Pizza etiquette

That is my pizza of choice every single time. I'm also partial to some gorgonzola with pears, walnuts and a drizzle of honey. Don't mind mushrooms, don't mind a bit of spicy salami, but nothing beats the simple, classic, utterly perfect combo of black olives and anchovies.

Oh my! Agree 100%. Nowt better than a traditional Italian pizza made by an Italian - OMG, he was gorgeous (be still my beating heart) !!

So odd. Honestly. Odd comment from your DH too.

We have a pizza oven and let everyone do their own and cook it too if they want. Or if for some reason we were messaging them we'd ask what they'd like.
Or if they are making sharing pizzas they should ask what people like and could do half and halfs. I'd assume a lot of people would include a plain one as standard too!

You are an adult with full capacity?

Surely you just visit a few times a year as per your DH and your family

This - I would say also add I don't want any of your uncooked veg shit on mine. or ask them when they're going bore off to with their pizza oven. Next time they come to yours say you've got a microwave and serve them a microwave meal - don't ask them what they want just give them anything. if they say anything say here's your special meal here's your special meal.

Yes - and also, I'm a pizza purist and I think the traditional Italian versions can't be bettered.

The margarita is perfection, in my opinion.

Of course people can put whatever they want on a pizza (ugh...my husband loves his ham and pineapple) but to question why someone prefers the most traditional, time-honoured version (passata and cheese) is just wrong!

Next time you go take your own pizza 🍕
Ask them to just cook it for you 😁

OP you are not being unreasonable but this thread is so triggering for me. I remember visiting a BF in Sweden many years ago and, at an evening with friends at their house where we all ordered pizza. As I didn’t speak Swedish, BF ordered for me, and then very proudly presented me with my peanut pizza 🤮🤮🤮

It was the final straw.

So you want an easier and cheaper pizza and they complain...

Or better still, stay home and cook your shop bought pizza.

Take a shop bought pizza with you, because you don't want to inconvenience the mad bastards.

They have served OP something they like to eat and regard as a nice meal, with no reason to think OP won't enjoy it too - a kind and hospitable thing to do for the OP.

It isn't quite to OP's taste. She's not allergic, it's not a meat pizza and she's vegan, she doesn't have a lifelong loathing of pizza and wouldn't eat if if it was the last meal in the world. She simply doesn't much like the toppings or the fact they make the base soggy.

She asks for something different, effectively (whether said out loud or not) finding fault with their hospitality. They are probably either offended or hurt or both.

Nonetheless they comply with her request, but they make a point of handing her her 'special pizza' - we don't know exactly what form this took, whether jocular or huffy - whatever, ideally they should have concealed their feelings, but OP struck the first blow here.

OP was impolite, plain and simple. If someone takes the trouble to host you and cook for you, you should eat what you are given unless it's genuinely impossible.

But we are losing sight of consideration for others' feelings nowadays, it's always 'me me me' and stuff what impact there might be on others, we daren't eat a meal that's not restaurant quality or instagram perfect, that might mean putting up with a little discomfort, and that would never do.

Lockdown was your opportunity for a reset - I would suggest stopping going by stealth (like not going every 4th visit, then every 3rd visit). Eventually it’ll be a bearable amount (and the pizza is all about it being crisp underneath and then melty on top, so definitely needs minimal topping!)

So it's OK for them to not care about the OPs feelings?

They don't want her to enjoy her food.

They're rude to her when she politely asks for toppings to be left off and she doesn't even say it's because they're incapable of cooking them properly.

Yes, you are - it's called considering other people's feelings before your own, something there is a sad lack of in the 21st Century.

There used to be a pizza truck at the Cambridge folk festival which did a prosciutto and blue cheese topped pizza which was then topped with rocket, parmesan shavings and balsamic glaze.
I've tried making it at home many times but it's never quite as good.

We have had an Ooni for several years and learned quite quickly that the less you put on the base the better it is, it just doesn't cook properly.

Agree with PPs, the whole point is to let people choose what they want

So you're supposed to politely eat something that's badly cooked while they take the piss out of you? OK then.

All they need to do is either graciously make the OP a margherita or pre cook or slice finer the veg toppings so they cook nicely. That's not too much to ask, especially as they're showing off their fancy pizza oven.

@firstofallimadelight Maybe when you are next due to go, ask if it's pizza for dinner & if it is say that you'll give it a miss as you don't fancy pizza for dinner but you'll see them next time.

You want less on your pizza - not more. It would be a problem if you wanted a topping that they do not have or is difficult to source. Not wanting extra toppings poses no difficulty for them. YANBU at all.

In my house it was always top your own. Dad would lay out the bases and he put the pizza sauce on, then there were various different toppings laid out in bowls and we all picked our own, i like a fully loaded veg pizza, but my brother likes magherita, my husband and Dad were meast lovers.
Maybe suggest that next time you go, then everyone gets what they want.

I don't think it's really 'pizza etiquette' - it's eating a meal in someone else's house that they have cooked for you etiquette, and in those circumstances you should eat what's put before you unless you're allergic, have ethical concerns or a really pathological 'I'll vomit if I have to eat this' hatred of it.

If someone is making the food right in front of you... and adding toppings themselves... why would they insist on putting toppings on that you don't like? And she's just saying please don't add the toppings.
Its not like she's sending back a chicken and mushroom pie and asking if they can take the chicken out.
The host is actually mocking her and making a fuss about her not wanting to have toppings on her pizza (because they don't cook them properly) It's quite common to just have a plain Margarita pizza. I can't see a restaurant doing that

Is visiting family the same as going to a restaurant now?