To refuse Hs attempt at sex at 6.30 on a week day morning when High School DC about to wake in their nearby rooms

Oh no.. the problem she has is her hubby being a massive perve! Knowing your teens are listening? Sorry no!

After reading both posts I think your rude, nasty and very disrespectful about your dh and hopefully one day he will open his eyes and see that. I would never say any of what you've been saying. And tbh not quite sure why your kids don't sort themselves in the morning they are more than old enough even our 11 year old makes scrambled eggs and toast every morning for himself. Clearly this relationship means nothing to you no need to keep belittling the guy, it's pretty sad that he counts days 10 since he last had sex so clearly your not into it.

I'd be hinting at waiting until they've left for school. Don't turn him down... Just take your time flirting and hinting. He probably hasn't registered this possibility...

I want to stand up for the OP as I think she was being unfairly tested - the DH likely was feeling perky (fun!) but his timing was completely inconsiderate and her rejection understandable. For him, he might be feeling that his desires currently take secondplace over family life but I also think he may possibly enjoy seeing (or even be the cause of) his wife being delayed and disadvantaged by his supposedly superior needs? I see his behacviour as being a form of childish manipulation and coercive control. Good luck OP xx

I am a man and you should have the right to refuse sec at any time. Toxic relationship if you don't feel you can say no

You can have sex whenever you want. But I suspect this man is trying to lay down the law. As the man of the house
and even would enjoy getting caught.
And to show he is still virile and sexual.

If you don't want the children wandering into your bedroom. Why do you not lock the bedroom door?

IMO, you're Lucky to have a DH who finds you attractive enough to want you first thing in the morning ;) It's Your right to say no obviously, just remember they have feelings too, so say no, but let him down gently, but maybe suggest a later time?

I'm torn here, basically you were absolutely within your right, but also BU

It's weird you'd think ypur husband found booking a fetish because the kids are in the house. Y'all screamers or something? The fact that that is where your mind went...

No, she suggested he wanted to have sex so the children would hear and know he was Alpha male.

Sorry, did op mention the DH calling the young adult children in the room to spectate? Because if not, that is a really bizarre interpretation.

Hardly 😂
He woke up with the horn (very very normal)... she had cuddled him so he probably took that as a nice signal to make a move.

He didn't flipping stand the (almost adult) children to attention to sit down with a cup of tea and watch.

I don't particularly like sex in the house with the kids either... I don't find it overly relaxing. But plenty of people do it / have no time without kids in the house.

I genuinely think there are bigger issue shere that a flipping 17yo can't make a bowl of cereal for himself and will instead "holler" for his mother to come and sort it out.

If anyone's mindset when her husband tries it on with her is that he was doing it for the (basically adult) children's benefit needs therapy. It's really normal to wake up wanting sex, it's very abnormal to assume he was doing it for his own children's benefit in some way.

Sounds like the OP and also you have deep rooted issues

Also OP babying your sons won't stop them having sex, but it will make for a terrible experience for their future partners if you continue to indulge them in this way.

She should have sex knowing kids would hear. When she doesn't want to

I don’t find it normal and I don’t like having sex whilst the kids are awake in the house.

It's a control thing by the sound of it. I'm going to have sex in front of our kid you see?

I'm team you, definitely not DH!

@NobodysGirl Setting aside the sex thing don’t you see you have a much bigger issue? Just why do you cook breakfast for your teenagers? How exactly are you equipping them for the near future? They are not 13/14 for heaven’s sake.

I'd find it disgusting too, he knows there are kids waking up in the house yet trying it on knowing they would hear. Needs to control himself and be a parent!

I can't believe I'm reading this

It becomes disgusting when you are expected to service his needs and everything else in the marriage is wrong and shit.

I agree with you OP. I think it’s massively unreasonable of him to expect you to be into that knowing there’s a risk your kids could walk in/hear you - WTF was he thinking? And the fact he got grumpy and sulky afterwards is concerning, this is manipulative behaviour- he’s trying to make you feel bad for saying no. He’s allowed to be disappointed but he should never put that burden on you, he’s not entitled to sex.

Ah "morning glory". A natural instinct that's aroused him before his brain is engaged. It's a shame you can't laugh it off. It's natural, not dirty but if it's unwelcome, try not to be too harsh and perhaps a kiss and cuddle would help to bridge the time till you're both alone.

Sex has to be consensual. If you don’t both want it, it isn’t.

This has nothing to do with right or wrong butwith the fact that sexual desire is incredibly potent and those who don’t get it satisfied will go elsewhere.

A fetish is a focus on something special like leather or dirty feet but not on sex in the morning. When people can’t get sex at a pretty normal time they often find alternative sources.