AIBU to refuse inheritance so my estranged father cannot benefit?

It's bard because there is family attachment to the cabin, isn't it. We had quite a stir about ours at one point too as younger gen wanted to sell one, older ones did not even though that no one was actually using that one at all...

Good your GM understood. If you are ue inheritances in future, I would start talkimg with the people, like your mum, so you don't end up with same issue.

I'd take it and cross the bridge later. Does he have the same disability as you? Won't he then likely die first?

Mumsnet is quite the diverse forum, and there are people on here that are indeed familiar with both Russian law and living in the US.

I came on here to type exactly this.

According to Russian inheritance laws, Forced Heirship applies in certain circumstances. So if the OP is outlived by her father, potentially he could inherit some of her estate but there are exceptions to this, one being if a parent abused or abandoned a child. This must be clearly stated in the deceased’s Will and with ensure that the OPs father cannot inherit anything. https://www.lawgratis.com/blog-detail/inheritance-laws-in-russia

OP isn't asking for legal advice @StolenTeapots.

I think if this is about Russian law and you live in the US then it's going to be very hard for a predominantly UK based forum to accurately help. You need legal advice that are experienced in these countries rules.

It’s sounds like you’ve managed to explain things to your grandmother, Op, and that she understands. Hopefully it will also help she and your mother to work through the hurt from your great grandma bypassing your grandma in her own will. Fingers crossed that this becomes something that helps bring you closer, not push you apart.

@Joliefolie@ProfessorBinturong thanks for calling me out - I’m normally obsessive on reading an OP’s posts, to avoid crass insensitivity like this. I’ve apologised to @Kate8889 & feel like an ignorant idiot in the circumstances.

@Kate8889 My apologies for being insensitive. I wish you well for your health & all other aspects of your life.

If you pre-decease your dad, you won't be around to care if he benefits...

There are lots of countries where it isn't possible to entirely disinherit family members - eg France and Scotland.

Read. The. Thread.

What are the chances of you dying before him, do you have a serious illness? In the worst case he gets a quarter and you pass on the rest. Don't upset your GM over this.

@Charliede1182 the problem is that it it nowhere near as simple as 'just spend it' when 'it' is a house in Russia.

@DanNW2025 you've misunderstood. The OP gets 100% of it (it being an asset it's very difficult for her to do anything with). Then when she dies, her father gets 1/4 of it.

75% of something is better than 100% of nothing. Don’t cut your nose off to spite your face.

Why not just spend it and enjoy it rather than refusing a gift because of what "might" happen.

Making yourself poorer to possibly get one up on somebody once you are dead is one of the stupidest things I've heard, and given he is that much older it is statistically unlikely anyway.

Don't upset your Grandma - accept it and then deal with it to ensure your Dad can't get anything.

So inherit it then sell it and give the money to your Mum, or buy stuff with it, or give it to charity, as long as it is gone before you are, your Dad won't get a bean.

I think you've done the best and least complicated thing. What did your grandma say? I hope she understood and will leave it to your mum.

I was pretty much joking about the diamond necklace. I'm sure there is more involved than just saying "Oh, this old thing? I bought it at Tiffany's in Moscow" at the border checkpoint.

You can do a bank transfer, legally. You don’t have to cash out $10k at a time via Estonia. Not all Russian banks are sanctioned. You would have to declare a larger transfer to the IRS, but that isn’t going to be a problem as long as your documentation is in order for both the U.S and Russia.

There’s no inheritance tax, but if you sold the property within three years you would be liable to pay a much higher income tax on it. You wouldn’t be liable to pay tax if you gave it as a gift to your mother.

There are lawyers that are well practiced in navigating the many tentacled bureaucracy of it all.

More info that may be useful:

https://gflolaw.com/en/money-transfers-from-russia/

https://oplatym-exchange.ru/?utm_source=vc&utm_medium=article&utm_campaign=content

https://oplatym-exchange.ru/usa

and more general info about Russian inheritance from a US based lawyer:

skatoff.com/florida-probate-lawyer/how-to-receive-an-inheritance-from-russia/

Just accept it and sell it to your mother? For $1 is necessary.

Then she needs to abide by the rules about how much money she can withdraw from her home country and what the requirements are when doing this..

eg : In UK if you want to take £1000+ out of the country then it needs to be declared, along with proof of how it was obtained eg withdrawal slip, bank statement.

So she needs to be asking those who have knowledge of this.
Which is why I said she needs specialist advice.

Good approach.

And I agree that getting the money out would be hard - there will be as many scammers as people trying to go around the rules and get money out.

When I read some of the suggestions, it's clear how much we (general we) don't appreciate a working system while it works and how we can't imagine that it might just not work one day.