AIBU to expect DH to replace my ruined jumper(s)

He should sell something nice of his to get the money to buy you a new jumper. Otherwise as he's a tradesman can he do an extra job out of hours or something to get the money (if he happens to be a plumber in the northwest send him my way please!).

Seriously, don’t put them in the laundry basket.

You can’t even understand the instructions because they were not “do not wash any jumpers.”

Who is the fool now?

I agree with this. Anything that isn't usual washing should be kept separate.

I seem to have a different approach to lots of people on this thread!

All dirty clothes go in the laundry bin. They are sorted from the bin before being washed.

They’re not sorted before being chucked in the place for dirty clothes to be held/stored before washing.

OP should be able to put washing in a washing basket. The problem is an idiot who doesn’t follow incredibly simple and clear instructions to NOT WASH ANY BLOODY JUMPERS. It’s really not difficult. Why do you have more sympathy for the fool who doesn’t listen than the person who has had her clothes ruined four times?

Do people really dislike their husbands this much 🤨

@tabbycatslaveno I grab large handfuls, and whatever is in there goes in the machine. What’s difficult to understand about that?

There we go.

Oops, I dropped it. His favourite most expensive one of course.

If my DH started putting items into the washing basket saying that I need to pull them out when I do a wash (?!) then I would ignore him too. If it's in the washing basket it gets washed in the machine at 30/40.

Me and DH both have stuff that can't go in the washing machine so we make sure those items don't go anywhere near the laundry basket!

Because why use common sense when you can go waste money and complain about it after - 4 times after!

I chuck it all in together 'but' I don't buy anything for anyone in the family that needs anything more specific. Towels/sheets and such get done separately but that's as much for convenience as anything else (they are a load in themselves)

I separate after washing as I don't put everything in the dryer - hang up about half. And for whatever reason, my husband is really crap at remembering my rules for this so laundry is very much my responsibility. He has plenty of other responsibilities but it works for us to split things up and play to our strengths.

But you don't need to read labels... unless you have a massive industrial washing machine and are truly shovelling stuff in, you surely see/put your hands on everything as it goes in?

I must admit I'm terrible for doing this with my own handwsh clothes as I launch everything into the machine.
I now have a mesh bag in my bedroom I stick my handwash stuff into.

Yanbu to be upset, but after reading the entirety I think on balance Yabu.

He has made an effort to replace the jumpers, you demanding he find the same heavily discounted once in a blue moon price for the exact same jumpers is what is unreasonable.

I also do not understand why you are putting wool/cashmere in the family laundry basket. All hand wash items should go in a separate basket or bag.

You created the risk of these precious hand wash only cashmere jumpers being washed with everything else. Surely the solution is to eliminate the risk at the source?

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Why didn’t she stop putting them in there after the first time? Even the second, or the third?

Why on earth do you keep putting gnem on the laundry basket. After the first time, surely you’d stop. All my hand wash items I keep separate, I’d never out them in a shared laundry basket then expect my husband to go picking through it looking at labels. I’m afraid I feel partly this is on you.

find your replacements and anything needing hand washing stop putting it in the main laundry basket and expecting your husband to rooting through it.

Agreed. Why didn't @PILinOz husband take more care after the first jumper was ruined?

Is there a difference in your attitudes to money @PILinOz? It seems you're very careful around spending on higher-end things, while your DH's solution is spending more for convenience.

I don’t think all men take the chuck it all in approach and it’s not unique to men either. Many women do similar. DH certainly has a chuck it all in approach but does know not to put whites in dark colours but will wash whites with light colours. I’m the opposite and handwash a lot of my own clothes and sort laundry out very specifically. The result is it could take me a day to do a few baskets of laundry while DH would have it all done in two loads!

I voted YABU because why on earth are you putting them in the laundry basket? Have a separate laundry bag for them and neither of you will have to worry about sorting them ever again.

Is he doing it on purpose? It's hard to believe he's that stupid otherwise. Are you being punished for 'making' him do laundry?

Nope, just no desire to hand wash fine or wool items.

He doesn't ask me to do DIY or fix the car either.

It’s not men, I do the same. I refuse to spend time reading labels of dirty laundry. All delicates go in one basket, whites separate and dark colors in its own basket. 3 separate baskets and that’s all we do. Even my kids know this. Why complicate your life and who has the time to sort through a dirty basket??
surely the most common sense thing to do is separate them at the dirty basket point- and that is up to who used them?

@PILinOz
If either your mother or your MIL end up in a care home, make sure you wash cashmere stuff yourself. All laundry in a care home seems to go in at boil wash temps. OP, you can bellyache about insisting they wash delicates by hand etc but it won't happen.
When my kids were teenagers, one did all the washing and ironing. They regularly emptied the laundry hamper, hung out the washing and then ironed it. I was beyond grateful. I had enough intelligence to save anything slightly delicate and deal with it myself. It did not seem fair to make someone else deal with itsy bitsy fragile garments that I chose to wear. .
I await with interest the complaints from the same posters when either they or their parents move to care homes.
Remember, women are much more likely to end up with dementia and in care homes than men. Some of you will inevitably have to deal with laundry and care homes policy. It might make you less precious about your fragile delicates and deal with them yourself..