To be sad that I’ve never been proposed to?

Op I get it.

What I’ve learnt is that men come from an entitled place and women slot in to their ideal.
You may not find “the one” not because you are at fault but because you don’t fit want “they” need.
Best advice is people that are near you like you. Do more non relationship stuff and hope someone sees “you”

@Macaroni46i totally get this and hear what you are saying. It’s not about some childish notion of a man going down on one knee or anything so old fashioned. It’s about someone wanting you and expressing it!! I feel exactly the same. DP and I aren’t married. When people ask me whether it bothers me (it doesn’t) I always say “I’d like to know that he WANTS to marry me”. I want to be wanted. And I don’t always feel very wanted…maybe daily life isn’t really like that for most of us. So yes I would love a proposal (but I’m never getting one!)

If it’s any consolation it can feel like you are just getting pushed into it/might not be ready/too soon/ wrong reasons.
I’d rather a conversation, then I’ll pick my own ring. That’s why I’m with DH. All the big decisions are down to me!

So you both decided? The only sad part of that is so many people focus on a proposal. A shared love and life is the aim. My husband wouldnt dream of a romantic proposal and son did to say he had after it was decided. Might just be the big romantic moment isnt always that

So you both decided? The only sad part of that is so many people focus on a proposal. A shared love and life is the aim. My husband wouldnt dream of a romantic proposal and son did to say he had after it was decided. Might just be the big romantic moment isnt always that

I proposed to my DH. I was very drunk but he held me to it and we have been married 25 years. I was also the assertive one in us going out in the first place.....I was punching up to be honest 😆. Time has been a great leveller in the looks department. He has always known where the door is if he didn't like it, as my mother used to say! I am not one for being passive and waiting for things to happen to me.

Weirdly my mother told my dad he was marrying her ( she was pregnant) and my sister proposed to her DH in a very romantic, non- drunk way. Maybe it's genetic.

OP, please celebrate your uniqueness and individuality. You don't need another person to feel complete or validated.
Everyone knows that a proposal doesn't equate to happy ever after.
Let's celebrate you.
Please treat yourself to something nice or a break away

It’s not all that. I don’t anyone who had a genuine surprise proposal.

And…?

Doesn’t mean she received a proposal.

@PauliesWalnutssame here. I’m really unsure if I’m attractive to men at all & if not, what is wrong with me. I have had men (who were supposed to be friends) be very cruel to me in the past. I literally have not had a boyfriend for longer than 3 months at a time. No man has ever even bought me a present for any reason! I’m 49 now.

They're just words. I'll propose to you if you want?

Will you marry me? 💕

It's only worth anything if the person would actually be a decent long term prospect and you'd be better off married to them than not.

❤️
I feel so sorry for them, just waiting for the man's decision for them to get married. I once replied on such a thread "propose to him" and I got a lot of criticism!
One woman said a woman proposing was "cringe" (sic).
Very sad.

I’m being flippant but get a Labrador. Honestly mine think I am the best thing ever. And I mean ever.

Ah... tis the internalised misogyny. And I have to admit I have it too. Sometimes it's hard to shake but thanks all of those who have pointed it out.

I agree, so many threads on here with desperate women asking the question "why hasn't he proposed?"
They're allowing the man to have control over when and if they get married, which is why it sounds so regressive. It should be a mutual decision, not the man's decision.

I expected this to be a similar relationship to mine, i.e. together for over a decade but not a sniff of getting married and would in many ways, like it if he asked. Albeit not enough for me to bugger off if he doesn't.

A proposal is an emblem of a time and philosophy where men hold all the cards. I'd much rather do it the way I did which was to discuss sensibly and agree it was something we both wanted.

I get it. I've had boyfriends, but never had anyone propose, or suggest moving in, or having kids, or even going on holiday abroad together. It makes me sad that nobody ever wanted me above all others I guess. And at 53 and after a really bad break up 18 months ago, when I honestly thought I'd found someone permanent and it turned out he was just biding his time, I've just about stopped looking. So yeah, I kind of know how you feel.

😂😂😂

What made him choose that moment 🤣🤣

I've been married and am in a civil partnership; no proposal in either case, just a mutual discussion and agreement. My point was really why do you want a proposal if you've been married, because it's the marriage that's important.

I think you need to get over it and focus on all the good things you do have in your life.

You are enough. Seriously. Start to focus on yourself, what you enjoy, good friendships and moments of happiness. It'll be fine.

I agree, but only if it the right person asking. I have been proposed to three times, engaged twice and married once. The person I turned down was heart wrenching. We were on vacation and as soon as I said no he dropped me at the airport and sent me home. :0

No not unreasonable at all. Im mid 30s and feel really sad that no one has ever wanted to marry me. Especially because my ex partner has just asked his girlfriend to marry him and he never asked me.