Not dramatically, more just a gentle ‘let go’ thing, because I’m wondering if it’s run its course.
My friend and I have been very close since age 10, have weathered all the storms together, she’s the funniest person I’ve ever met and we just generally click.
She got married 3 years ago, I already had 2 children at that point. But since then it’s like she’s withdrawing from me. She takes ages to reply, often cancels plans to meet up, and when we do agree something I get messages asking to meet later, or to convert it from an overnight to an afternoon thing.
She and her husband were supposed to stay with us this weekend, we’ve had it planned for months. A few days ago I got a text saying they needed to stay home on Saturday so could they just come for Sunday. I said ok, annoyed as I had cancelled much needed overtime to spend the weekend with them. Then last night ‘can we come at lunchtime rather than the morning’. Yes that’s fine. Now I’ve just received a text saying they’ll be an hour late. No apology or reason.
I’m fed up now. I have 2 small children, a full time job, a dog and a disability and yet I make time for her and am ‘hosting’ today (she doesn’t really do this). I’ve spent a small fortune on food and drinks which now probably won’t be needed.
I know I’ll be told to have it out with her, but I just get the feeling there’s nothing up per se, she’s just become a bit inconsiderate. I have noticed some friends think because I have kids now, I’m transformed into a maternal Mother Theresa type who just wants to give give give and host them while they carry on a fun party lifestyle. Like I have nothing better to do than sit at home waiting for them to get in touch.
Just a moan really but would you call time on this one?