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AIBU to be fed up with him always eating my food?

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DarlVader · 30/03/2026 20:48

Been seeing someone for about 12 weeks, he told me he had weight loss surgery a few years ago which makes it difficult for him to eat big meals. Fair enough. Issue is that he CONSTANTLY says he’ll “just have a tiny bit of” whatever im eating. Its driving me nuts. If we decide to get a takeaway he’ll say he won’t get one for himself but he’ll have “a tiny bit” of mine. If we get fish and chips he’ll “just have a tiny bit” of mine … but it’s never a tiny bit, its almost half everytime.

We went to cinema a few weeks ago, he said he’d just “have a few” of my popcorn … he ate more of it than I did. I swear most of it was gone before the film started.

So last week I snapped. We went to Lincoln and I saw some lovely looking sausage rolls in the window of a bakery and said I was going to buy one. He said “ooo yes they do look nice! I won’t get a full one though, I’ll just have a tiny bit of yours”. I snapped “no sorry, you’ll have to get your own, I’m not going to stand in the street dividing up a sausage roll”. He seemed suprised and said “oh! Ok … well I suppose I could get one and have half now and half later?” So I said “do what you want, it’s a sausage roll for gods sake”.

Rest of the day was a bit awkward! But I’ve had enough of it, it’s ridiculous.

He’s just asked if I fancy going to York this week and getting a Yorkshire pudding wrap. I replied “yes, one each” so he said “well I don’t know if I could eat a full one” so I said “well no then, let’s not bother”.

AIBU here?? I’m missing just being able to go out and eat/snack a normal couple!

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Catcatcatcatcat · 30/03/2026 21:00

I don’t share food so this relationship would have ended the first time he decided he could help himself to my grub.

I would bin him, it would drive me nuts.

ScrimMN · 30/03/2026 20:58

Yeah OP this would drive me insane..

why can’t he just buy smaller versions of what you get? (Lite bite meals at fish and chip shops ect..) or just save what he doesn’t eat for later!!

Serene135 · 30/03/2026 20:57

Does he ever offer to pay for the food you are sharing? Do you think it’s possible that he wants the food but just doesn’t want to pay for it? 💐

tnorfotkcab · 30/03/2026 20:56

Nah, sod him..

CeffylCoch · 30/03/2026 20:55

Do you point out that he’s eaten half your food and not a tiny bit? This would really annoy me too

FlyingPandas · 30/03/2026 20:52

Sounds like an attempt to just avoid paying for anything, OP. As well as being hugely irritating, he's also being tight. Throw this one back, as the saying goes.

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