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AIBU to be fed up with him always eating my food?

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DarlVader · 30/03/2026 20:48

Been seeing someone for about 12 weeks, he told me he had weight loss surgery a few years ago which makes it difficult for him to eat big meals. Fair enough. Issue is that he CONSTANTLY says he’ll “just have a tiny bit of” whatever im eating. Its driving me nuts. If we decide to get a takeaway he’ll say he won’t get one for himself but he’ll have “a tiny bit” of mine. If we get fish and chips he’ll “just have a tiny bit” of mine … but it’s never a tiny bit, its almost half everytime.

We went to cinema a few weeks ago, he said he’d just “have a few” of my popcorn … he ate more of it than I did. I swear most of it was gone before the film started.

So last week I snapped. We went to Lincoln and I saw some lovely looking sausage rolls in the window of a bakery and said I was going to buy one. He said “ooo yes they do look nice! I won’t get a full one though, I’ll just have a tiny bit of yours”. I snapped “no sorry, you’ll have to get your own, I’m not going to stand in the street dividing up a sausage roll”. He seemed suprised and said “oh! Ok … well I suppose I could get one and have half now and half later?” So I said “do what you want, it’s a sausage roll for gods sake”.

Rest of the day was a bit awkward! But I’ve had enough of it, it’s ridiculous.

He’s just asked if I fancy going to York this week and getting a Yorkshire pudding wrap. I replied “yes, one each” so he said “well I don’t know if I could eat a full one” so I said “well no then, let’s not bother”.

AIBU here?? I’m missing just being able to go out and eat/snack a normal couple!

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DickieAnderson · 31/03/2026 00:50

Tillow4ever · 30/03/2026 22:10

Just to say, a Yorkshire pudding wrap is food of the gods. Hot roast beef ones are the best, but pork works too.

This has me wanting to go to York now. Damnit.

But we don’t know where OP lives, her bf could be planning this trip just to get a wrap and they might live in London or the Scottish highlands 😂.

Can you give us a rough idea OP or at least let us know how far he wants you to travel?

I did once plan a visit to a great Mexican restaurant in Edinburgh that I’d been to a few times on other trips, we were going for a short break anyway though and not travelling over 100 miles just to have a meal!

auserna · 31/03/2026 00:07

I'd bet my house this isn't his only annoying habit.

Shinyandnew1 · 31/03/2026 00:02

He sounds both utterly food obsessed and tight with money. Neither sound terribly good qualities in a partner.

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 30/03/2026 23:16

Yeah you have the ick now

I’ve had weight loss surgery and even I can’t stand all the performative I’m too full !!! Just order your own and have it for lunch the next day win win

Also he doesn’t sound like he’s changed his mindset about food so he won’t stop just taking a bit of yours if anything it will get worse

DarlVader · 30/03/2026 23:11

DarlVader · 30/03/2026 22:48

He’s just messaged me asking if I’m still wanting to go to York - because if so he’s going to study the menu to see if they do small portions. I’ve replied saying to do what he needs to do but I don’t want to hear about it as it’s not important to me. Yeah I think I’ve got the ick

He replied saying “it’s not important to me either 😂” so I said “stop going on about it then, I don’t want to obsess over food all the time. I’ll get what I want, you get what you want but I don’t need to hear about it”

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Sugarsugarcane · 30/03/2026 23:10

DarlVader · 30/03/2026 22:03

I think it’s a mixture of things.
performative “look at me, I barely eat!”
financial “if I don’t buy one I save money”
psychological “I’m not buying myself a meal so in theory, I’m not being greedy”.

Another thing that annoys me though is when I resist him taking my food he tries telling me I’ll end up putting on weight. I’ve never had a weight issue.

And this OP is when you tap out of the relationship.
he sounds annoying as shit, manipulative, cheap and a fun sponge what the hell are you wasting your time for? He’d better be an amazing lover or you really have wasted 12 weeks of your life 😆

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/03/2026 23:03

Eww! Definitely call it a day with this one. The comments about your weight alone would be enough for me to end it.

Bigcat25 · 30/03/2026 23:01

He really has an issue over leaving any food unfinished huh? Does he eat leftovers of food he's cooked at home?

Franjipanl8r · 30/03/2026 23:01

None of what you describe would be attractive IMO.

TheChosenTwo · 30/03/2026 23:00

I’m on WLI so don’t have a large appetite - 2 meals a day, maybe a snack if I need one. And have come to the realisation that I just need a lot less food than I was eating and used to eating. Some days I eat more, some days smaller portions. But I love eating out and never have I ever not ordered myself something and just expected to have a tiny bit of someone else’s! I just order myself something that matches my appetite so I have a good chance of finishing it.
He’s being weird and cheap around food, I think you should scrap York and the relationship, I’m happy sharing food but you’re not compatible and that’s absolute fine to decide.

PinkNailPolish2026 · 30/03/2026 22:54

FourEyesGood · 30/03/2026 22:32

I really don’t want to derail the thread, but please could you elaborate on ‘penis portions’?

OP, dump this one. He’ll only get worse.

My SIL always serves the males much larger portions than the females and it really annoys me. This will sound childish but she served DH much more than me so I swapped my plate with his and tucked in to prove a point. This is another of not my finest moments.

PollyBell · 30/03/2026 22:53

Yeah i have given up eating with some friends who do the giggly i shouldn't i am on a diet so will just eat your food

The world has gone wright loss talk mad

CocoaTea · 30/03/2026 22:52

Disordered eating that is not under control.

He had the surgery but his mental preoccupation with food has not been addressed.

YerMotherWasAHamster · 30/03/2026 22:52

Sounds like his life still revolves around food.
Weight loss surgery won't help him.
He will regain it all in the end, assuming he had a sleeve or similar.

Beesandhoney123 · 30/03/2026 22:51

No, this doesn't sound romantic. He sounds like a guest who has overstayed his welcome.

Also commenting on your figure is rather familiar. How can you enjoy your Yorkshire pudding wrap now? You'll have to go on your own:)

ILoveDaffodills · 30/03/2026 22:50

Tillow4ever · 30/03/2026 22:10

Just to say, a Yorkshire pudding wrap is food of the gods. Hot roast beef ones are the best, but pork works too.

This has me wanting to go to York now. Damnit.

Do they do veggie ones?

breakfast veggie ones?

Vaxtable · 30/03/2026 22:49

Next time he says I will just have a bit of yours I would give him 6 chips and a tiny tiny piece of fish, then say that’s your bit and eat the rest

Dalmationday · 30/03/2026 22:48

Gives me the ick

DarlVader · 30/03/2026 22:48

He’s just messaged me asking if I’m still wanting to go to York - because if so he’s going to study the menu to see if they do small portions. I’ve replied saying to do what he needs to do but I don’t want to hear about it as it’s not important to me. Yeah I think I’ve got the ick

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FamingolosForDays · 30/03/2026 22:47

Nope, definitely chuck this one back OP!

MarchUsername · 30/03/2026 22:46

Part of having WLS is knowing you have to pay for food you can’t eat sometimes! I can eat different amounts each day and it changes, so I order in accordance with that. Sometimes some gets wasted, or eaten as leftovers or my husband polishes it off. This is so cheeky of him!

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 30/03/2026 22:46

Dump this clown immediately
I just couldn't ... its fanny shrivelling

Anonanonanonagain · 30/03/2026 22:43

Stingy tight bastard. Dump him. Tell him you need to lose your recently acquired 12 stone of useless weight. I have the ick on your behalf.

BatFeminist · 30/03/2026 22:42

Penis portion is a bigger portion for the man.

Meteorite87 · 30/03/2026 22:40

yikesss · 30/03/2026 22:38

Another vote here for elaboration on the penis portions please 😊

Relieved I wasn't the only person that wondered 😅

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