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AIBU to be fed up with him always eating my food?

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DarlVader · 30/03/2026 20:48

Been seeing someone for about 12 weeks, he told me he had weight loss surgery a few years ago which makes it difficult for him to eat big meals. Fair enough. Issue is that he CONSTANTLY says he’ll “just have a tiny bit of” whatever im eating. Its driving me nuts. If we decide to get a takeaway he’ll say he won’t get one for himself but he’ll have “a tiny bit” of mine. If we get fish and chips he’ll “just have a tiny bit” of mine … but it’s never a tiny bit, its almost half everytime.

We went to cinema a few weeks ago, he said he’d just “have a few” of my popcorn … he ate more of it than I did. I swear most of it was gone before the film started.

So last week I snapped. We went to Lincoln and I saw some lovely looking sausage rolls in the window of a bakery and said I was going to buy one. He said “ooo yes they do look nice! I won’t get a full one though, I’ll just have a tiny bit of yours”. I snapped “no sorry, you’ll have to get your own, I’m not going to stand in the street dividing up a sausage roll”. He seemed suprised and said “oh! Ok … well I suppose I could get one and have half now and half later?” So I said “do what you want, it’s a sausage roll for gods sake”.

Rest of the day was a bit awkward! But I’ve had enough of it, it’s ridiculous.

He’s just asked if I fancy going to York this week and getting a Yorkshire pudding wrap. I replied “yes, one each” so he said “well I don’t know if I could eat a full one” so I said “well no then, let’s not bother”.

AIBU here?? I’m missing just being able to go out and eat/snack a normal couple!

OP posts:
Laurmolonlabe · 31/03/2026 22:24

Just say you are eating half, l need bigger portion.3

Shinyandnew1 · 31/03/2026 22:19

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:48

No im going to call it off tomorrow, its not going anywhere is it. Can’t be bothered with it any longer

Good for you; he sounds like a complete tosser tbh!

Paveparadiseputupaparkinglot · 31/03/2026 21:35

He clearly has an eating disorder and saying this makes him feel like he won’t eat a big portion even if he does anyway! I’d have the ick!!

PrettyPickle · 31/03/2026 21:31

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:39

Update.

he messaged me this morning saying he’d been researching and he doesn’t think the Yorkshire pudding place (can’t believe I’m still on about this) doesn’t do small options so maybe we could go somewhere else.

I replied “I’m not bothered about the Yorkshire puddings, I thought we were going to York to sight see? A city full of history and all you’re bothered about is Yorkshire puddings! When I go somewhere on a day out I just grab whatever takes my fancy on the day, it’s not an important part of the trip”.

Anyway he replied saying it’s easy for me to say as I’m not restricted in what I can eat 🙄

I suggested we go to Fountains Abbey instead. Not a Yorkshire pudding or bastard sausage roll in sight

Tell him that you should each bring a picnic?

outerspacepotato · 31/03/2026 21:22

@DarlVader , I admire your patience. I would have already stabbed him with a fork.

Beatriz85 · 31/03/2026 21:19

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 21:14

Well firstly I know I can eat large portions and if for whatever reason I couldn’t on one occasion I’d take half home with me. I’m not going to go through life only eating half a portion incase I can’t eat a full one on the odd occasion

Well, and if you couldn't , you wouldn't go through life eating someone else's half of lunch!
If hes so restricted, he should just take a packed lunch with him!

Triskellion75 · 31/03/2026 21:18

This is it, it's the fact that he's fucking mooching off you that boils my piss.

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 21:14

Dragracer · 31/03/2026 20:55

I don't understand why he can't just throw half the Yorkshire pudding away?

Like I understand some people have that need to eat everything on their plate and that makes them gain weight. But he physically can't. He could literally ask them to cut it in half then throw half of it away in the bin. Or ask for the two halves to be packages separately and save it or give it to a homeless person if he doesn't want to "waste" it.

You're clearly just not compatible and you're going to find yourself stewing on it all the time. Like imagine if you'd refused to share but then you can only manage to eat half of it and you both have to throw half a meal away because you were so against sharing because of past behaviour but in that one scenario you look like the one in the wrong.

Well firstly I know I can eat large portions and if for whatever reason I couldn’t on one occasion I’d take half home with me. I’m not going to go through life only eating half a portion incase I can’t eat a full one on the odd occasion

OP posts:
ThatCyanCat · 31/03/2026 21:14

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:48

No im going to call it off tomorrow, its not going anywhere is it. Can’t be bothered with it any longer

It all sounds extremely joyless.

Createausername1970 · 31/03/2026 21:08

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:48

No im going to call it off tomorrow, its not going anywhere is it. Can’t be bothered with it any longer

I think that's a very good plan.

MyTrivia · 31/03/2026 21:08

Dragracer · 31/03/2026 20:55

I don't understand why he can't just throw half the Yorkshire pudding away?

Like I understand some people have that need to eat everything on their plate and that makes them gain weight. But he physically can't. He could literally ask them to cut it in half then throw half of it away in the bin. Or ask for the two halves to be packages separately and save it or give it to a homeless person if he doesn't want to "waste" it.

You're clearly just not compatible and you're going to find yourself stewing on it all the time. Like imagine if you'd refused to share but then you can only manage to eat half of it and you both have to throw half a meal away because you were so against sharing because of past behaviour but in that one scenario you look like the one in the wrong.

He’s sponging off the Op, that’s what’s going on! The gastric band thing is an excuse.

for heavens sake - he has no manners. He sounds tight and a miser.

Triskellion75 · 31/03/2026 21:06

God, he sounds like a really boring wanker.

toiletpaperthief · 31/03/2026 21:03

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:39

Update.

he messaged me this morning saying he’d been researching and he doesn’t think the Yorkshire pudding place (can’t believe I’m still on about this) doesn’t do small options so maybe we could go somewhere else.

I replied “I’m not bothered about the Yorkshire puddings, I thought we were going to York to sight see? A city full of history and all you’re bothered about is Yorkshire puddings! When I go somewhere on a day out I just grab whatever takes my fancy on the day, it’s not an important part of the trip”.

Anyway he replied saying it’s easy for me to say as I’m not restricted in what I can eat 🙄

I suggested we go to Fountains Abbey instead. Not a Yorkshire pudding or bastard sausage roll in sight

Yorkshire pudding sounds delicious (I'm not British), I would just go and probably eat half (I'm a small eater), then wrap the rest in a bag and eat it for breakfast the day after (that's what I do when I get served a huge portion of something delicious). Choosing your travelling based on "if x town serves small portions or not" will really restrict your travel options. Doesn't sound like he's interest in Yorkshire anyway, he's just interested in the pudding and because that's not happening now he has lost all interest in going. I could not date someone like that.

Anonanonanonagain · 31/03/2026 20:55

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:39

Update.

he messaged me this morning saying he’d been researching and he doesn’t think the Yorkshire pudding place (can’t believe I’m still on about this) doesn’t do small options so maybe we could go somewhere else.

I replied “I’m not bothered about the Yorkshire puddings, I thought we were going to York to sight see? A city full of history and all you’re bothered about is Yorkshire puddings! When I go somewhere on a day out I just grab whatever takes my fancy on the day, it’s not an important part of the trip”.

Anyway he replied saying it’s easy for me to say as I’m not restricted in what I can eat 🙄

I suggested we go to Fountains Abbey instead. Not a Yorkshire pudding or bastard sausage roll in sight

Point out you are also not restricted in who you can date and yes dump him. Bellend.

Dragracer · 31/03/2026 20:55

I don't understand why he can't just throw half the Yorkshire pudding away?

Like I understand some people have that need to eat everything on their plate and that makes them gain weight. But he physically can't. He could literally ask them to cut it in half then throw half of it away in the bin. Or ask for the two halves to be packages separately and save it or give it to a homeless person if he doesn't want to "waste" it.

You're clearly just not compatible and you're going to find yourself stewing on it all the time. Like imagine if you'd refused to share but then you can only manage to eat half of it and you both have to throw half a meal away because you were so against sharing because of past behaviour but in that one scenario you look like the one in the wrong.

nam3c4ang3 · 31/03/2026 20:52

I think that’s for the best OP - he sounds like a right weirdo.

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:48

No im going to call it off tomorrow, its not going anywhere is it. Can’t be bothered with it any longer

OP posts:
Whowhenwhat · 31/03/2026 20:48

Anyway he replied saying it’s easy for me to say as I’m not restricted in what I can eat 🙄.

Yet somehow he's not restricted to food when it comes to stealing other people's is he?

bigboykitty · 31/03/2026 20:46

Fuck me. I couldn't be bothered with this. Are you sure you want to @DarlVader ? He's got massive issues.

EvieBB · 31/03/2026 20:45

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:39

Update.

he messaged me this morning saying he’d been researching and he doesn’t think the Yorkshire pudding place (can’t believe I’m still on about this) doesn’t do small options so maybe we could go somewhere else.

I replied “I’m not bothered about the Yorkshire puddings, I thought we were going to York to sight see? A city full of history and all you’re bothered about is Yorkshire puddings! When I go somewhere on a day out I just grab whatever takes my fancy on the day, it’s not an important part of the trip”.

Anyway he replied saying it’s easy for me to say as I’m not restricted in what I can eat 🙄

I suggested we go to Fountains Abbey instead. Not a Yorkshire pudding or bastard sausage roll in sight

😂

YerMotherWasAHamster · 31/03/2026 20:44

Im just surprised you are still wanting to go out with him at all tbh.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 31/03/2026 20:43

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:39

Update.

he messaged me this morning saying he’d been researching and he doesn’t think the Yorkshire pudding place (can’t believe I’m still on about this) doesn’t do small options so maybe we could go somewhere else.

I replied “I’m not bothered about the Yorkshire puddings, I thought we were going to York to sight see? A city full of history and all you’re bothered about is Yorkshire puddings! When I go somewhere on a day out I just grab whatever takes my fancy on the day, it’s not an important part of the trip”.

Anyway he replied saying it’s easy for me to say as I’m not restricted in what I can eat 🙄

I suggested we go to Fountains Abbey instead. Not a Yorkshire pudding or bastard sausage roll in sight

Do you actually want to go anywhere with this man? I wouldn’t. He sounds tedious.

DarlVader · 31/03/2026 20:39

Update.

he messaged me this morning saying he’d been researching and he doesn’t think the Yorkshire pudding place (can’t believe I’m still on about this) doesn’t do small options so maybe we could go somewhere else.

I replied “I’m not bothered about the Yorkshire puddings, I thought we were going to York to sight see? A city full of history and all you’re bothered about is Yorkshire puddings! When I go somewhere on a day out I just grab whatever takes my fancy on the day, it’s not an important part of the trip”.

Anyway he replied saying it’s easy for me to say as I’m not restricted in what I can eat 🙄

I suggested we go to Fountains Abbey instead. Not a Yorkshire pudding or bastard sausage roll in sight

OP posts:
ThatCyanCat · 31/03/2026 17:13

FourSevenThree · 31/03/2026 16:34

Maybe he is. Many posters suggested so and no doubt Darl will evaluate whether it explains the behaviour she observes.

Given how many posters are hyper protective of their food, I wanted to add a point of view where food sharing works for both parties.

Yes, they are seeing each other for three months, what about that? Sounds like a good time to identify what doesn't work and either talk about it or end it.
If Darl wants to talk, understanding what is ok for her and what is no go will make it easier.

Yes, he doesn't pay for the food and eats half. Maybe acknowledging it is a half and taking turns paying would help. Maybe Darl doesn't want it, even if it was fair. Maybe he is weird about money in other aspects and there's no reason to bother trying to fix this thing.

Honestly, three months in is far too soon to be doing "working on the relationship" stuff like talking about how letting one person pay for everything while you snarf half of it and pretend you just wanted a taste isn't a goer. It's not supposed to be difficult this early on. The good news is, he isn't making any effort to hide it, he's setting out early on what he's trying to get away with, so OP doesn't get fooled into staying long enough whereby these sorts of exhausting and usually useless discussions become justifiable.

Even if he did stop doing it, it's such a turnoff that he had to be told!

FourSevenThree · 31/03/2026 16:34

bigboykitty · 31/03/2026 14:20

It's because he's a greedy cunt. He asks for a tiny bit, but eats loads. And doesn't pay. Do you realise they've only been seeing each other 12 weeks? He wants to go to York for the weekend to eat a bit of OP's Yorkshire pudding, and that isn't a euphemism.

Maybe he is. Many posters suggested so and no doubt Darl will evaluate whether it explains the behaviour she observes.

Given how many posters are hyper protective of their food, I wanted to add a point of view where food sharing works for both parties.

Yes, they are seeing each other for three months, what about that? Sounds like a good time to identify what doesn't work and either talk about it or end it.
If Darl wants to talk, understanding what is ok for her and what is no go will make it easier.

Yes, he doesn't pay for the food and eats half. Maybe acknowledging it is a half and taking turns paying would help. Maybe Darl doesn't want it, even if it was fair. Maybe he is weird about money in other aspects and there's no reason to bother trying to fix this thing.

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