To refuse Hs attempt at sex at 6.30 on a week day morning when High School DC about to wake in their nearby rooms

That’s what I thought, not creepy but I associated it with wealthy parents. But my BIL and SIL’s DC call them Mummy and Daddy and they’re all but one in their 20s and also very independent. I always thought that odd.

It isn’t the case with my DSis and BIL’s DC, though.

But now my DDs call us that, and it isn’t for lack of me trying to change it. We always sign cards ‘Mum’ and ‘Dad’.) I find it strange myself, but the names have stuck. (Despite serious problems in our relationship with DD2.). They are adopted, which might play a part in this.

I wouldn’t like to think it’s ‘creepy’, though.

Where do you live? Why do your DS's have to wait until they're 18 before they can have sex?

And for god sake let them make their own breakfasts. It's not lazy parenting to teach them how to be fully functioning adults, quite the opposite in fact.

But did you say let’s wait half hour or did you just jump straight to fetish?

I personally quite like a quick one in the morning 😂

I am offended. Just because I disagree with you, I must not be a mum or in fact even a woman.

Perhaps read my previous reply to you.

What absolute drivel.

The words Mummy/Daddy, over the age of around 8 too, in my family is immediately responded to with "What do you want?" Not a single one of us is subtle 😂

@NobodysGirl can belittle her husband and act like he's disgusting for even thinking about 6:30am sex but you think she can't say she's not making breakfast for her almost adult sons every morning?

Morning sex aside, why do you need to sort breakfast for your teen sons? Surely they can ger thenselves ready for school without constant supervision?

OP I agree that time of day with a teen in the house is NOT a sexy time of day for me. Would not be able to relax. Which is annoying as I do like morning sex but just not when there is clearly my teenager in proximity.

One 17 year old and one 17+ year old really shouldn’t need any involvement from you to get them out the door

side issue though. In fact this entire issue is a a side issue. To what you have previously outlined as a horror show of a marriage

Yeah that's weird.

My daughter is 2 so not comparable but I've never heard anyone over the ages of 8 call their mum mummy and it normally sound creepy.

No one is ever reasonable to “expect” sex.

Your late-teen children shouldn’t be wondering why mum isn’t making their breakfast though, as a totally separate issue!

If you listen to OP ...this is her husband's preference not hers

You're kids are teens/nearly adults and they still call you mummy and can't get their own breakfast!?!? Wtf!?

The big deal is probably the OP being repulsed by the whole situation.

"It is husband who is insistent we get them a hot breakfast, iron shirts , drive them to pick up point etc - consistency is then needed no? or we drop it for all days to be less obvious I say."

Just tell the boys they need to start sorting out their own stuff. Speak to your husband about how they need to start becoming more independent. If he still insists those things need to be done - then tell him he can crack on, but that you won't be doing it.

(Or at least not every day - I do appreciate that as a parent we sometimes want to spoil our kids)

Christ, the poor bloke has asked you for sex and you didn't fancy it. Neither of you are being unreasonable for that, unless he's asking you persistently at a time he knows you don't want/like it.

I think your children are old enough to be told not to "saunter" into other people's bedrooms. But if they did and you were having sex, it'd be the last time they did it haha.

You sound really quite odd for making this and for holding your opinions about morning sex.

OP I’m with you on this one, 100%. I cannot bear the idea of having sex if there’s a chance the kids are awake / could walk in / hear. Possibly stems from me walking in on my parents mid afternoon when I was 14, I was a naive 14 and I felt sick, I just remember it looked violent to me. I’ll just never do it!! Even the thought of them being awake and hearing the thud thud thud of the headboard, no thank you - nothing turns me off faster than the idea of it!!!

Communication is key here though. I’ve always told DH it’s a no-go for me so he never initiates if the kids could be awake. Fast asleep or an empty house, game on, I can relax. Footsteps coming down the landing - horror show 🤣