Mothers of straight young men 25-35YO - what are your boys up to?

I don’t have kids but there are four lads in one family in the house across the road who are in that age range, well, one slightly below. The youngest is at uni doing surveying. The other three work for their property developer dad and apparently had no choice - it was “work or be disowned”. They are out of the house every day at 0630, back at 1630. Work 0630-1430 on Saturdays. Sundays they usually drive around with their dad checking out possible renovation opportunities that they have spotted on Right Move. They play football two nights a week and the rest of the time they sleep. All three live at home, the dad has bought them each a small new car but otherwise pays them peanuts and runs the family with a rod of iron. Really sad.Two have said they’d like to move out and have a bit more of a normal life but don’t want to lose their family connection.

Not dating, not looking to date, just having fun in a mixed sex friendship group they've had since highschool.

It's kind of eerie, really. They both focus on platonic relationships.

I have two. They have good jobs but in male dominated industries. They still live at home, I've no idea why as they have healthy deposits to put down on first homes. Maybe they are hoping to buy outright?! They are shy, introverts who spend their free time gaming or painting Warhammer. If anyone could send round their lovely girls to drag my boys out, I will be eternally grateful.

My DS
in a long term relationship with a lovely lass
working hard
buying a flat
climbing mountains
youd probably find him in Cotswold Outdoor buying expensive hiliking equipment and the way to woo him would be to be buying your own expensive hiking equipment and to have a good idea and plan on how to use it.

I have four nephews in this age range. Two went into long term relationships at university, both of these ended after a couple of years but before long they were both in more permanent long term relationships and one is soon to be married to his girlfriend. They both moved into their own places after university. The other two, as far as I know, have never been in long term relationships. One lived at home til nearly 30 and seemed to spend most of his time with parents or male friends and the other is still at home in his late twenties. Which I doubt is all that attractive to women.

I have a DS of 25. Works long hours in the City. He’s got a GSOH and is reasonably good looking. He says that all the girls he meets are either in very long term relationships or are career orientated and are just looking for sex rather than being boyfriend and girlfriend.

I think your daughter and her friends need to just get on and live their life - pursue a career, have fun, travel, and if it's meant to be, it will be. I was in a similar position at the age of around 28, so moved abroad to teach. It was the best thing I could have done - I had a blast and then met my husband out of the blue when I least expected it. I think often men who are in long term relationships in their 20s come out of those relationships then marry the next girl they meet, because they feel ready!

My DS 24 is single and says he’s happy that way at moment, so are most of his friends. They spend a lot of time at the gym, watching or playing football or other sports when they’re not working. Not massive drinkers but may have 1 or 2 big nights out every month. He says, in his experience, women his age seem to be quite needy and want constant contact and reassurance, which he doesn’t want to provide right now. I’m a single Mum and have brought him up to respect women so I really hope he never behaves in the way you’ve described. I don’t get the impression he does from what he says anyway.

26 is much too young to be worrying about freezing eggs, but I do understand where your DD is coming from as I was desperate for a baby from age 20 onwards. It’s hard but I think you have to live your live to the full, join clubs and hobby groups and at some point the right person will come along.

I agree.

We’re towards the upper limit of OP’s age range, but my husband and his 4 close friends are all in this category. They’re all in serious long term relationships or marriages, 4/5 have children. They’ve all been with their partners since uni, apart from DH, who met me when he was 24.

I also have 7 male cousins in this category, 5 of whom are in long term relationships. And all 4 of my female cousins are married to men in this category. Again, most of these relationships started at uni or in their early 20s, and have now lasted 10+ yrs.

Honestly, I think a lot of the decent ones are married or in long term relationships. Dh is lovely and respectful and hard working and wanted a family and everyone likes him. I met him when he was 21 and snapped him up. Most of the good decent men I can think of partnered up during uni or by mid 20s and we’re all still happily married in our mid 40s.

Mine is in his house sorting his pokemon card collection 🤣

He met his girlfriend at a party through mutual friends though if that helps.

”Wasting” your virginity?

Ew.

My nephews (3 of them in this age category) are all in serious relationships with women they met at uni.

They're married with children or planning to have children.

My son is 32, friends the same age. All university educated, some have masters or PhDs, professional training. They are doctors, lawyers, pharmacists, financial managers. Several, including my son, met their wife at university, others met at work. All married within the past 3 years, a few have had children.

My 4 nephews are a few years younger, all in relationships with women they met at university.

My husband falls into this category.

I am very skeptical that the apps lead to much. Meeting in person through common interests is how most of our contemporaries have settled down. That being said, I have friends freezing eggs, perusing IUI as single women and DH has lots of friends who I think are “a catch” but don’t seem to be making any move to find someone. They have their work and hobbies.

They live with their girlfriends.

They’re either

free and single (apps for sh#gging)
already dating
manic depressive gamers
career obsessed
manosphere obsessed
drinkers
weed smokers
Device obsessed
Cautious of getting burned