To be hooked and aghast at this story

Ah. I’m now hooked too.😳

She didn’t leave him in the US, they all went to Mexico to avoid his arrest, then he agreed they could all return to the uk (he had to pay for tickets she didn’t have access to funds)

They did return to the uk, but took flights to Paris then planned to drive back to England. Things unravelled in France on the second part of the journey which is what led to them separating.

Anybody know why she went to France with him after leaving him in the US.

And now she’s using this experience to do exactly what she claims to have had done to her. I.e. exploit the gullible.

Likely she let this man exploit her, and then when she finally got out she thought that this would be a perfect opportunity for her to cash in. So out comes the gofundme, the insta, the trend, and bring on the bleeding hearts who are idiotic enough to donate to her coffers.

Anyone who gives to a stranger’s gofundme is a gullible idiot.

Victim my arse.

She’s no more a victim than the stupid women on the tinder swindler. She was addicted to the lifestyle in the same way they were. And now that it’s gone she’s decided to buy it back.

Look out for her on imaceleb or similar in the hopefully distant future.

This. I real hate the term victim blaming when used in this context. If someone has made repeated terrible decisions then they shouldn't expect immediate and unquestioning sympathy for the issues that have come about through those terrible decisions. There are threads like this on MN on a daily basis. It isn't victim blaming to point out maybe women should stop having kids with the shitty men that cause all their problems

Edit - it didn't show what post I was quoting but it was about her attending counselling etc after she'd already been scammed

This. I real hate the term victim blaming when used in this context. If someone has made repeated terrible decisions then they shouldn't expect immediate and unquestioning sympathy for the issues that have come about through those terrible decisions. There are threads like this on MN on a daily basis. It isn't victim blaming to point out maybe women should stop having kids with the shitty men that cause all their problems

I think the specularly bad decision was to transfer her inheritance into his sole account, knowing he had been in debt before. A joint one would have made sense but she instantly lost all visibility of it.

The rest is all common. Having a second child when on shaky ground after the first, being in a position where she couldn't work (due to Visa but even if in the UK I reckon he would have refused to help pay for nursery), letting him take out leases and debts in her name.

I honestly don’t think it’s spectacular. I think it’s pretty pedestrian, as a situation

I agree, and she was chasing a lifestyle. And although all her money is gone, she did have the lifestyle for a few years, and it does cost money.

Yes we all make poor decisions but hers seem to have been on a spectacular scale.

exactly. We all make poor decisions as we transition through life. What’s the big problem? That she was less than perfect?

I think it's a combination of factors. She admitted she was approaching her 30s and wanted a husband and children. Pretty much day one he was dangling the LA life - I'm not sure it would have lasted if he'd said his dream was to open a business in Scotland. I am massively sympathetic for all the times he took advantage of her when she was newly postpartum. But I'm really not into the "The UK is shit" smug social media users as she is painted by those Sun articles, so I can see why it gets people's backs up.

How could that happen without, at the very least, some poor decision making on her part?

I do agree and she now seems to be posting mummyinfluencer type reels. Yesterday she had a very dull story giving her son chocolate (are people really interested in crap like that?). In view of the background of her story publicly linking her children to it it seems unwise at best. Someone in the comments tried to point this out and she blithely said that he’d been on her TikTok story for the last year and it’s fine. Her naivety and poor decision making continues unabated.

While it may well be true, anyone who starts a gofundme and tells their story on social media is a bit of a con artist and on the make in their own right so I find it hard to sympathise given the red flags were blatantly obvious, this isn’t a man who was charming and the abuse surfaced behind the scenes, it was all publicly visible including the mother in prison and the shady past, and now she’s standing to profit from it.

Oh and, “sisterhood” is a load of bollocks

I have been following this story too and I agree it is compelling. But, let's be honest, the guy was a walking red flag. Yet she seemed to get deeper and deeper involved. Many can't fathom why anyone would do this!

He looks creepy!

I have been following this too. I watched all the instalments in one go! After a PP said they’d managed to work out who the husband is, by a bit of internet sleuthing I did too. Via finding the mum, via finding an article about her crime that is mentioned in the stories.
I hope it all works out for her , she does come across well and likeable, and he appears to be a complete pathological liar . She did ignore lots of red flags but it’s easy for outsiders to point that out , and she really did just want a happy life and family.

I have been hooked on this story today. Would be grateful if someone can PM me what they found out about the husband - so I can go down another rabbit hole.
So frightening!

She’s missed out the 6th reason ‘ because I’m with an abusive arse and it’s the only way I can leave him and keep my children’ 😂

I think it also goes to show how fake SM is and her posts at tge time show nothing that is going on behind the scenes!

I can’t find him but did find this -

https://www.thesun.ie/fabulous/16528936/moving-home-california-youll-miss/#:~:text=HOMEWARD%20BOUND-,Everyone's%20talking%20about%20leaving%20the%20UK%20but%20I'm%20moving,ll%20miss%20if%20you%20go&text=A%20COUPLE%20who%20quit%20the,joint%20income%20of%20%C2%A3170%2C000.

He's got a Linkedin with an employment history that matches too so I'm pretty sure it is legit.

What a lot of people don't realise is that the behaviour (not the California and Visa stuff but the spending, gaslighting, "I'll take your kids off you" stuff) is every other thread in relationships on here.

Ooh.

My PMs are open……..