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elm26 · 26/03/2026 15:24

Yesterday at 1pm, I put my 6 month old on the rug with his toys and went for a wee.

As I was walking back I had a sudden severe pain in my right side radiating into my lower back and up to my shoulder, I was in agony.

I called DH who was luckily only on a job 15 mins away, he came straight home and took one look at me and called ambulance, I was shouting out in pain they gave me gas and air and morphine.

I had an emergency CT when dye last night and also have a catheter as lost the ability to wee. Nothing showed on CT, they got me settled on morphine and today I’ve had a transvaginal scan which shows ovaries and womb look normal.

Gynae can’t find a reason so they’ve stopped painkillers and just giving me paracetamol but somethings wrong I feel like somebody’s twisting my insides. The gynae consultant was horrible and said the surgical team will come see me if they think it’s worth it?? So I’m waiting for that if they come.

I’m in so much pain and genuinely scared they’ll send me home not knowing what is wrong with me.

Has anyone has anything similar?

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Kepler22B · 01/04/2026 10:01

CollsR · 01/04/2026 09:54

I understand the comment. But I pity the patients who have doctors so afraid of admitting they don’t know what the problem is yet, that the doctors try say it’s in the patients head.

Dr Google can be helpful. “Hear hooves, think horses… but remember that zebras exist”.

My GP used a similar phase when my son had an unusual diagnosis “looks like we have found a zebra” he sounded almost excited.

CollsR · 01/04/2026 09:54

Shiticandowithout · 31/03/2026 22:06

Yep, I pity the doctors having to deal with patients who think they know more than them because their cousins hairdressers neighbour had similar symptoms and it turned out to be parvovirus

I understand the comment. But I pity the patients who have doctors so afraid of admitting they don’t know what the problem is yet, that the doctors try say it’s in the patients head.

Dr Google can be helpful. “Hear hooves, think horses… but remember that zebras exist”.

Lougle · 01/04/2026 09:20

LovingLimePeer · 01/04/2026 08:58

Agree if episodic but I'd read from OP that BP and sats were consistently low in earlier posts. I'll go back and re-read in case I've missed something you've picked up on that I haven't.

The fact that OP has been having 'copious amounts of morphine', tramadol, codeine, etc., may contribute to low BP. This is why her medical team is best place to decide if it's concerning. Ultimately, if they were concerned, they'd do something about it.

I'm not sure it's helpful (generally) for people to decide that treatment is sub standard when they haven't got an accurate picture of the situation.

Sometimes it's really obvious that bad treatment is taking place ("I'm still covered in blood and vomit from last night, I can't walk to the toilet and nobody will bring me a bed pan") but this, I feel, is different. @elm26 is understandably concerned that she's experiencing pain and that the team aren't taking it seriously, but she's had lots of scans, presumably an exploratory laparotomy, and is being treated.

LovingLimePeer · 01/04/2026 08:58

Lougle · 01/04/2026 08:46

"High heart rate with pain is expected but the low BP/low sats are concerning.
Can you ask for medics review if no surgical causes found?"

It can be a reflex response to pain. The vagal nerve is triggered and causes the blood vessels to widen, which drops the BP. If someone isn't taking effective breaths (the OP describes screaming in pain - you can't breathe well if you're screaming) then that can cause sats to drop. I suspect that given the OP's description of nurses putting cool packs on her cheeks and chest, she was having a panic attack prompted by the sudden pain with unknown cause. Perfectly understandable, but probably not related to the cause of the pain directly. What I mean by that is that, for example, a stabbing would cause extreme pain and the BP/sats drop because of blood loss. This sounds more like a physiological response to pain because the observations returned to normal or near normal (it seems) once the episode had passed.

Agree if episodic but I'd read from OP that BP and sats were consistently low in earlier posts. I'll go back and re-read in case I've missed something you've picked up on that I haven't.

Lougle · 01/04/2026 08:46

LovingLimePeer · 01/04/2026 08:12

Normally they wouldn't get the TTG (coeliac test) back for a few weeks. Total IgA is measured with coeliac tests as if it is low, it can make a coeliac return falsely negative.

High heart rate with pain is expected but the low BP/low sats are concerning.
Can you ask for medics review if no surgical causes found?

Perhaps this is a case of 'to a hammer, every problem is a nail.'

This is not a differential list - I'm just writing this to show that there are many many other/medical causes of abdominal pain outside what a surgeon may consider.
E.g. lupus can cause raised IgA, angioedema (swelling symptoms) and lupus can also cause mesenteric ischaemia causing abdominal pain (but you'd likely have other symptoms of lupus if you had this).

Biliary dyskinesia/sphincter of oddi dysfunction (probably falls under surgeons)
Lead poisoning, malaria, peptic ulcer etc.

Have they excluded adrenal insufficiency?
Are they considering angioneurotic oedema with abdominal pain as a manifestation (this would be a diagnosis of exclusion)?

"High heart rate with pain is expected but the low BP/low sats are concerning.
Can you ask for medics review if no surgical causes found?"

It can be a reflex response to pain. The vagal nerve is triggered and causes the blood vessels to widen, which drops the BP. If someone isn't taking effective breaths (the OP describes screaming in pain - you can't breathe well if you're screaming) then that can cause sats to drop. I suspect that given the OP's description of nurses putting cool packs on her cheeks and chest, she was having a panic attack prompted by the sudden pain with unknown cause. Perfectly understandable, but probably not related to the cause of the pain directly. What I mean by that is that, for example, a stabbing would cause extreme pain and the BP/sats drop because of blood loss. This sounds more like a physiological response to pain because the observations returned to normal or near normal (it seems) once the episode had passed.

LovingLimePeer · 01/04/2026 08:12

Normally they wouldn't get the TTG (coeliac test) back for a few weeks. Total IgA is measured with coeliac tests as if it is low, it can make a coeliac return falsely negative.

High heart rate with pain is expected but the low BP/low sats are concerning.
Can you ask for medics review if no surgical causes found?

Perhaps this is a case of 'to a hammer, every problem is a nail.'

This is not a differential list - I'm just writing this to show that there are many many other/medical causes of abdominal pain outside what a surgeon may consider.
E.g. lupus can cause raised IgA, angioedema (swelling symptoms) and lupus can also cause mesenteric ischaemia causing abdominal pain (but you'd likely have other symptoms of lupus if you had this).

Biliary dyskinesia/sphincter of oddi dysfunction (probably falls under surgeons)
Lead poisoning, malaria, peptic ulcer etc.

Have they excluded adrenal insufficiency?
Are they considering angioneurotic oedema with abdominal pain as a manifestation (this would be a diagnosis of exclusion)?

JulietteHasAGun · 01/04/2026 06:59

Dd has coeliac disease and was diagnosed as an inpatient quite quickly after becoming suddenly very unwell. She collapsed due to malnutrition though rather than collapsing in pain.

Are they talking about doing an endoscopy now? Dd had hers as an inpatient.

have to agree I don’t recognise the level of,pain you’re experiencing though. She felt sick, she was being sick, she struggled to eat and had bad stomach ache/cramps. I appreciate it could be different for others though.

Snippit · 01/04/2026 06:19

Shiticandowithout · 01/04/2026 00:37

Presumably, they have medical training as well

He’s fully qualified but still uses Google, To be honest when I broke my arm I complained to him that it still hurt like hell after a year, he told me that can be normal. After 18 months of pain and taking painkillers constantly I visited my own Dr. He was quite dismissive but sent me for an X-ray for my peace of mind. Low and behold it was still broken 🤦‍♀️ . He called me the next day and apologised profusely. I’d been kicked by my daughters horse, ouchy 🥴

Natsku · 01/04/2026 03:56

damelza · 31/03/2026 18:29

Another regular conoloscopee here. I know the feeling of "accidents" on the way to the hospital. I now use adult incontinence pants (Aldi do great ones) for that journey, and for the duration of the prep too, just in case! They are the absolute business, no worries about ahem, well you know yourself.

Smart! I had to have a colonoscopy when DD was a baby and didn't think of those, I ended up spreading out one of her nappies in my pants!

Natsku · 01/04/2026 03:55

Lougle · 31/03/2026 17:37

OP hasn't confirmed if the fecal calprotectin test was high. If it wasn't, high then it's less likely to be a flare/exacerbation of diverticulitis.

Yeah true, suppose it was low then. But still having severe episodes of pain and now high iga so further investigations are indicated.

Shiticandowithout · 01/04/2026 00:37

Snippit · 01/04/2026 00:32

We have a Dr friend who himself uses Dr Google whilst at work 😳

Presumably, they have medical training as well

Snippit · 01/04/2026 00:32

Shiticandowithout · 31/03/2026 22:06

Yep, I pity the doctors having to deal with patients who think they know more than them because their cousins hairdressers neighbour had similar symptoms and it turned out to be parvovirus

We have a Dr friend who himself uses Dr Google whilst at work 😳

VimtoDemon · 01/04/2026 00:09

Is there another hospital in the area you can transfer to? It doesn't sound like you are getting on with the gynae consultant there and if you are getting no joy then it's fresh eyes?

CustardySergeant · 31/03/2026 23:04

I've just read your post of 18.46 this evening and am horrified and appalled at your treatment. I'm so sorry that you're going through this.

nolongersurprised · 31/03/2026 22:14

Bushmillsbabe · 31/03/2026 22:10

IGA isn't specific to coeliac, it just indicates a level of inflammation/infection in the digestive tract or other mucous areas.

There is a more specific IGA TTG for coeliac but this isn't completely reliable. EMA is the most specific test for coeliac

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TTG is an IgA antibody - the coeliac test that’s usually requested is TTG-IgA

Bushmillsbabe · 31/03/2026 22:10

elm26 · 31/03/2026 20:32

@Bushmillsbabei think the test was called an IGA test? Does that sound right?

IGA isn't specific to coeliac, it just indicates a level of inflammation/infection in the digestive tract or other mucous areas.

There is a more specific IGA TTG for coeliac but this isn't completely reliable. EMA is the most specific test for coeliac

Shiticandowithout · 31/03/2026 22:06

TriesNotToBeCynical · 31/03/2026 21:51

Everyone consults Dr Google these days! Not necessarily beneficially.

Yep, I pity the doctors having to deal with patients who think they know more than them because their cousins hairdressers neighbour had similar symptoms and it turned out to be parvovirus

JeepersItsTheKraken · 31/03/2026 21:58

Iga is an immunoglobin that protects mucousy places. A very high iga can mean your body is fighting an infection in any of the places that involve mucous, so sinus, throat, lungs and gut. It can be raised with celiac, but also with Crohns, IBD or liver issues.

TriesNotToBeCynical · 31/03/2026 21:51

Everyone consults Dr Google these days! Not necessarily beneficially.

Maia77 · 31/03/2026 21:51

Given the swelling you’ve mentioned along with the severe abdominal attacks and the BP/heart rate drops, it might be worth asking whether something like mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS) or some form of angioedema has been considered. Those can cause episodic abdominal pain plus swelling and can be hard to pick up on standard scans and blood tests.

NiceCupOfChai · 31/03/2026 20:39

Bushmillsbabe · 31/03/2026 20:15

I was thinking same, unlikely to be linked to coeliac, except where have come fully off gluten for a period of several months, and then ingested a lot of gluten.

OP I would query the coeliac diagnosis, that test usually takes around 2 weeks to come back due to the nature of the test and equipment only being in specific locations. We have to schedule my daughters blood tests 3 weeks before she sees her paediatrician to ensure he has results available, and even then there have been times where he still doesn't have it. I think you only had the blood test maybe 3 days ago? So possibly a mix up.

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The IgA blood test can be back within 24 hours. If you read the post the medics have said the pain is not consistent with being caused by coeliac (hence them
not calling a gastroenterologist when she had a flare up) but the OP says she’s read it can cause the symptoms she’s experiencing.

Clearly there is much much more to this than is being shared on MN (and that’s fine).

Whattodo1610 · 31/03/2026 20:35

The IGA test can be back in just a few days if you’re an inpatient.

elm26 · 31/03/2026 20:32

@Bushmillsbabei think the test was called an IGA test? Does that sound right?

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Bushmillsbabe · 31/03/2026 20:15

GinandGingerBeer · 31/03/2026 19:20

God op you’ve been through hell. It must be so frustrating. I have both coeliac and bowel disease (colitis) and I don’t recognise that level of pain at all! It’s not like you’ll have been eating much to set off an ‘attack’ anyway and I’m concerned they’re fobbing you off. I appreciate different people may experience different symptoms but in my peer support groups I’ve not heard of people being in such agony

I was thinking same, unlikely to be linked to coeliac, except where have come fully off gluten for a period of several months, and then ingested a lot of gluten.

OP I would query the coeliac diagnosis, that test usually takes around 2 weeks to come back due to the nature of the test and equipment only being in specific locations. We have to schedule my daughters blood tests 3 weeks before she sees her paediatrician to ensure he has results available, and even then there have been times where he still doesn't have it. I think you only had the blood test maybe 3 days ago? So possibly a mix up.

TriesNotToBeCynical · 31/03/2026 19:28

PoppySaidYesIKnow · 31/03/2026 19:12

You’re being treated appallingly, if your vital signs are so unstable during these episodes there is clearly something wrong. Just because they don’t know what it is they are making you out to be a liar. I’d be furious and I’m very glad your DH is advocating so strongly for you.

Agreed: they are missing something really important. Not for me to say what.