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AIBU to discourage my son from dropping GCSE art now?

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Bloomsburygirl · 13/04/2026 15:03

My 15 year old DS wants to be a fashion designer. He is currently doing GCSE art but hates it. He loves designing fashions but dislikes painting, charcoal drawing etc. He wants to do A levels at King's Ely, but to get a place on the fashion and textiles course, he needs at least a 6 or above in GCSE art. They will consider a portfolio but only in exceptional circumstances. He has now decided he wants to drop GCSE art, despite the fact that King's Ely has pretty much said that the chances of him getting in without the required GCSEs are virtually non-existent. The fact that he has dropped art at this level will count against him, and entrance into the course is very competitive.

He has spent all Easter holidays working on one design, sometimes up to 10 hours per day. This is instead of doing his art portfolio. His other GCSE subjects are well on track - he is in the top sets for most of his subjects. AIBU to discourage him from dropping the one subject he needs to go to King's Ely or most other F&T courses? Or is this a case of letting him make his own decision, and his life will work out accordingly? When does a parent have to let go of the reins and let their child make their own decisions and possibly make mistakes? Please be gentle as I am just trying to be a good parent and support him. Should I back off and let him decide his own choices from now or do I intervene? What if it all goes wrong and he blames us for not guiding him?

Thank you for reading.

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ConBatulations · 13/04/2026 15:33

Could he do the textiles variant of art rather than fine art?

RandomMess · 13/04/2026 15:28

He needs a proper discussion on how there are many things in your working that you don’t like and/or are difficult. That knuckling down and getting his required grade is one of these times to learn about how to motivate himself and push through something he isn’t good at. There are essential work skills.

Bundleflower · 13/04/2026 15:18

Bloomsburygirl · 13/04/2026 15:16

He is at a private school, so he says he can do guided study. He refuses to consider a back-up plan. As far as he's concerned, they will be dazzled by his portfolio and admit him. And being 15, he is well into 'the age of infinite wisdom' and nothing his father or I say is correct.

If you know that it’ll balls up his dream (if it really is still his dream) and what he’s been working towards then you just say ‘no’.

Bloomsburygirl · 13/04/2026 15:16

He is at a private school, so he says he can do guided study. He refuses to consider a back-up plan. As far as he's concerned, they will be dazzled by his portfolio and admit him. And being 15, he is well into 'the age of infinite wisdom' and nothing his father or I say is correct.

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Buscobel · 13/04/2026 15:10

What course does he think he can get on to instead, if he drops Art?

What will he do during the Art lessons in school and will the school allow it?

It isn’t as simple as just dropping the subject. He has to be somewhere during the timetabled lessons and he will need to be supervised, so not always as straightforward as you may think.

Credittocress · 13/04/2026 15:06

Well he knows the consequences of dropping art so I’d let him. If he wanted to do law or maths and was risking his chances there I might be more bothered, but if he loses the chance to join a textiles course and has to do something else I couldn’t bring myself to be that bothered.