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What’s wrong with me, hospital clueless

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elm26 · 26/03/2026 15:24

Yesterday at 1pm, I put my 6 month old on the rug with his toys and went for a wee.

As I was walking back I had a sudden severe pain in my right side radiating into my lower back and up to my shoulder, I was in agony.

I called DH who was luckily only on a job 15 mins away, he came straight home and took one look at me and called ambulance, I was shouting out in pain they gave me gas and air and morphine.

I had an emergency CT when dye last night and also have a catheter as lost the ability to wee. Nothing showed on CT, they got me settled on morphine and today I’ve had a transvaginal scan which shows ovaries and womb look normal.

Gynae can’t find a reason so they’ve stopped painkillers and just giving me paracetamol but somethings wrong I feel like somebody’s twisting my insides. The gynae consultant was horrible and said the surgical team will come see me if they think it’s worth it?? So I’m waiting for that if they come.

I’m in so much pain and genuinely scared they’ll send me home not knowing what is wrong with me.

Has anyone has anything similar?

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goingtoexplodeandexplodesomemore · 28/03/2026 20:13

Lubilu02 · 26/03/2026 15:50

Have you had a c section, some times the scar tissue can adhere to other organs?

Just a thought

When I had a colonoscapy I opted for no sedation. All was going well until I felt the most unbearable pain. The person performing the proceedure said I would need sedation as the pain would only get worse if I didn't have it. He said he could see that I'd had a C section and scar tissue had formed on my colon. Thankfully I had a canula already in place. I hadn't realised how much damage C sections caused and I've had two,both as an emergency.

AlexStocks · 28/03/2026 20:13

Reminds me of my acute pancreatitis. Did they scan the panc or only gyno?

CharlieBT · 28/03/2026 20:09

Gallbladder?

Thisismynewname23 · 28/03/2026 20:08

I hope you are feeling better and have got some help today x

Bluerabbit22 · 28/03/2026 20:06

Sounds like a prolapse disk that’s putting pressure on your nerves and stopping you from being able to pee, especially with your history of sciatica. This is a medical emergency, go back to a&e and relay your symptoms with emphasis on your nerve pain etc.
I think if doctors are lead down one path (gynaecology in your case) they are sometimes unable to see the whole picture

Overjiggly · 28/03/2026 20:06

BinNightTonight · 27/03/2026 09:07

Wow, this is so similar to my experience. I had my first attack when I was pregnant then my second one weeks after birth. I got three different diagnoses from OOH, 111 and walk in, indigestion, gastroenteritis and gastritis. I remember talking to a doctor in A&E saying that I'd had a completely unmedicated birth two weeks prior and this was similar pain levels and she just did a little laugh. I wasn't given any painkillers at all. It really ruined the newborn time for me, the pain and the anxiety, it all came to a head when I eventually was admitted to hospital urgently with pancreatitis and jaundice and had my gallbladder removed weeks later. I'm sorry you had a similar experience, absolutely awful.

And mine! So many times fobbed off with indigestion.

Was finally diagnosed with gallstones after my first bout of pancreatitis and then gallbladder removed after my 2nd bout. Its taught me to advocate for myself a lot more.

arbielle · 28/03/2026 20:06

All I can do is pray for you right now

Annyh · 28/03/2026 20:06

Bladder stones possibly?

likelysuspect · 28/03/2026 20:05

Jesus why do people keep giving completely irrelevant advice, on this thread and another one Im on

Marthas rule does not apply here. OP is not deteriorating, her readings are fine.

WorthyPearlTiger · 28/03/2026 20:00

Appendicitis, liver, kidneys
Not being able to wee is quite serious
Check meds, alcohol consumption, recre drugs, dieting pills (if u take them).
They cause inflammation that causes acute pain like that, and it's nearly always lifestyle-related. It's not anything to do with the womb or an ectopic pregnancy, as others have suggested, as you've seen Gynae (where they always go to first). Has the doctor asked you about any of this, as in your lifestyle? or diet?

shine18 · 28/03/2026 19:59

Is it a disc in your back. Ask for mri.

OpalSpirit · 28/03/2026 19:51

MyObservations · 28/03/2026 19:16

What complete rubbish!

Not rubbish, well documented that women’s pain is treated differently to men’s.
Women are expected to endure procedures like womb biopsies without pain relief.

Especially if any possible to write it off as gynae/menopause/ hormones etc.
Even worse for women of colour, more likely to die in childbirth and have pain totally dismissed.

itwasyourshowallalong · 28/03/2026 19:48

https://www.england.nhs.uk/patient-safety/marthas-rule/

PLEASE ASK FOR A REVIEW UNDER MARTHA’S RULE

sorry for the caps, but if you’re on oramorph and they want to discharge you on paracetamol then that’s potentially a recipe for disaster

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it sounds shit 😢

NHS England » Martha’s Rule

NHS England » Martha’s Rule

https://www.england.nhs.uk/patient-safety/marthas-rule

HanMat1108 · 28/03/2026 19:48

It sounds like it could be a torsion of the ovary. This is where a cyst on the ovary can cause it to twist. My daughter had it. She was in absolute agony and they were thinking it was her kidneys. When she finally got a scan they discovered the twisted ovary. They operated a week or so later but the ovary was already dead. Unfortunately she already lost her other ovary nine years earlier at 23 to ovarian cancer. She is now going through menopause at 32! It is quite rare apparently.

Deered · 28/03/2026 19:45

Trust me had alot of dealings IV paracetamol the best. Trust them

Pebbles16 · 28/03/2026 19:44

I am so angry on your behalf.
I have have had 30 years of learning to advocate for myself ie "kicking up a fuss". It is on my notes "educated patient" ie do not fuck with me. But it is so difficult when noone can get the symptoms to match a distinct diagnosis.
Sending love @elm26

Nosejobnelly · 28/03/2026 19:37

TheWindyWildebeest · 28/03/2026 19:15

I had something similar a few years ago and was just trapped. But make no mistake, trapped wind can be agony and classically causes referred pain in shoulder. I am a nurse, not that that makes me an expert, but bought “Colpermin” which is an over the counter medication and after taking a few I passed a LOTTA wind! Pain resolved. When I worked on wards we always used to give patients with bowel colic a bit of peppermint water mixed with a couple of soluble Paracetamol and some hot water. Worked a dream….would hear them trumping away after an hour or so! Anyway, may not be that….may be gynae in nature, but worth a try. Good luck!

After I had my first baby by emergency c/s I was in so much pain the next day I thought something had gone wrong with the procedure. The lovely midwife came over and gave me a cup of mint tea - that solved the issue!! Trapped wind can be excruciating- I’ve even passed out from it - but I doubt it’s what the OP has.

Haribomum7 · 28/03/2026 19:34

Have they checked for kidney stones?

Tdee · 28/03/2026 19:33

Sounds like nerve damage from the spine- maybe a disc. Ask for MRI xx

Expatmum2023 · 28/03/2026 19:25

I'm not a medical professional. Just guessing. Torsion of ovary? Advocate for yourself and if any docs in the family or friends who are docs get them involved to advocate for you. You don't want to be the statistic where stuff gets worse because of staying quiet. Talk to the nurses too.. good luck - sounds awful.

maxandru · 28/03/2026 19:20

Sounds like pain I had with slipped disc ?!?

Greybeardy · 28/03/2026 19:19

Tinytimmy123 · 28/03/2026 19:14

Makes me wonder if it was a man pain the surgical team would be dealing with this differently.

probably not if that man had normal bloods and a normal CT...like the OP has said she does.

MyObservations · 28/03/2026 19:16

Tinytimmy123 · 28/03/2026 19:14

Makes me wonder if it was a man pain the surgical team would be dealing with this differently.

What complete rubbish!

TheWindyWildebeest · 28/03/2026 19:15

I had something similar a few years ago and was just trapped. But make no mistake, trapped wind can be agony and classically causes referred pain in shoulder. I am a nurse, not that that makes me an expert, but bought “Colpermin” which is an over the counter medication and after taking a few I passed a LOTTA wind! Pain resolved. When I worked on wards we always used to give patients with bowel colic a bit of peppermint water mixed with a couple of soluble Paracetamol and some hot water. Worked a dream….would hear them trumping away after an hour or so! Anyway, may not be that….may be gynae in nature, but worth a try. Good luck!

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