Being fat stopping me from being happy

Didn’t diet but started running just 2 miles per day. Took around 20 minutes when I finally could do it without stopping.

I wasn’t particularly over weight to begin with. But lost a stone over around 9months

I wasn’t eating excessively to begin with and my eating habits didn’t change but the weight did slowly melt away

Go on the 5/2 diet. Fast 2 days, eat sensible 5 days. It's a myth that you need to exercise to loose weight. Exercise might help you feel a bit better but running for 25 mins only burns around 300 calories. That's the same calories as a MacDonald's cheeseburger.. Which takes about 3 minutes to eat. You have got to be disciplined though.

Oh my God, zombie I know but this pissed me off so much. There is a massive link between sleep deprivation and weight gain. Sleep deprivation changes your hormones and makes you hungrier. It also makes you eat more to try to get energy and you have less energy to move and motivate yourself to move. This is such an ignorant post.

Ok. You aren’t fat or even particularly big. You’re just bigger than you want to be.

However, I do understand that when you don’t look like you want to, you don’t feel right and that affects your overall happiness.

I doubt you will qualify for WLIs as you’re not obese but I would imagine most of MN obtain them on the black market so…

In terms of practical advice, have you tried low carb/keto? It is the only thing that stops me craving sugar and it turns off “food noise” for me.

Being fat keeps me from being unhappy but there are more reasons for that than just the fat, I believe. The whole thing is rather complicated.

By any chance, did you think 'the risk of regain is higher' meant if you stop WLIs it's higher than with dieting, rather than higher than if you keep taking the WLIs?

WLI. That's my advice, that's my compete advice and you should start tomorrow or as soon as you can. Why battle on exhausting yourself even further when you don't have to? All the protein and movement and hydration will naturally follow, and you can start to feed and care for your body, but it's hard to start from a place where you can't get a handle on it alone.

You stated the risk of regain was higher, then you quoted the analysis of the trial participants to back that up.

so yes, you misled. Either as you’ve issues with the drugs or you didn’t know.

It's a correct description of the BMJ review I mentioned.

You'll note that I specified the authors themselves said more research was needed, and didn't disagree with this. They're right, it is! I also was clear that dieters usually regain weight too. This is a point I bring up a lot, as my posting history will attest.

There's a great deal of nonsense been spouted about that review, not helped by the headlines that funnily enough chose to focus on the WLI users regaining faster rather than them still being lighter than the dieters despite that. But actually, nothing you've written here is in disagreement with what I wrote.

The 3pm cake and the glass of wine after bedtime are the only enjoyable moments of my day really. Everything else work and chores and toddler.

Need to find morale boosters/rewards that don't have calories in them. Once you swap them out you won't miss the cake/wine/gin.

You won’t be helped by the comments telling you a 14 isn’t fat.

This.

It's like the people in the pub coaxing an alcoholic to have one more drink.

The way to objectively 'diagnose' fatness is to calculate BMI and check it on the NHS chart. That doesn't lie.

Of course that works the other end as well, if the original size 8 is underweight for the OP that would be a heads up to up her calories a bit.

This is incorrect or incomplete.

the data was on the trial participants who only lost an average of 8kg, they did regain faster when the trial stopped. Howver real life data coming out now is showing people are keeping it off longer. Likely as they don’t feel deprived when on them so less likely to go nuts, however 80 percent of people who diet regain the weight , all of it and more, within 5 years. So far those who use the drugs seem to be fairing better.

however more than that if you find your weight creeps up,as long as within a year, you can go back on, so ie just to lose half a stone and reset.

please ensure you post factual information if advising someone.

This. That's what's making you unhappy and no wonder.

Monjaro. It is life changing. Food noise goes away also agree with everyone who said reduce hours Good luck

I think you need to focus on your diet as you don’t seem to have time to increase exercise much. Although you should definitely do that where you can.

What is your BMI? Would you qualify for WLI?

You have a dh problem.

Dh might do something and you think that something is better than nothing but ultimately what is he doing that he couldn’t be replaced by paid help who would be a lot more reliable and do a better job

Your weight issue stems from your lack of sleep and your lack of sleep stems from your dh not taking over at least every other night so you can get a decent nights sleep.

Why can’t dh take ds into another room and leave you to sleep every other night at least.

I would be threatening him with 50/50 custody so he has to get up with DS every single night for the 3/4 nights of the week he has him and then get him up dressed and into nursery and then collect him and then cook, clean, feed DS, shop for food, do laundry, and be responsible for DS and get up with him during the night for 3/4 days per week.

Think about it. Lack of sleep is a form of torture. Your dh not helping you with DS during the night means your dh is literally torturing you

OP you don't look awful. At that height and weight you might look softly rounded but not fat.
You sound a bit depressed. See if you can get some counselling sessions via your work EAP.

Whether feeling fat, plump, bloated or those bingo wings / love handles looking a bit more noticeable in the mirror - as long as you are going to lose weight to make you healthier and happier then that's all OK in my book.

I'm embarking on a post Easter effort... this is my gameplan

MyfitnessPal app (free version is good enough) to track everything eaten - more to keep me honest than counting every calorie

High protein foods - two of my faves are Aldi Protein pouches (mango soft cheese yoghurt are delicious and only 99p for 25g protein) for breakfast and light lunch of spice dusted air fried chicken breasts.

GLP - yes, jabs are also on the menu, but only legitimate supply like MedExpress (£50 off using AW437 code is a bonus)

Gym & Swim - local council leisure centre has a Spring promotion and won't be crazy busy like first week in January

For me, I will need to do all four of these to get another steady, sure and healthy weight drop for the Summer and more importantly for me!!

HTH - Good luck

If you earn a good wage can you afford to buy weight loss injections? It has been a game changer for me, had a health check recently and the doctor was thrilled with my progress, I feel so much better in myself too.

I was you a few years ago. Similar height and was a 14, my BMI was overweight and I just didn’t feel like myself though I’ve always struggled with my weight.

what turned it around for me was intermittent fasting which I found relatively easy as it curbs my hunger pangs. I then cut out ultra processed foods which is created really to make you hungry.
I’ve lost 3stone and kept it off and feel a hundred times better.

the first week is the hardest when cutting out the rubbish and then suddenly one day you don’t want it anymore and when you taste it, you can tell how synthetic it is.

chris Van Tulleken is a good read to understand it better.

Good luck, bloody hard without proper sleep.

Have you tried low carbing? I am a sugar addict but when I go low carb I have so much more energy and can easily not eat. The weight easily drops off then. If you can try this I would start with making the first thing you eat a day low carb as that will impact the rest of your food for the day. You can then start making your other meals low carb too.
It will definitely be the sugar making you feel so shit and if you can get out of the cycle you'll feel so much better.

I mean this kindly. Being ‘fat’ sounds like the least of your problems. You’re working too much, sleeping and resting too little, eating a diet that’s making you feel rubbish, and you’re not that well supported by your partner. Of course you feel bad! You’re totally burnt out.

I’d stop worrying about the weight while you solve all those problems first. Start with working less - take a month off with stress and rest if you need to. Make a plan for your life to be sustainable. Easier said than done but the first step is not trying to solve the wrong problem. Being thin wouldn’t solve any of this.

I lost all my baby weight on maternity but gained it all when going back to work. Batch cooking and walking saved me. Can you reduce hours? Can you stay away one night a week? Premierinn near to office? Make your DH do a night, say it’s a work thing?