AIBU to be fed up with him always eating my food?

But this is being drawn into JADE

The answer is No

@Createausername1970 why is he suggesting dates that revolve around going somewhere to get a specific food item if he can't eat it? The more I think about it the more it seems he actually has big issues around food and it's never going to be "normal" where food is concerned and as that is a fundamental part of a long term relationship, I would definitely walk away from this situation.

This, unless he's just bloody amazing in other aspects?

Next time he says he couldn't eat a whole one just say "well I can and I will" then leave it at that. It would drive me bonkers!

Love this response. "You may only want a little bit but I want a whole portion" is short, succinct, and puts the ball right back in his court. If he wants to order a portion and throw half away, that's his choice. You want a whole portion, and that's your choice.

I am on WLI and cannot eat any more than a very small amount at a time. I would not dream of calling attention to this in this way. So unclassy/performative/embarrassing. If out in a restaurant etc I will order something that I presume not to be too big (such as a starter), and then hide, as best I can, anything I did not eat. I would not try to draw attention to how much or how little I eat.

this. Another vote for Team Joey here.

Yell this at him

I find it slightly odd that someone focused on weight loss and weight management would suggest a whole trip around a food item.

It's like an alcoholic visiting a brewery.

I'm going through a phase of losing weight and I try to focus my trips around doing things now, making the food secondary. Certainly the majority of the time anyway.

So he’s fat shaming you even though you aren’t overweight? He has issues!

I get the whole gastric surgery, been there, done that, but a few years out, I don’t think a sausage roll would be an issue (might make me have to run to the bathroom because I tend not to eat greasy stuff!), but the endless requests for a ’tiny bit’ of yours so you end up paying for him to eat half of your food would drive me nuts!

I hate sharing food with anyone so this would be a hard no. I also hate it when DH stares at my plate, quite obviously waiting to see what he can hoover up once I’ve finished. I’ve never understood the appeal of eating someone else’s leftovers, especially when they are still sitting on their discarded plate 🤢

My DP will, when out shopping muse about getting some of the things I buy for myself, eg a pot of cottage cheese but decide not to bother. Wind forward a few days and when I'm happily eating my cottage cheese, all of a sudden they have the urge to eat some as well. Ah well, lifes a bitch, you should have bought some as well, I don't care that we are married and have been for years, I planned my lunches (it's normally lunches) for the week and you didn't.

I would end the relationship now because

1. He has an eating disorder and is obsessed with food

1. He is horribly stingy

1. He is absolutely unaware of or unconcerned about the impact of these 2 major issues on you or your relationship which is in its infancy

I have to be honest, he needs to go... and this is one of the rare occasions that I would do it by text.

"We are finished and this is why - "

I have he finds it very annoying but he would still share he is a super lovely person ! So I have stopped doing it now cus I know he's putting me before himself and I don't want him to do that ! It's all about communicating isn't it ?

Sorry, i missed that post.
Having looked back and read it, I am very impressed with your plate swapping!

This would drive me crazy OP. I had a friend who used to try and control what I ate whenever we went out by ordering for me or insisting on ‘sharing’. No! I want a whole bloody portion. Unfortunately people with disordered eating do bring that to relationships in all kinds of ways. I’m thinking here of the many vegans I know who also have a very restricted diet (one is no onions, tomatoes, carrots, green veg, citrus fruits, garlic etc) - I honestly see it as a way to restrict eating resulting in emaciation. But whatever, their body their choice, just don’t eat my food!

This would drive me nuts. I’m not a big sharer of food at all.

I’m sooo irrationally invested in this thread!! I hope the OP comes back to tell us how wrapgate went 🤣

If we were together a long time it wouldn't bother me. I'd happily let you have whatever bits you wanted & order a dude I'd dessert if I wanted more food. But when I was younger I genuinely could eat much so I used to order a side instead of a main.

I buy myself the cadburys small egg with chocolate buttons inside. I don't share!!

just talk to your DH & see how he genuinely feels.

Oh for goodness sake it was a term I used to describe my SIL feeding males in our family much larger portions than females. It’s got absolutely nothing to do with weigh-loss injections! It wasn’t the OP that used the term “penis portions” on the thread it was me and you’ve managed to completely miss the point. How odd that someone would jump to the conclusion it had something to do with weight loss 🙄

Oh dear I just read throu your replies dump him !! He had a unhealthy relationship with food and saying you will put in weight on us fucking rude ,!! After 12 weeks of dating that's so shocking !! Nope throw this one back 🐟 🔙

Don't waste your money on a Yorkshire pudding wrap. Ours were awful. Husband's was full of fat father than best and my veggie one had hardly any vegetables in it. We would never have another

Another vote for get rid of- the food thing is annoying but I thought you might be able to nip it in the bud.

telling you you will gain weight is a huge nope!

I answered this earlier.

Massive Ick. Fine if he doesn’t eat, not fine if he eats yours abs makes you pay.