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AIBU to feel slightly uneasy that my DS didn’t go to University?

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CotswoldConundrum · 17/04/2026 12:31

He’s 21 working in IT, earning just over £30k and has been with the same company since starting as an apprentice at 17, so on paper he’s doing very well and I am proud of him.

I think it’s more that I wonder whether he’s missed out on the wider experience and keeping options open, rather than anything academic. He seems perfectly happy, so I’m conscious this may just be my own bias, as I went to University and so did his Dad (Not my DH now)

AIBU to feel like this or should I just take it as a win and leave it be?

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IamSmarticus · 17/04/2026 12:32

Take it as a win. University isn't for everyone and its not compulsory to go!

TheHouse · 17/04/2026 12:32

I have the opposite uneasy feeling about my son going and wasting the years tbh. No route is easy now.