Child given money by "Vicar" at school

I haven't RTFT so apologies if this has already been mentioned, but I suggest you hold on to the £5 note, preferably in an envelope or a plastic bag, as it might be needed as evidence (fingerprints etc) in a further investigation.

She knows their name

Could you clarify whether the person who gave your child money is a man or a woman.

Thank you for being suitably incredulous on the OPs behalf. I was merely offering to help if needed.

Lots of people seem to miss "innocent until proven guilty" and lots of people never seem able to shake off allegations once they have been made.

The Police don't "press charges" the CPS do. (Crown Prosecution Service)
The job of the police is to gather evidence and submit it to the CPS who determine the validity of the allegations. It is they who decide if the evidence will secure a conviction, and if it won't they have to let the accused go.

I'm not sure what point you're trying to make here?

"Innocent until proven guilty" seems to escape lots of people in the UK.
That Radio Presenter was sacked last week over 10 year old allegations that the police didn't press charges with.

Maybe you do have that experience but everyone is "innocent until proven guilty".
Peoples' lives have been wrecked and reputations destroyed by false allegations.

I speak from experience of a serious safeguarding case. Diocese safeguarding officer did everything within his power to rubbish the allegations, including interviewing alleged victim with perpetrator present. It happens! Fortunately others protect children.

Despite it being the holidays, you should be able to reach the Safeguarding Lead. This should be signposted on the school website or in communications to parents.
You are 100% doing the right thing in contacting... in school we have it drummed into us never to single out children for special treatment, no matter how well intended.
Even if this person is just very misguided and naive around children, they need to be trained and dealt with or they shouldn't be allowed into schools.

We are expressly told never ever to keep secrets with a child or encourage them to do so. This is ringing alarm bells.

So could you for that matter !

A shame you have to be so condescending.

You seem to have an issue with this topic, why is that?

Have you been DBS checked?

@DugnuttEyeBoogies Pay the DBS or let a primary age kid be raped by a disgusting pervert? Ooh tough choice

It's not an either/or situation - that a simplistic view

Don't forget a DBS certificate proves nothing - only that someone never got caught.

I’m afraid I wouldn’t wait for school to reopen, I’d report to the police. And I say that as an officer working in child protection. Schools aren’t investigators. They don’t hold intelligence on people. And if they do their own investigation they could give the person the heads up it’ll be handed to police, but still nothing will happen for another fortnight. Please call it in and report it.

Oh my goodness, call the school immediately and request that vicar guy be nowhere near children.Huge red flag 1 - giving your daughter money ie a gift. Huge red flag 2 - asking her to keep it a secret. This is paedophilic behaviour and it needs reporting immediately. Do not second guess this. You had a hunch it was off so trust your gut instinct. No need for niceties and polite behaviour when it comes to protecting kids.

Why should OP trust you, random internet person? You could be anybody

Your whatsboutism is sickening. Yes there are abusers and paedophilic abusers everywhere - that’s the fucking point, so everyone should do everything they can to protect children and the vulnerable.

Pay the DBS or let a primary age kid be raped by a disgusting pervert? Ooh tough choice.

He played the guitar and was helping some children learn and he had parents' permission for that, This involved sitting behind the child on another chair and guiding their fingers into position on the fret.

That is not how to teach guitar.

Worst advice ever. OP should follow safeguarding protocols, email school and LADO, Diocese, as stated many times in thread.

6?? OP said her daughter was 10. Year 5.

Better some kids miss out on lessons than even one kid is abused.
Shame you can’t see that.

Glad you’ve contacted school OP. I would also contact the diocese safeguarding officer. And depending on whether both school and diocese act immediately, LADO too.

Assuming she’s telling the truth, then at worst he’s grooming, but even at best he’s displaying appalling judgement and a total lack of safeguarding understanding. Which is also totally unacceptable in his position.

Brace yourself for having to stand up for your child though. I’d expect him to just blatantly deny this ever happened.

It seems from reading the thread that more schools were open than shut so @MagicTapemust be feeling pretty stupid right now. As a PP said, trying to cast aspersions on OP’s story?

Yeah let’s never believe women and girls when they are subject to grooming or abuse.

Lived experience thanks

With the rates of reported historical and current child abuse, you are alarmingly naive. It’s not a conspiracy, it’s safeguarding as now we KNOW that a percentage of adult men are paedophiles (even if many don’t act on it to a criminal level).