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What’s wrong with me, hospital clueless

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elm26 · 26/03/2026 15:24

Yesterday at 1pm, I put my 6 month old on the rug with his toys and went for a wee.

As I was walking back I had a sudden severe pain in my right side radiating into my lower back and up to my shoulder, I was in agony.

I called DH who was luckily only on a job 15 mins away, he came straight home and took one look at me and called ambulance, I was shouting out in pain they gave me gas and air and morphine.

I had an emergency CT when dye last night and also have a catheter as lost the ability to wee. Nothing showed on CT, they got me settled on morphine and today I’ve had a transvaginal scan which shows ovaries and womb look normal.

Gynae can’t find a reason so they’ve stopped painkillers and just giving me paracetamol but somethings wrong I feel like somebody’s twisting my insides. The gynae consultant was horrible and said the surgical team will come see me if they think it’s worth it?? So I’m waiting for that if they come.

I’m in so much pain and genuinely scared they’ll send me home not knowing what is wrong with me.

Has anyone has anything similar?

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SylvanMoon · 27/03/2026 21:05

If they want to discharge you without coming to a conclusion or say it was something that you don't feel is right, can you not invoke Martha's Rule to request an independent second opinion? I'm not sure how you do that, but there's supposed to be information about it in every NHS hospital now, isn't there?

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:55

Piggywaspushed · 27/03/2026 20:50

May have missed it but where does it say she has had a scan of gallbladder?

No worries! It can be tough on threads like these that have a lot of updates. OP posted her gallbladder scan was clear at 10:55 today.

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:53

Greybeardy · 27/03/2026 20:44

yes, you have misunderstood. A negative d-dimer excludes a clot. A positive d-dimer could be due to a whole number of things, including clots, but also lots of other things (including inflammation, infection, pregnancy, cancer, post surgery, haematoma's outside the vascular system etc etc). If someone scores low on the risk predictors then doing a d-dimer may be useful in confirming that there isn't a clot. If they score highly they should have imaging. What happens in real life more often than not is that someone thinks they're being helpful by doing the test and actually make things more complicated when it comes back mildly positive for other reasons.

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Hey sorry, we cross posted. I think we’re saying the same thing and wording it differently, or that I’m still misunderstanding? I’m sorry about that; normally I can understand these things. To me, that is a diagnostic test - if it’s positive, then they can consider a possible blood clot (and yes, possible other others). If it’s negative, then a blood clot isn’t possible. I think maybe this is the part I’m misunderstanding: so a blood clot is possible without a raised d-dimer? And yes, unfortunately, had a few “raised but okay” D-dimers, which is maybe why I’m confused (and sorry about this @elm26 - it wasn’t my intent to derail the thread and I really appreciate @Greybeardy and @JulietteHasAGun sharing their knowledge with me. ♥️

Piggywaspushed · 27/03/2026 20:50

NiceCupOfChai · 27/03/2026 20:40

But her pain hasn’t been dismissed. She’s had three scans (including of her gallbladder). Women are often dismissed but the OP has had a lot of imaging in a short amount of time which has not shown a cause for her pain, that is not the fault of the clinical team.

May have missed it but where does it say she has had a scan of gallbladder?

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:49

JulietteHasAGun · 27/03/2026 20:39

Nope. A raised d dimer does not diagnose a clot. It can indicate there may be a clot but lots of other things can cause a high level, muscle strain, pregnancy.

a ctpa or a vq scan will diagnose a PE and a doppler scan will diagnose a dvt

I think you’re misunderstanding me? Yes, a raised D-dimer may indicate other things, but it IS used as the first diagnostic test for a clot - if it is positive, THEN they will do more testing, like a CTPA or a Doppler test. If it is negative, then they are not going to perform any additional testing for a clot, which is why I asked OP about blood tests. I have been through this several times in my own life, unfortunately - D-dimer is not specific only to clots, that’s true, but if it is raised, only then would further testing be performed, according to my consultant (I had a tough time in hospital this past February). But! Maybe there’s something I’m missing? I know going through it as a patient is not going to make me as educated about it as a medical professional, so I’m fully aware maybe I’m still missing something here.

Greybeardy · 27/03/2026 20:44

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:36

Hunh? Maybe I’ve drastically misunderstood all the tests I’ve had? My understanding and Google seems to agree: A D-dimer blood test IS the test for diagnosing DVT and PE; high levels indicate a clot but not where it is.

yes, you have misunderstood. A negative d-dimer excludes a clot. A positive d-dimer could be due to a whole number of things, including clots, but also lots of other things (including inflammation, infection, pregnancy, cancer, post surgery, haematoma's outside the vascular system etc etc). If someone scores low on the risk predictors then doing a d-dimer may be useful in confirming that there isn't a clot. If they score highly they should have imaging. What happens in real life more often than not is that someone thinks they're being helpful by doing the test and actually make things more complicated when it comes back mildly positive for other reasons.

CMM4 · 27/03/2026 20:44

Could be ovarian torsion! Where the ovary twists on itself. It’s apparently agony but not very easy to spot. Push them on this and explicitly ask ‘how do you know for certain it is not ovarian torsion?’. I tend to find approaching things in that way ‘tell me how you know it is not x thing’ is usually really useful as it makes them wonder how they would defend their decision making if they got it wrong and they have to admit they don’t know for sure meaning they will keep looking.

JulietteHasAGun · 27/03/2026 20:41

Anyway nothing that the OP has posted screams blood clot to me. No chest pain or breathlessness. No leg pain or swelling. Dd had a PE and the chest pain was severe. But she didn’t have back pain or shoulder pain. Nor could she not pass urine.

NiceCupOfChai · 27/03/2026 20:40

User1367349 · 27/03/2026 19:58

I would have agreed with you before experiencing endless dismissal of my own similar symptoms. “As bad as labour pain” = you must be very anxious as a first time mum. No actually, I’m in pain. 1-3 in 100 women need their gall bladders removed in the year post partum according to the literature, and not one medical professional considered it for me until I self diagnosed and found someone sympathetic enough to give me scan.

The medical profession dismissing women’s pain is also well documented.

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But her pain hasn’t been dismissed. She’s had three scans (including of her gallbladder). Women are often dismissed but the OP has had a lot of imaging in a short amount of time which has not shown a cause for her pain, that is not the fault of the clinical team.

JulietteHasAGun · 27/03/2026 20:39

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:36

Hunh? Maybe I’ve drastically misunderstood all the tests I’ve had? My understanding and Google seems to agree: A D-dimer blood test IS the test for diagnosing DVT and PE; high levels indicate a clot but not where it is.

Nope. A raised d dimer does not diagnose a clot. It can indicate there may be a clot but lots of other things can cause a high level, muscle strain, pregnancy.

a ctpa or a vq scan will diagnose a PE and a doppler scan will diagnose a dvt

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:36

Greybeardy · 27/03/2026 20:28

blood clots are not diagnosed using blood tests. They can sometimes be excluded using a blood test, but that's probably not appropriate in this scenario. Fortunately the doctors looking after the OP will know that.

Hunh? Maybe I’ve drastically misunderstood all the tests I’ve had? My understanding and Google seems to agree: A D-dimer blood test IS the test for diagnosing DVT and PE; high levels indicate a clot but not where it is.

Aquarius91 · 27/03/2026 20:29

ClairDeLaLune · 27/03/2026 12:29

This isn’t true. The reason you get shoulder pain after gynae procedures is because they pump you full of gas which tries to escape upwards into your shoulders. Lie flat with your bum higher than your head and it will come out the other way.

Actually both are true. Shoulder tip pain is usually caused by irritation to the phrenic nerve, usually from blood (such as from a ruptured ectopic), or air (from some gynae procedures). It’s also common following caesareans where they don’t pump you full of air. 😊

Maia77 · 27/03/2026 20:28

You might have passed a small stone but ureter can stay in a prolonged spasm. Another possibility intermittent ovarian torsion or nerve irritation.

Greybeardy · 27/03/2026 20:28

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:19

Have they mentioned if your blood infection markers are normal? Low stats can be an infection. Blood clots should show on a blood test, but I don’t know if it’s on the routine ones. But this all needs to be discussed because you can’t leave the hospital and care for the children, especially a baby and a toddler, until you have a solution for the pain. It sounds like it’s only manageable right now on Oramorph and codeine.

blood clots are not diagnosed using blood tests. They can sometimes be excluded using a blood test, but that's probably not appropriate in this scenario. Fortunately the doctors looking after the OP will know that.

3luckystars · 27/03/2026 20:26

My money is on a kidney stone

mullers1977 · 27/03/2026 20:22

Godrabbit · 26/03/2026 15:36

This is a kidney stone surely....

Thought the same!!

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:19

elm26 · 27/03/2026 20:12

Not that I know of, should I ask? It never crossed my mind to be a blood clot

Have they mentioned if your blood infection markers are normal? Low stats can be an infection. Blood clots should show on a blood test, but I don’t know if it’s on the routine ones. But this all needs to be discussed because you can’t leave the hospital and care for the children, especially a baby and a toddler, until you have a solution for the pain. It sounds like it’s only manageable right now on Oramorph and codeine.

BinNightTonight · 27/03/2026 20:19

I'm sorry you're still none the wiser. I hope the surgical team can help tomorrow.

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 27/03/2026 20:15

elm26 · 27/03/2026 19:42

I’m beginning to think maybe it is something to do with my endo on my bladder or tubes or cysts etc but the only way they can see this is by opening me up (I’ve had 3 laparoscopies before) and I very much doubt they’ll suggest that tomorrow

So, a couple of related possibilities.

How many periods have you had if you’re six months post-partum? Was this your first? I find it incredibly suspicious that you had a heavy period and then this happened. Right after your period would be when your uterus is at its thinnest, and I’m wondering if you have previous adhesions from either your endo or your laparoscopies themselves, and you essentially “ripped” one of their adhesions.

Unfortunately, and I’m sure you know this, it’s very common to not know the extent of endo until surgical exploration. But I would not be surprised to discover that you had/have something pressing on the “neck” of your bladder, which stopped you weeing - whatever it is has possibly shifted a bit to allow you to wee now, but you’re still not well enough to go home, and unfortunately, it means you could lose the ability to wee again. Have they palpitated around the (tiny) scars from your previous laparoscopies to see how that corresponds to the pain?

Please discuss the possibility of adhesions, from endo itself, pregnancy, or past surgeries with the surgical team tomorrow. I hope they would not send them to see you just to tell you, “Oh well, good luck.”

elm26 · 27/03/2026 20:12

Butterflysunshine01 · 27/03/2026 20:08

Back and shoulder pain and low blood pressure? Have they checked you for pulmonary embolism or a blood clot?

Not that I know of, should I ask? It never crossed my mind to be a blood clot

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elm26 · 27/03/2026 20:11

I’m on laxido, codeine and oramorph. I’ve been walking, I went for a walk around the grounds with DH today to get some fresh air but it takes it out of me I feel exhausted and in pain and I’m a healthy 32 year old mum of 2 small children fgs how can a small walk make me feel like I’ve run a marathon. Also had a shower this morning made me feel better emotionally but not physically.

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Butterflysunshine01 · 27/03/2026 20:08

Back and shoulder pain and low blood pressure? Have they checked you for pulmonary embolism or a blood clot?

independentfriend · 27/03/2026 20:06

If they're encouraging you to eat do try to eat something to see what that does to the symptoms.

Also try walking around the bay / ward - to see if you can / how much it hurts.

Try a shower if you can - warm water might help the pain, being less hot and sticky should feel good. If it doesn't help you have more info for the doctors.

Talk to the nursing staff about whether you need laxatives to go with your morphine - don't add constipation to the problem list.

User1367349 · 27/03/2026 19:58

Lougle · 27/03/2026 18:21

I think it's unhelpful for people to be suggesting diagnoses based on the description of severe pain on the right side going up to the back and up to the shoulder, with urinary retention. It could be so many things.

@elm26 has had a CT with contrast, and a transvaginal ultrasound, so she hasn't been ignored. Her gallbladder has been deemed 'clear'.

Low blood pressure, decreased respiratory function and urinary retention can all be side effects of morphine and codeine (which metabolises to morphine).

This is why the medical team treating @elm26 need to evaluate her symptoms, current treatment regime, blood results, and imaging results to decide what the most likely diagnosis is.

No doctor on this planet would want to miss cauda equina syndrome, which is a medical emergency. They will have assessed the presence or absence of sensation.

If sepsis is a concern, there will be raised infection markers, lactate, etc. If they suspected any type of infection, they would give antibiotics.

@elm26 it sounds like you've been in a lot of pain and it's naturally really worrying. I don't think the hospital are clueless, though. Medicine just doesn't work as quickly as we're led to believe, thanks to programmes such as Casualty and Grey's Anatomy.

I would have agreed with you before experiencing endless dismissal of my own similar symptoms. “As bad as labour pain” = you must be very anxious as a first time mum. No actually, I’m in pain. 1-3 in 100 women need their gall bladders removed in the year post partum according to the literature, and not one medical professional considered it for me until I self diagnosed and found someone sympathetic enough to give me scan.

The medical profession dismissing women’s pain is also well documented.

EeyoresLostTail · 27/03/2026 19:55

elm26 · 27/03/2026 08:52

I’m not very good at advocating for myself I just kind of shut down and do what they say as they are the medical professionals but I feel really strongly that something is not okay with me. Now the pain is under my ribs and central to right and into my back and it goes between sharp to dull to achy. I still haven’t seen a pain management team or even a surgical team. Only a gynae team yesterday who told me it’s nothing gynae and she doubts the surgical team will even want to see me because I’m not rolling around screaming in pain anymore. I’ve been dosed up to the eyeballs on morphine overnight but I’m not sure how to word it/stand my ground if they try and discharge me. I’ve still got catheter in place.

to me sounds like Gallstones