To refuse Hs attempt at sex at 6.30 on a week day morning when High School DC about to wake in their nearby rooms

OP, you have a long thread currently running about your relationship with your husband who you describe as grumpy and always unhappy, and now this thread. Your marriage is over. Neither of you love or even really like each other.

It’s not a fetish. It’s an attempt from a DH to have some quick intimacy with his DW before the day begins.

have you told him you’d prefer to wait until you have the house to yourselves?

Think you’re over reacting

Your language is quite harsh and rude. Wanting intimacy in the morning is certainly not a fetish. Fair enough you didn't want it but behaving as your husband wanted something unnatural is not fair. Why exactly are you disgusted? How did you react?

Why would it be disgusting? He fancied it, you didn’t. Surely the time of day is irrelevant.

You can have sex or decline it whenever you want. As can he.

its pretty extreme to describe it as disgusting and possibly a fetish. Have you never wanted spontaneous early morning sex with someone you love?

as long as neither of you are being moody about it, I’d put it behind you.

Teenage kids just walking in your bedroom without knocking ? Erm no

Wanting to have sex with your partner.. nothing wrong with that

Thinking it’s a “fetish” to have sex in the privacy of your own room, when there are other people in the house ? It’s is not

What an odd thing to be so uptight about

I'm sure lots of people will be along in a sec to tell you their stories about their early morning sex experiences OP

I'm struck by how loaded your language is. He wanted sex, you didn't, both perfectly reasonable. What's the big deal?

Is this a fetish that emerges in couples in 40s and 50s to pounce and try it on at inappropriate times? Does it keep men from getting bored to be risque than safe.

Weird question 😳

Not in my experience, no.

YANBU to decline sex at any time. But morning sex isn't a crime and if you fancied it one morning wouldn't hurt. The high-school kids shouldn't be waltzing in your room in the morning. So long as he wasn't a sulky brat about the rejection I dont think he's done anything wrong. Morning sex certainly isn't a fetish.

I sont see the big deal, just say you'd rather wait till kids have gone to school.

Its never 'unreasonable' to refuse sex with anyone if you don't want it.

Its pretty unreasonable to accuse him of developing a fetish, just because he woke up horny and thought you might be up for a quickie. Its also unreasonable to describe this as 'disgusting'. So what if the kids 'guessed' what you'd been up to? How do they think they came into being?

Is there a backstory here?