AIBU to feel sad my son's inherited ring will be redesigned?

It's perfectly ok to feel as you do. But it's not your ring. It may be that he appreciates that the new engagement ring is built from this treasured piece of jewellery and made anew for the next generation. Also remember that once given and they marry, it will then be hers to keep.

Oh no that’s awful. I agree op, get another entirely and he should keep the ring to pass down his daughter if he had one etc don’t change it.

I think it's a lovely idea, FWIW.

My wedding ring is made up of my grandmother's original wedding ring, another wedding ring that my grandad bought her for their 50th wedding anniversary and a signet ring. They would have been shoved in a drawer and forgotten about if I hadn't used them.

There’s no guarantee their girlfriends will want it either though?

Reminds me we have a few dead bodies. Ashes obviously from long gone family members. I hope I’m not expected to inherit them along with all the jewellery I don’t want as the only female direct in line 😅

I mean I can sell rings but dead people.. what do I do with those.

@LancashireButterPie but there are no female descendants, apart from OP - she and her brother both have sons only

I think it’s a shame when inherited jewellery sits in a drawer for decades because it isn’t to anyone’s taste to wear it.

I agree with this. My DD wears my mum's engagement ring on her right hand and it means so much to her. If DS had handed it to his partner it just wouldn't mean the same to her as she did not grow up loving my mum as her Grannie.

While I can understand the sentimentality. I do think it’s lovely that the parts of the ring are being reused and redesigned in to something that will be worn for many more years. They are only physical objects. Whoever originally owned them loved them in their current format and gifted them on.

My brother and I have both inherited jewellery from deceased family members. My brother is gay and isn’t going to propose to a woman so he has adjusted the jewellery in to something he actually will wear (I don’t know if he has gifted any to his husband but the same applies). Which is much better than it being sat in a drawer or unappreciated or unloved. I have a son and would be happy if he did the same (conversely would also be happy if he sold it when he needed the money).

I was about to say the same. The other males of his generation have zero rights to the ring. They all got given a piece of jewellery.

It is his to keep, sell, throw away or dismantle as he wishes. Regardless of anyone else’s feelings on it, it’s his property.

It’s bittersweet I think! That’s how my mom felt when she gave me my Dads wedding ring for my Wedding.

It was a thick gold band, in a men’s style and was 2 sizes too small for me, as my dad got very thin and ill before he passed away.

Mom wanted me to have it, one sister had his gold necklace and crucifix and the other had a gold ring with an Oynx stone.

my wedding ring is just a simple gold band, but had to be smelted and more gold added for it to fit me. It was the metal that was precious, 50 years of love in that ring, the most beautiful love between my mom and dad!

Whatever the ring ends up looking like, the diamonds will hold the love of your mom. Maybe the metal and stones not used can be made into a pendant for the fiancée?

the love and sentiment is still there!

It's hard ,tnjbi have a chain of my nan which is old style is like to habe it made into bracelets for my daughters ,,but also have the same dilemma ,,however I think it's nicer to be worn redesigned than sit in a box unloved or worn unappreciated ,think of it as a mix of the new lucky wearer and the old wearer

I think its sad when people repurpose old jewellery, especially rings. The other day I found my grandmothers engagement ring and put it on, it was nice to feel I was wearing the same piece as she did all those years ago.
If he's not sentimental could you offer to buy the diamonds he was intending to repurpose for the halo so the original ring isn't taken apart?

Its not just being redesigned though is it. The stones are being removed and used in a completely different ring, presumably the gold will just get melted down. I think its a shame.

My mum gave my son her engagement ring a few days before she died. They were very close and my mum was very fond of his girlfriend. They had been together for years and my mum knew they intended to get married. Before he accepted it he told my mum that he couldn’t guarantee his girlfriend would want it and he wasn’t going to put any pressure on her. My mum fully accepted that and said she trusted him to do the right thing with it if his girlfriend didn’t want it. As it turned out they got engaged about 3 months after my mum died. His girlfriend (now wife). absolutely loves the ring and it means so much to her.
I can say hand on heart though that if she had wanted to redesign it that would also have been perfect. I no longer see it as my mum’s ring, it’s hers now. I do live the story behind it though and I know they do too.

Picture of 1.45 ct sapphire with diamonds.

I’d just rather it was left untouched in case his brother or cousins would like to use it as is.

But each of them got a piece of jewellery from your mother, so it would only be fair to DS1 if they wanted to buy it from him or if they wanted to exchange with their DGM piece.

And depending on ages/inclinations, it could be years until any of them are proposing, and no guarantee their fiancées wouldn’t feel the same on style preference.

If I was the fiancee I really wouldn't want a sentimental ring like this dismantled. If I didn't like it as is (which is fine) then I'd choose a new one to my taste.