AIBU to feel uneasy about male staff in nurseries?

This is rubbish. I have reasons to trust my partner but no reason to trust a rando man just because they’re employed by a nursery.

I think its women who have only ever been sexually exploited by the men around them from a very young age. They dont know men who didn't try and get sexual gratification from them so they assume all men with opportunity will do the same.

It’s amazing that you feel qualified to speak on behalf of all of them

All Black men. I didnt say we have the longest relationships, I said that our men cook and clean because their mothers made sure they can before they were adults.

I really don’t get this. A man who wants to look after children is just a man who wants to look after children in my eyes. Assuming that they have evil intentions is really closed minded. Would you think that of a woman urologist?? A male paediatrician?? It makes no sense to me.

This is really entertaining 🙂
A bit like the MN threads on " how often do you shower?/ change your towels/ wash your hair?

You really are on a sticky wicket there
Tread carefully or you’ll get banned
Again

Sure and that's why there are so many women who look just like you complaining that their men do fuck all.

Hopefully you didnt know your partner when you were a child and they were an adult who is sexually attracted to you.

You have no real idea what your partner does with or to children or what they want to do with children and they are the most likely to abuse your kids.

You knowing them means nothing except that they have better proximity to abuse your kids because of your familiarity with them.

It obviously is but thats ok..lots of people are from.cultures where men do not display caring qualities and therefore it is foreign to them

"But that's ok" 😂
That's not my culture. Not my father, brothers and husband - all loving, caring men. Hands on dads but not other children.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
come on then answer the question

Black covers quite a multitude of cultures though, are you able to pinpoint it or is it just all black men? Because I have some statistics on those in terms of marriage and divorce rates and sticking around to raise children?

Cultures where changing a babies nappy isnt seen as inappropriate for a man to do..

Oh are you back to enlighten us as to which cultures these caring safe men are from?

But the obvious difference is that you know your partner/the father of your child and have the opportunity to see their behaviour over a period of years with and away from your child.

By contrast you have no clue who these nursery workers are or what they are like. You are placing your full trust in whatever vetting process the nursery has done (which obviously wouldn’t flag up anything if they’ve never been caught before) + fleeting interactions at drop off and pick up.

Fair enough. Many are though. So I like to ask.

I still think your claim that all black men help with childcare and housework seems optimistic.
I think it's rather misogynistic to not allow parents the choice to choose their nursery worker, but you do you.

No. I am a Black woman. Not everyone who disagrees with you is a man. Grow up and stop being such a misogynist
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Looks like you were off the ball there.

Oh just realised you are a man aren't you @GlovedhandsCecilia?

They are in their 20s now so a bit late.😂

If you wanted to eliminate the risk as much as you could, you wouldnt start with male nursery workers. You'd start much closer to home. Dad is more of a risk than nursery worker. Even though the risk is tiny. It's still bigger than a nursery worker. Your man is still the person most likely to sexually abuse your child. Get him.away from your kid(s).

I agree. But why wouldn't I eliminate as much risk as I can?
Who does it hurt? Male nursery workers?
I am afraid I do not care.

The risk of an RTA is far higher than the risk of SA by a nursery worker. Sometimes we have to learn how to compare numbers.

7 is smaller than 10

10 is bigger than 8

Now you fill in the gaps:

9 is __ than 13

18 is _ than 26.

Ok. Except I didn't say men couldn't choose to be in a caring role. I am sure some do.