as a guilt tripping mike drop..
what it really means, generally seems to be is- “you need to come to my way of thinking, your own opinion is clearly wrong you big fool!

Plus in this case, what they need to do is take advice from occupational health, which is what they’ve done.

A tribunal won’t say oh I’d have done x if I was an employer, got a report from the psychiatrist etc. What they will look at is whether a reasonable employer would have done what OP’s employer did, and if so, then fine. The fact that another employer may not have dismissed the employee or obtained different evidence does not mean there was anything wrong with what the employer did. More than one way to skin a cat, etc

bigboykitty · 17/04/2026 23:26

PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 23:20

I’ve started to dislike the term “educate yourself” as it gets used as a guilt tripping mike drop..
what it really means, generally seems to be is- “you need to come to my way of thinking, your own opinion is clearly wrong you big fool!

In this instance, what it means is that people who think intrusive thoughts are indicative of risk, need to inform themselves better because they are factually incorrect. In OCD, the intrusive thoughts or urges are distressing to the person and they are ego dystonic. So yes, sometimes people have opinions based on ignorance and they do need to inform themselves. It's got nothing to do with my opinion.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 23:24

PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 23:20

I’ve started to dislike the term “educate yourself” as it gets used as a guilt tripping mike drop..
what it really means, generally seems to be is- “you need to come to my way of thinking, your own opinion is clearly wrong you big fool!

Educating yourself in this instance would serve you well though.

PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 23:20

bigboykitty · 17/04/2026 23:05

The content of the thoughts is unimportant. The manager knows nothing about OCD and should educate themselves.

I’ve started to dislike the term “educate yourself” as it gets used as a guilt tripping mike drop..
what it really means, generally seems to be is- “you need to come to my way of thinking, your own opinion is clearly wrong you big fool!

YayRain · 17/04/2026 23:17

bigboykitty · 17/04/2026 23:05

The content of the thoughts is unimportant. The manager knows nothing about OCD and should educate themselves.

I suspect the OCD and education or not on it is side noise. The question the employer will be asking, especially after a long time, is: Can this person do their job? Are we able to provide the necessary accommodations for them to do their job?

If the answer is no, then it is reasonable to let the employee go. The reason is less important than whether they are capable of doing the role they are in.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 23:12

For anyone who might want to educate themselves.

www.ocduk.org/ocd/types/

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 23:11

Noodledog · 17/04/2026 23:07

The OP did say that her OCD is still taking a lot of time from her day and that there doesn't seem to be an end in sight. I have a lot of sympathy for her but I think it's important to be realistic about her prospects.

I agree. And I did state in my first comment I can’t help with the legal stuff in terms of that. It sounds like it’s the compulsions, anxiety and distress that are hindering her ability to work, in which case Occ Health may have done the right thing.

Noodledog · 17/04/2026 23:07

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 23:00

But if OP’s psychiatrist said she’s not a risk then she’s not a risk. If the OCD is stopping her doing her job it will likely be because of compulsions, distress or anxiety, which is a completely different matter and a potentially valid reason for Occ Health saying what they did.

The OP did say that her OCD is still taking a lot of time from her day and that there doesn't seem to be an end in sight. I have a lot of sympathy for her but I think it's important to be realistic about her prospects.

bigboykitty · 17/04/2026 23:05

PoppinjayPolly · 17/04/2026 19:39

So what should they do? If someone tells their manager they have thoughts about harming colleagues with a knife?

The content of the thoughts is unimportant. The manager knows nothing about OCD and should educate themselves.

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 17/04/2026 23:04

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 23:00

But if OP’s psychiatrist said she’s not a risk then she’s not a risk. If the OCD is stopping her doing her job it will likely be because of compulsions, distress or anxiety, which is a completely different matter and a potentially valid reason for Occ Health saying what they did.

Yes sorry I agree with that. Unless we know exact wording, it is vague

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 17/04/2026 23:03

For mh the employee must have a plan. Oh if I get these thoughts, I will complete cbt exercise, I am attending counselling/on medication... whatever that may be!
That means employee is aware and being realistic. If there is no plan and a mh condition is taking chunks out of your.. impacting your work... with no end in sight then yes, employee needs to consider that. Employers need to offer support where practical but sometimes this isnt. I'm my expertise, those with mh conditions have gone zero hours or resigned. Occ health was a tick box 🤷‍♀️

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 23:00

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 17/04/2026 22:56

It isnt about disagreeing with op. Occ health is about the work environment. Ops psychiatrist is probably for general, everyday.

But if OP’s psychiatrist said she’s not a risk then she’s not a risk. If the OCD is stopping her doing her job it will likely be because of compulsions, distress or anxiety, which is a completely different matter and a potentially valid reason for Occ Health saying what they did.

HoskinsChoice · 17/04/2026 23:00

@KittyCoo Why do you think you won't be able to get another job?

Franjipanl8r · 17/04/2026 22:58

Those I know with severe mental illness work part time and are self employed. Full time employment isn’t a viable option for everyone. Don’t waste your energy trying to fight this.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 22:58

musiclover2026 · 17/04/2026 22:53

Some people are just never going to get it no matter how many times it's explained to them are they!

You’re right. It’s wilful ignorance. And it makes life so much harder for those struggling.😢

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 17/04/2026 22:56

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 22:55

Yes, they do. But they’d have to have their own psychiatrist to disagree with OP’s and that would be very very unlikely.

It isnt about disagreeing with op. Occ health is about the work environment. Ops psychiatrist is probably for general, everyday.

YayRain · 17/04/2026 22:55

I know two people in the last year who have had to deal with threats to employment for medical reasons. One has cancer and their workplace had been very accommodating and kept their position open, done everything they can, but had to dismiss the person after over a year. The other had an accident and it was only weeks. They were told they had to be at 90% capacity by a certain date, or take unpaid leave indefinitely. It's hard but, in the end, workplaces are not charities and, if you are realistically unable to do the job, you do need to find something more suitable.

Due to my own non-medical but family oriented reasons, I am not in paid employment at the moment, because I know I am not up to the level of commitment one requires. The times I have worked have been when I've been able to get flexible hour, at home, short term positions. I find this sad sometimes as I do love my work, but I can't expect an employer to accommodate my personal needs to the degree it might sometimes be required.

By all means go through the appeal, but might it be better for you to find something that is a better fit? Less stressful too. Sometimes life just deals shitty hands. It's not our fault and doesn't make us worth less. Just means we have to adapt.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 22:55

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 17/04/2026 22:52

The employer needs occ health to give a workplace assessment they need to do their own checks so it doesnt matter what op psychiatrist says.
If they went purely off that person's word, and if absence persists or there was an issue, employer could be in trouble for not following process.

Yes, they do. But they’d have to have their own psychiatrist to disagree with OP’s and that would be very very unlikely.

MrsBrendaFarfetched · 17/04/2026 22:55

Please state occ health actual words it will help!! If occ health said this environment not good for op or they don't see a return happening in foreseeable then they were fine to dismiss. Along as the process was followed.