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AIBU to want to move away after my partner's affair?

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TheLittleMatchGirl · 01/04/2026 20:35

My partner has been cheating on me and as result of that, he got the other women pregnant, he confessed because the child is now here, and it’s obvious that he wants to play a role in that childs life.

Him and I, already have children together, our eldest being 11 years of age. His mother whom I have a good relationship with, has assured me that she didn’t know about this before hand and if she did, she would have told me, I believe her.

I am really not coping at the moment, due to the shock and devastation, but I WILL get to the stage where I will be able to cope by myself.

I can no longer stay in the family house, I just want to take my children and leave and start a new life, as far away as possible.

Because staying here, and having to see him is going to break me, he is already broken up our family and the children are asking questions.

I never ever thought that something like this would happen to me, and I don’t know why he has done this to us.

OP posts:
TheLittleMatchGirl · 01/04/2026 20:57

Thanks for the support, yes I live close to friends and family. I haven’t told anyone yet due to the embarrassment and I don’t know how and when I will tell them.

OP posts:
Pippa12 · 01/04/2026 20:46

Do you live close to supportive friends and family? Why should you and your children move from everything you know because of his shameful actions! Don’t make any big decisions. Take a breath. I’m sorry this has happened.

He’s a monumental shit.

ffsnewusername · 01/04/2026 20:46

This happened to me too OP. It’s going to be hard but you will come out the other side. Sending love ❤️

Catza · 01/04/2026 20:42

Because he is a cunt. There is no other explanation. But I know how you feel and I just pulled out of a house purchase 9 months after separation because I realised that I don't want to live on the same planet as my ex, let alone the city. Despite being totally over the relationship and having recently started dating someone new, the trauma of the betrayal wasn't something I needed triggering by walking the same streets. So totally relatable.
A fresh start might be just what you need.