To ask to do some washing?

OP, they clearly have started to resent you being there. I wouldn't be staying there again.

Weird and tight.We have friends arriving from the US next month and I,'ve told them to pack light and just use our washing machine .They visited 4 years ago and had some of the biggest suitcases I have ever seen.

Strongly disagree. We went to Florida for a fortnight (pre-Trump) and only took hand luggage. We were staying somewhere with a washing machine and dryer, so why wouldn't we use it?

They are being ridiculous.

I wouldn’t be in a hurry to visit again.

Weirdos. Tight weirdos.

What a weird reply from I assume dh parents an not yours

glad you got it done in peace but shame had to pay for it

I read it as they are her dhs parents. I may be wrong but they are refusing to let their son wash his clothes and his children’s clothes. Either way, very mean behaviour.

I dont think OP said they were her parents, just that they are parents. Which is why I asked who they are to her. It’s mean either way but I think it would make a big difference for me in how I handled it.

What a strange reaction from parents.
FWIW I’m currently doing all my mums washing. She has a washing machine but due to illness doesn’t feel up to doing it herself. I can’t imagine being that tight that you would begrudge doing your child’s washing when they are at your house.

@JustGiveMeReason not many take a full wardrobe worth of clothes, bear in mind a lot of airlines charge £90 for a check in case, travelling as a family that adds up plus you’d expect to be able to do a wash at your parents.

FFS people.

Or hide a used tissue somewhere in the washing machine so that their next wash covers their clothes in tissue bits!

Just seen it's your parents which is weirder! My mum just lives two streets away and is forever offering to take my washing to her house to do to help me out despite the fact I'm at home with a perfectly functioning machine! I can't imagine being told by your own parent your taking advantage!

If I had anyone staying for a week, I'd be expecting them to do some washing and be asking them myself if they wanted it done! Such a bizarre reaction!

Really crazy. For me it’s the fact they invited you, not the other way around, yet they think you’re taking advantage somehow? It also isn’t as though you dumped a basket full and expected them to do it. I can see why that attitude has soured things, I wouldn’t stay with them again.

Omg they’re batshit, we regularly stay with a family member (not either of our mums) who gets our washing out of the bin bag I always put it in in our suitcase “to make up a load I was putting on anyway” and then we say no need no need and she says pffffft shush you don’t want to be doing a stack of washing when you get home don’t be silly.
This happens every time we go and we just roll with it and try not to have anything too horrid in the bin bag 😆😆😆

Your parents or your in-laws? Either way it’s really grumpy and ridiculous.

"Taking advantage" is a really strange way to phrase this. You didn't use the washer, drier, detergent, etc. without checking, or even assume you could use it. You asked permission and they said no. You respected that and cheerfully found another solution. That should have been the end of it.

(Obviously don't break their washer; you get loads of teenage edgelords in the middle of the night! 👺😡😈)

Not always strange . They did it to save on check in luggage therefore reduce cost on flight . Makes complete sense . Who would think that the parents would begrudge them the use of their washing machine .

You know… most people have their washing machines plugged in somewhere that isn’t easily visible. At about 3am this morning (or if they’re out tomorrow), I would take a little stroll and leave the plug in the socket but pull it out JUST enough that it’s not making a connection. Bonus points if the plug is behind the machine.

Suggest to your mother/in-law that she starts her own thread about her CF daughter/IL who had the audacity to ask to use her washing machine. That would be fun.

If I'd been in your shoes I'd have told her that I only ever ask of others what I would willingly do for them.

It was my mum who taught me that after a friend got offended when I asked her to retrieve my coat that I'd left in a pub a few doors down from her house and I was mortified.

That is the craziest thing I’ve heard in a while. Whenever we’ve had visitors stay I always tell them to help themselves to the washing machine and dryer. When my nephew was here I’d ask him if he wanted to throw some things in with our washing as he was travelling light.

When we were in the US we weren’t even staying with my brother but my SIL insisted we bring the washing over as we were on a month long trip. This is what normal families and friends do in my experience!

I learnt the hard way to keep visits short and sweet....otherwise they can turn sour! So much nicer to have independence and be able to up and leave.

Yes this!!!!

It seems an odd thing for hosts to say no to, but then I also think it beyond strange to go and stay somewhere for a week without taking enough clothes.