What’s wrong with me, hospital clueless

Can you pee again yet?

Pretend doctor?

Ask to invoke Martha's rule / law - you are entitled to a review or second senior opinion.

I also am thinking need to rule out both Cauda Equina and Cardiac event.

Glad your DH is on his way. Hopefully with his support you can insist on more tests.

They are looking at gynae due to your history.

Have they done an ultrasound?

Keep advocating for yourself.

A similar thing happened to me when I had my youngest. It was a kidney stone stay put until you get results

what sort of scan did you have on your gall bladder? I had severe pain, my bloods and ultrasound were clear so drs thought I was mad and keep me in the waiting room for 22 odd hours - it was not until they agreed to do an CT scan with contrast did they fund fluid at the base of my gall bladder and then within 30mins were apologising and put me down for urgent removal.

I am stunned. Stunned. The level of not giving a shit is appalling. Wtf. Are these people human?
An utter refusal to look after you? Wtf.
I presented to a and e a at 7 pm awhile back with dreadful left quadrant pain. By midnigh i had bloods, full ultrsound and an xray with an mri scheduled for 8 am.
I was diagnosed and sent home at 6 am with a full diagnosis and meds.
Im not uk obvs and our health system has its problemw but they did everyrhing to find out my problem.

I cannot believe the absolute disgraceful way you are being treated. I know your nhs is on its knees but i always thought the people working were still good decent people in a shitty environment.

This is fucking barbaric. Im so sorry and i hope to god u get sorted.

As it came on immediately following a wee (and it affected your ability to wee) I would have thought a kidney scan would be the first thing they did!

For back problems, you need a spinal MRI. The CT won't show it. But they can do some other tests for Cauda Equina.

I came on here to say back problems and potentially cauda equina. I can see I'm not the first to mention it - they need to check. Even if it isn't that, you might have a prolapsed disc.

That said, I'd want to follow everyone else's advice about the other things it might be too.

That said, I took DS to hospital with sudden onset abdominal pain which had him screaming and passing out (normally stoical teenager) and we still don't know what it was. Probably related to an infection in his case, which eventually got treated.

Is there a way your husband or another family member or a friend can come and help you advocate for yourself? I can see it's really hard to be super pushy when you're in such a lot of pain. I think many struggling organisations behave better with witnesses.

I'm sorry, this sounds horrible. The pain sounds similar to when my husband had kidney stones, he was screaming in pain and throwing up. Clearly they need to run proper tests.

Just want to wish you so much love and strength to get you through until you get the tests and treatment you so clearly need. It must be terrifying feeling like you're being dismissed. Absolutely no people-pleasing and accepting what's said without challenge!

It doesn't sound like a gynae issue, it sounds like spine/nerve pain or damage that has caused issues with urinating.

I have just read through your posts not other replies so forgive me if someone as said similar. But I had the exact same issues - twisting feeling, agonising pain, being sick after 2 nights in hospital and gynae also pushing the contraceptive pill ?!! I booked a consultation with a private gynaecologist who booked me in for a laparoscopy straight away and they found I had severe adhesions and part of my bowel had become attached to a muscle and had in fact twisted. There were other issues but that was the most serious and he said he was sure that was what had caused the acute episode of sudden pain. I’ve never had any issues since. But I had all the scans in the hospital, countless ultrasounds and none had showed my bowel had twisted. Have you had previous c sections? Although I read you have had previous endo surgeries so they could cause adhesions. I had no idea scar tissue could cause so many problems. I was assessed by the surgical team also but as soon as they ruled out appendicitis they referred back to gynae. Its such an awful feeling not knowing what’s wrong. Sending you love x

This is your gall bladder. I was also vomiting after meals. Tell them that you will only be discharged after a liver scan and liver bloods are done. Mine was rammed with stones, I had a blocked duct and my fb had started decomposing when I finally got surgery. The surgeon said I was days away from dying and he had no idea how I walked into the operating room. But I’d been so gas lit into believing the amount of pain I was in was normal I just forced myself to get on every day.

Surely they can't send you home if you can't wee,?!

What the hell is wrong with the NHS these days?

Can you have someone else there with you to help advocate for you, OP? It can be very difficult when you're ill and in pain and feeling vulnerable and the system seems disinclined to take you seriously.

Sorry to say it sounds a typical experience as a woman. It's always put down to hormones, women's health issues don't seem to be real or important to some healthcare professionals.
Stand your ground and keep on at them to get tests or scans done.

It seems they have got stuck on it’s not gynae related and don’t seem to understand that they need to look at other possibilities

TBH I don’t really rate most of the medical professions ability to diagnose anything

Dh’s diagnosis of Stress turned out 6 months later and multiple visits to the GP to be stage 4 bowel cancer

My diagnosis of anorexia turned out to be stomach ulcers

16 year old Dds diagnosis of pregnancy turned out to be gastritis

I ran this through Claude for you. Even if it's wrong it gives you something to insist on. Don't say it was from AI....

Synthesized symptoms to identify likely gallbladder or kidney pathology

This is a really distressing situation, and her instinct that something is genuinely wrong deserves to be taken seriously. Based on the symptoms described, here are some possibilities worth considering — though of course only her medical team can diagnose her.

The most likely candidates given the full picture:
Gallbladder/biliary issue is a strong contender. The combination of right-sided pain radiating to the back and up to the shoulder (classic biliary referral pattern), pain under the ribs, diarrhea after evening meals (a hallmark of fat intolerance linked to gallbladder problems), nausea and vomiting all fit. Crucially, gallstones are frequently missed on CT — they're much better detected on a dedicated abdominal ultrasound. It doesn't sound like she's had one specifically targeting the gallbladder.

Kidney stone/ureteric colic is also very possible — sudden severe flank pain, inability to urinate, and radiation to the back are classic. CT with contrast should catch this, but timing matters and small stones can occasionally be missed.
Intermittent ovarian torsion can show completely normal on a scan between episodes, because the ovary untwists. Her endometriosis history increases her risk.

What she should specifically ask for or say to advocate for herself:
"I have not had an ultrasound specifically of my gallbladder. I have right shoulder pain, right-sided pain under my ribs, and diarrhoea after every meal — can this be ruled out before I'm discharged?"

"I still have a catheter in because I cannot urinate. I do not feel safe going home unable to urinate and in uncontrolled pain."

"I would like it documented in my notes that I am refusing discharge while I still have a catheter and undiagnosed uncontrolled pain."

That last point is important — hospitals are much more careful about discharging someone who formally refuses and has it noted.
She is right to be worried, and the fact that she needed morphine and is still in significant pain with a catheter in place is not nothing. She deserves a proper answer before going home.