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What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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Justsorted · 28/03/2026 16:12

To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

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ConstanzeMozart · 29/03/2026 17:57

51 and still waiting Grin

notaascooby · 29/03/2026 17:57

😂🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂

CSR721 · 29/03/2026 17:56

Im 33 and 'sorted' in the sense that we are married, both have stable careers with a good income, own our home (with mortgage) have a child and another on the way. We are comfortable and settled. However I absolutely hate my job so will likely be uprooting all of that soon 😅

Ariana12 · 29/03/2026 17:55

Still waiting...

GlitteryRainbow · 29/03/2026 17:54

I’m 48 and my life is still in limbo.

PippEmma · 29/03/2026 17:48

60 ..... divorced and happy with life. 9 years later still single and still happy.

Single50something · 29/03/2026 17:47

1990sMum · 28/03/2026 16:20

52 and still waiting

Same...

Harmonypus · 29/03/2026 17:47

58 and still waiting.
I've got some bits all sorted, but definitely not everything.

Didimum · 29/03/2026 17:46

Probably about 28, it’s been quite smooth sailing since the. I’m 41 now. Under no illusion that life can shit on you on an instant though.

tooloololoo · 29/03/2026 17:46

30 (I’m 30 now)
life transformed financially
single mum with good ex dh to ds 3
mind is settled

tommyhoundmum · 29/03/2026 17:45

Justsorted · 28/03/2026 16:12

To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

The day I retired at 56 after 40 years of work.

elmo1990 · 29/03/2026 17:44

I'm 36 and still wish there was an adultier adult to tell me what to do 😂

Xmasbaby11 · 29/03/2026 17:43

Started to feel settled 40ish but sadly things went downhill late 40s and still unsettled - I’m 50 now. I also had a settled period early 30s so maybe it comes and goes. Just seems to be a lot of change and problems recently, unfortunately.

DancingLions · 29/03/2026 16:32

HoppityBun · 28/03/2026 22:00

Do people actually feel this? Surely most of us just come to terms with the way things are, whilst waiting for the next inevitable struggle

I suppose in a way I have come to terms with how my life is. I've accepted certain things I might have wanted aren't going to happen now. Instead I try to be grateful for what I do have.

Like it's easy to feel the country is shit right now. There's a lot we could complain about! But I actually know two people who were here illegally, one left voluntarily, the other was deported. They would have given their right arm to be able to stay. So I know there's definitely worse places to live.

If I think of what I do have, I am lucky. I dont feel I'm waiting for the next struggle. I live by "cross that bridge when you come to it". Until then I dont think about what could go wrong.

Emmz1510 · 29/03/2026 16:04

46 and still waiting

Lizchapman · 29/03/2026 15:04

At about 70 😂😂

Beachtastic · 28/03/2026 22:44

About 18 months ago. After decades of upheaval and trauma. I'm mid 60s now, but it was worth the wait. I count my blessings every day and have never been happier. It's all the more precious because I know how life can turn on a dime.

mondaytosunday · 28/03/2026 22:40

Sorted?! I’m 63. I haven’t figured it out at all.

Bufftailed · 28/03/2026 22:32

Right now, 47

EndorsingPRActice · 28/03/2026 22:28

58 and life has been good for a couple of years now. Mainly through the menopause, kids now young adults and away from home quite a lot, enjoying my job and having a little more time to myself and less to worry about. Overall looking forward to the next few years.

binnibonnieboo · 28/03/2026 22:25

binnibonnieboo · 28/03/2026 22:22

Somewhere around my fifties

I mean that I was happy with my work, my house, my relationship. You can't sort things like health. But I accept that there are things out of my control.

binnibonnieboo · 28/03/2026 22:22

Somewhere around my fifties

Netcurtainnelly · 28/03/2026 22:18

How can it be sorted when it can be taken away in a minute.

NormasArse · 28/03/2026 22:12

When I turned 50. Then people I loved started dying, and I was thrown into turmoil. Can’t see it getting any better tbh, so I’m just going to live for the day from now on.

MissAmbrosia · 28/03/2026 22:10

Hmm. I was very content and sorted at 30. Then everything changed, and I was again by 40. And now I am nearly 60 and some big changes on the horizon and don't feel remotely sorted. The intervening bits were fine though.

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