What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

In my late 40s. Job, child, a nice new husband and lost weight.

Sadly in my early 50’s the child has left home, the job is precarious, the husband is ok but getting old and my looks are completely shot ( ruining the effect of my weight loss)

I was really happy until my mid-20s, and then again when I was pregnant and on maternity leave…. But much of the rest of the time I seem to lurch from one stressful situation to another, often work related so partly self inflicted. I think I was haunted by a choice I made in my early 20s which took me 20 years to reconcile - not always consciously but rumbling away in the background. I changed career in my late 30s and has been quite a struggle esp last 5 years. But I’ve had such an interesting life, and still involved in so much, I’ve definitely never been bored!! But I wish I could have been more content - still working on it.

I never expect it to, I have had too many surprises.
I would advise anyone to never get too comfortable with the status quo

I am delighted for you!

I thought my life was pretty settled in my late thirties then got very unexpectedly pregnant with my third child at 40.
He’s 22 now and doing well, graduated last year and got himself a great grad scheme so finally at 62 I have some spare money !

39 and more financially secure and growing family but we are now building a house so that feels quite chaotic.

Im guessing my 40s might feel more settled but I love a bit of chaos myself so who knows

I felt sorted at 30. I had a pretty shitty time in my late 20's but by 30 things were feeling settled. I was lucky to marry a really amazing man. Thats not to say we've had it easy, far from it, but have always felt we would get through it. Now our children (a mix of adopted and birth) are adults we have more freedom, although 2 still live at home. Looking forward to retirement in another decade.

Can I ask what you mean by sorted please? Do you mean financially secure? (Mortgage/debts/pensions/savings) or do you mean that you feel less overwhelmed by work/children/business of life? Can you elaborate a bit more so I can decide if I agree that I’m there or decide if I’ve a bit to go…
thanks

When it’s over, we’ll know :-)

Me too oldest pal had Op now in a wheelchair - you learn what and who counts in life at times like this - (several family not well and elderly relatives needing support both physically and and mentally)

At 60 and it feels further away as unexpected shit keeps happening- plus the world is in a shit place so I don’t know how anyone can be feeling their life is sorted as look around you !

Oh dear.. you have perimenopause to come.. that will shake things up be prepared for the chaos of hormones bit like teenage years. Never be too sure life has a way to trip up the best of plans.

I felt like I had things pretty under control when I was 26. I had bought a house, got a good job but one that wasn't mental, my family were all in pretty good nick.

It feels a lot less sorted now: ill relatives, dying relatives, job more senior but harder to keep from eating my entire life. I'm more financially secure but mentally under much more strain.

Never

About 45. I knew by that time we were financially stable and felt we’d done a good job raising our kids (then 20 and 22). I suddenly felt more settled and calm 😊

Good question. .not happened yet in my 50s but what has happened is I don't care as much re what other people think of me...

Yeah the teen years are pretty rough. As are the menopause years. But your attitude really stood out to me in your post as being the kind of thing which helps people always see something good in life.

I'm not that great at it, but I am trying!
Hope yours sticks with you, it was nice to read a little sunny message on Mumsnet !

Hoping that will happen when my evil witch of a mother finally dies.

For me there was an ebb and flow. I was happiest in my late 20s, I had a flat with my own front door for the first time, and was in a job where I was earning double what I had the previous year (not that much but enough). I had good and bad spells after that. Sometimes life happens to you and you can't control it.

I’m 47. Began feeling settled in the last few years. Understand my pension and have a plan for what age I want to retire. Know what I need to do between now and then - and have good health, critical illness and life insurance.

happy with lifestyle and understand some have more, some have less.

I'm 76 and still waiting :-).

I suppose around 48. We paid off our mortgage.I had my new degree ,which had netted me a really nice promotion. Both (modest) cars were paid for and our daughter was on track for university. My husband was in a decent job . I remember thinking we were entering our 50's in a good place.

Thank you, I’m not 30 yet and my children aren’t teenagers so I’m sure there’s definitely some struggles to come 😂

45, I’m 49 now