What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

30s. Boy was I wrong.

That's a very good and young age to feel that! Sorry I can't see what I'm typing or edit due to malfunction here.

Mid 50s still trying to navigate with DC at secondary school, teenage years to come! Also being SEN it's a lifelong commitment, as with all DC of course.

We're all together in this, young and ild Mums alike.

I’m 69. Still waiting.

Make the most of it and live for the day.
I felt grounded, happy and secure and then parents aged (one cancer and death, the other Alzheimer's) and the ground shifted.
Now 67 and through all that and able to breathe!!

I’m 45 this year: my life is fantastic, my wife is wonderful, we have a happy, healthy 10 year old, careers both good and money in savings. I feel good about life but we could be thrown a curve ball tomorrow where it all gets blown apart. I’m grateful for who I have around me and where I am in life but am wise enough to know everything could change tomorrow so live like tomorrow isn’t promised and make choices accordingly…:within reason.

Never been happier since I dropped the men - my adult DS is currently staying with me (four months and counting) and is driving me nuts. Far happier with no men - either relatives or lovers - messing around with my life.

50 when we’d paid off the mortgage and the youngest was off to university but we weren’t scratting around to help fund it.

Life has challenges and I think over the years, you feel a brief and flitting sense of peace and everything is on track. Short lived as something always comes up and sets you back. As soon as I hit 40 everything went to rat crap. Officially diagnosed after a hefty fight with being in perimenopause, DH and DS1 diagnosed with AuDHD and Autism, extended family grief. I don’t feel myself at all and haven’t done for years. My expectations aren’t high and the smallest of issues is a major issue to me personally. Everyday I wake up I have a feeling of dread or my anxiety plays up. I no longer like to drive because I panic, I can’t exercise the way I used to because I feel like I’ve been hit by a bus daily. My whole world has gotten so much smaller and despite every effort to resolve it, it can’t be conquered. I hate the person I am at the moment, a far cry of the thirty year old who had a completely different personality and smiled and laughed. I find it hard to make peace with that.

Sorry, I realized as soon as I'd posted that my last line might've been perceived as condescending but that really wasn't my intention.. .. it was just poorly phrased (late at night and tired)... my apologies x

Well at 22 I thought m life was sorted, then my partner turned out to be an arse hole … then at 30 I married the man I thought would be my forever partner, we paid off our mortgage on my 40th birthday and I thought we were sorted, 1 gorgeous daughter …. But then he walked out 4 years ago and we divorced last year!….
Im happily single but I don’t think I’ll ever feel like my life is sorted….. I’m 49 today!… I’m reasonably happy at the moment, but I’m menopausal, knees hurt and I struggle to earn enough to support me and my daughter… she’s 15, a great kid but has her own challenges which we both deal with day to day!
I’ve got no private pension so I’ve got financial worries ahead of me I suspect… and will be working till I’m 75 if I live that long!!
Everytime I think ‘I’ve got this - life throws a curveball … so honestly I don’t think anyone ever thinks they’ve cracked life… not unless you’re one of these that have 7 figures in your bank account and excellent health!

49, once I’d gotten out of an emotionally and financially abusive relationship, gotten strong boundaries in place with my ex, saw my children feeling settled and happy in my home after a couple of years of peace and stability, got a good whack of savings aside for emergencies, travel and nice things, and decorated my house the way I wanted it.

50 and still waiting. I’m learning it’s not healthy to live by the ‘ I’ll just get through this bit and then life will be fine’. Not being dramatic, but life isn’t like that unless you are super lucky. We are on here as Mums and regardless of age your kids will always have challenges- they’re just different as they get older. Especially if ND! Life always has ups and downs . Need to just keep the highs not too high and the lows not too low. Apparently! My parents were able to compartmentalise their responsibilities as ending at 18, ( or before!) and seem settled giving no shits and living a comfortable fulfilled life. Now wondering what they did wrong!

I’m 33 soon and I’ve yet to feel this 😅 had children young and I’ve no career which feels like the biggest issue in my life. Also no idea what kind of work I’d like to do (or be any good at!)

I was 39. 7 years later it all turned to shit again.

Now, about 12 years on, it is stable and pretty much OK but I’ll never be as spectacularly happy as I was in that fairly brief window.

You have to take the good bits and the bad bits as they come but the main thing for me these days is stability which is much more likely when you are single and your happiness is not in the hands of another person.

52 when I retired and went sailing for 5 years.

65 (5 years ago now) - Woke up one morning and felt so calm and accepting of who I was and am. I still marvel at the change and have no idea how it came about but am grateful that it did. All my anger and annoyance towards systems, family behaviours, and childhood trauma had just vanished. I simply wish I knew how and why this happened, but can truthfully say that it just did.

Bloody hell. Well done girl. 👏

46, hasn't happened yet. Suspect it never does.

@Justsorted 55+. 62 now and I'm hoping nothing fks it up. 😬

Probably 30. Then Covid happened, financial crash and now I just had a discussion with DP about what we would do if a hypersonic missile came and it actually ended up in a serious discussion about which table was most solid and whether the children would actually stay under it 😫

So …. Never?

Life felt finally sorted for me at age 32ish when I met and fell in love with DH (after years of being in a coercive relationship from teenager to 30/31)...then got even better (altho tiring) we had out 2 beautiful girls at age 36 and 38.....I always wanted a family, so just felt so lucky that I finally got everything I'd wanted and waited for.....but then lost £250k on a property development deal and our finances are now ruined :( ..........just keep having to remind myself that nobody died and it could be worse....
So, op, things are not always on a straight line trajectory.

Same 😵‍💫🤯

I'm in my 70's and my life for the past 2 years has been very chaotic, whereas during my 50's I felt fairly "sorted".
Trouble is shit happens and usually you've got no control over life events. You can only do your best and face and cope with what life chucks at you.

Before I got married, 24yo. Life was fab. I was on a good crack, had my own property, new car etc. Flying!
After I got married, 45yo. I went self employed worked 2/3days a week was semi retired.
DH died in 2016, went back to work so I could take the kids to school and do some wfh. I bought a bigger house, big mortgage, lost my job during covid and became self employed - when I work I earn loads, when there's no work, which was 12m in last 24m and I claimed no benefits at all, we get by. Savings went in the last period of contract drought.

I'm hoping to buy a BTL property to reduce reliance on as much income and house is being sorted this year so I can sell it.

Hoping the land I buy with my pension will become our home then 🙏 as I'll be able to buy it from my pension with the equity from the house. If I pull it off, life will be sorted again...