We have recently sold our house and bought a new one, and have made a good profit from it. Should be concluding in the next couple of months. We agreed that we will use some towards the mortgage, some for small renovations, and a little left over towards next year's holiday. DH also said he will use some to pay off debts he has from when we first got together. These are debts related to buying a fancy car, expensive clothes, etc. nothing to do with bills or redundancy or anything like that. I feel it's a little unfair as I'm not planning on taking the same amount for myself, when I suggested it he said I was being unfair (perhaps I am!). I hate to post about money because it always sounds so petty but it does feel a bit unfair that I've always been careful with money and never buy much for myself whereas DH does. Also just to say, I would be more than happy to pool our money together and then this wouldn't matter as much but DH wants our finances mainly separate. Please tell me if I'm being horrible. I don't have a problem with him sorting his debt out but feel it's only fair I have the same amount to play with.