Child given money by "Vicar" at school

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 2026-04-03T19:51:59+00:00

So my 10 year old daughter (year 5) came home from school on Thursday and told us the Vicar (possibly just a trainee, I'm not entirely sure) who was taking their collective worship at school gave her £5 to "get herself an Easter treat" and that it was "just between me and you" I asked her if she told the teacher and she said no. I feel quite uneasy about this, should I say something to the school?

Needspaceforlego · 26/06/2026 14:01

Does matter if it was the child or the poster, somebody made it up.

Nobody is going to hand a child money in a room with a couple of hundred kids and hope nobody notices.

Posters were jumping up and down about grooming, with no thought about how could the vicar possibly plan their next interaction. The same child is unlikely to be at the end of a row again in the same circumstances.

Grooming is more likely to happen where someone can slowly build up a relationship on a regular basis.

GlobalTravellerbutespeciallyBognor · 26/06/2026 13:07

Mycarsmellsoflavender · 27/04/2026 21:37

Or it was a made up post to test people’s gender bias. The OP never specified the gender of ‘the vicar’ and used ‘they’ and ‘this person’ instead of ‘he’ or ‘she’. The vast majority of posters assumed it was a man. The OP repeatedly ignored questions relating to the gender of the vicar.

Pathetic if you are right - no one has time or energy for this sort of ‘test’

deeahgwitch · 26/06/2026 10:52

Well @TakeALookAtTheseSwatches might come back and tell us.

EverythingElseIsTaken · 26/06/2026 09:27

I reckon OP looked into it a bit more and found out her child made the whole thing up! If it was true then we would have had an update.

deeahgwitch · 26/06/2026 09:21

What happened in the end ?

TheSquareMile · 01/06/2026 16:19

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 15/04/2026 09:27

I can't give an update if there is no update yet 🙄

@TakeALookAtTheseSwatches

Was this conundrum ever solved, OP?

SpryTaupeTurtle · 27/04/2026 22:40

Needspaceforlego · 27/04/2026 19:52

Posters were slated for saying similar on day one.
People seem so determined to think kids couldn't possibly make up a story.

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Yeah.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 27/04/2026 21:39

Needspaceforlego · 27/04/2026 19:52

Posters were slated for saying similar on day one.
People seem so determined to think kids couldn't possibly make up a story.

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My almost 8 nephew is a terrible fibber. Little devil.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 27/04/2026 21:38

Mycarsmellsoflavender · 27/04/2026 21:37

Or it was a made up post to test people’s gender bias. The OP never specified the gender of ‘the vicar’ and used ‘they’ and ‘this person’ instead of ‘he’ or ‘she’. The vast majority of posters assumed it was a man. The OP repeatedly ignored questions relating to the gender of the vicar.

Anyone done an advanced search? I cba.

Mycarsmellsoflavender · 27/04/2026 21:37

Or it was a made up post to test people’s gender bias. The OP never specified the gender of ‘the vicar’ and used ‘they’ and ‘this person’ instead of ‘he’ or ‘she’. The vast majority of posters assumed it was a man. The OP repeatedly ignored questions relating to the gender of the vicar.

Needspaceforlego · 27/04/2026 19:52

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 27/04/2026 09:22

That would fit in nicely. The most plausible explanation really.

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Posters were slated for saying similar on day one.
People seem so determined to think kids couldn't possibly make up a story.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 27/04/2026 09:22

OhWise1 · 27/04/2026 09:06

I think this kid found or 'found' a fiver and made up the vicar cover story. The school knew immediately the story could not be true, and has told the op this and why, so she has had no motivation to return to the thread.

That would fit in nicely. The most plausible explanation really.

OhWise1 · 27/04/2026 09:06

I think this kid found or 'found' a fiver and made up the vicar cover story. The school knew immediately the story could not be true, and has told the op this and why, so she has had no motivation to return to the thread.

SpryTaupeTurtle · 27/04/2026 01:22

ProfessorBinturong · 24/04/2026 18:16

To get advice.

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Sure

ProfessorBinturong · 24/04/2026 18:16

SpryTaupeTurtle · 24/04/2026 10:16

Why start the thread then

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To get advice.

MadeInGrimsby · 24/04/2026 10:24

suki1964 · 24/04/2026 01:31

So near on 2 weeks on, any "update"?

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I think it's 3 weeks!

SpryTaupeTurtle · 24/04/2026 10:16

Dodorogers · 23/04/2026 13:16

Or people’s lives aren’t for your entertainment and she doesn’t owe you anything

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Why start the thread then

SpryTaupeTurtle · 24/04/2026 10:16

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 23/04/2026 11:25

You don’t have to. You can just read OP’s own posts.

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Already posted

awfulapril · 24/04/2026 04:32

Christ guys. Get your own lives

suki1964 · 24/04/2026 01:31

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 15/04/2026 09:27

I can't give an update if there is no update yet 🙄

So near on 2 weeks on, any "update"?

Dodorogers · 23/04/2026 13:16

FinalFinalFile · 23/04/2026 07:18

Or she got so fed up with people calling her a liar that she decided the thread was not helpful to her.

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Or people’s lives aren’t for your entertainment and she doesn’t owe you anything

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 23/04/2026 11:25

SpryTaupeTurtle · 09/04/2026 13:53

With respect I can't be bothered trawling through 28 pages.

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You don’t have to. You can just read OP’s own posts.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 23/04/2026 11:23

Tiggles · 09/04/2026 11:56

Sadly nor do schools
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0mxk1g2vnjo
But everyone is trying to learn from their mistakes.

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That is horrific reading, what an evil bastard and what an absolute scandal of incompetence and disregard of vulnerable victims.
I hope he gets hell in jail, absolute scum.

YourHeartyFatball · 23/04/2026 07:31

FinalFinalFile · 23/04/2026 07:18

Or she got so fed up with people calling her a liar that she decided the thread was not helpful to her.

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Absolutely. Some of these comments show why people don’t report things.

FinalFinalFile · 23/04/2026 07:18

LauraJaneGrace · 22/04/2026 12:56

Well, absolutely no update after so much discussion about children in danger and the necessary contacting of all of the " relevant authorities" so I would imagine the actual situation wasn't exactly as described in the first place.

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Or she got so fed up with people calling her a liar that she decided the thread was not helpful to her.