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What’s wrong with me, hospital clueless

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elm26 · 26/03/2026 15:24

Yesterday at 1pm, I put my 6 month old on the rug with his toys and went for a wee.

As I was walking back I had a sudden severe pain in my right side radiating into my lower back and up to my shoulder, I was in agony.

I called DH who was luckily only on a job 15 mins away, he came straight home and took one look at me and called ambulance, I was shouting out in pain they gave me gas and air and morphine.

I had an emergency CT when dye last night and also have a catheter as lost the ability to wee. Nothing showed on CT, they got me settled on morphine and today I’ve had a transvaginal scan which shows ovaries and womb look normal.

Gynae can’t find a reason so they’ve stopped painkillers and just giving me paracetamol but somethings wrong I feel like somebody’s twisting my insides. The gynae consultant was horrible and said the surgical team will come see me if they think it’s worth it?? So I’m waiting for that if they come.

I’m in so much pain and genuinely scared they’ll send me home not knowing what is wrong with me.

Has anyone has anything similar?

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KnowledgeableAvocado · 29/03/2026 11:34

Just say your latest update. I do hope you get some answers today, OP. You poor thing 😔 take care

bissom · 29/03/2026 11:31

Cauda Equina Syndrome
has anyone mebtioned this?

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KeyboardCat · 29/03/2026 11:30

The low blood pressure is a red flag for a blood clot - someone mentioned it earlier. I had very similar symptoms last year, the first ambulance crew diagnosed a panic attack and told me to sleep it off. 3 hours later I was deteriorating, terrible pain in my chest and side, another ambulance crew called out, turned out I had a massive saddle pulmonary embolism and I was minutes away from death. Am ECG would be a good idea, I absolutely hate it when they fob you off, if you're anxious anyway you tend not to want to 'make a fuss'. Do keep us updated x

likelysuspect · 29/03/2026 11:29

RAA2026 · 29/03/2026 11:13

Wow! So my previous comment has been deleted.
Are people not allowed to express their opinions anymore?
I didn't use abusive speech or bad language, just expressed my opinion and it got deleted along with several others who expressed the same opinion as me...
I'm done with mumsnet now....

I suspect a lot of people agreed with you.

RAA2026 · 29/03/2026 11:13

Wow! So my previous comment has been deleted.
Are people not allowed to express their opinions anymore?
I didn't use abusive speech or bad language, just expressed my opinion and it got deleted along with several others who expressed the same opinion as me...
I'm done with mumsnet now....

Hobsonschoiceofhob · 29/03/2026 11:13

Crikey this all sounds awful. I hope you have some good pain relief on board now and get some answers.

likelysuspect · 29/03/2026 11:10

Ive been in hospitals quite recently for myself, clients and families and I cannot remember about the notes!

ProfessorBinturong · 29/03/2026 11:07

Notes haven't been at the end of beds for years - data protection risk if anyone can pick them up.

OP, I hope you get answers when the doc comes to see you. I agree with PP about getting your husband to take notes - and both of you should write down everything you remember about your treatment up to the previous discharge. Use this thread as a reminder.

likelysuspect · 29/03/2026 11:02

Do they still keep notes at the end of the bed?

LadyBeeOfTheHive · 29/03/2026 11:01

It sounds like the type of marks my daughter had after having her appendix out, the pain also sound quite similar (she had a ruptured cyst on her ovary which was contributing to the pain)

likelysuspect · 29/03/2026 11:01

Curiouser and curiouser.

Lougle · 29/03/2026 10:58

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I think the OP is saying she has woken up from the morning 20 minutes ago. The OP's DH was told she was stable at midnight, so presumably she had the op in the very late evening last night.

Acheyelbows · 29/03/2026 10:55

Hopefully the surgery you underwent yesterday will have gotten to the source of your pain. Your husband was called and you were backon the ward at midnight.

You've just woken today and the doctors will be around to tell you what has happened shortly, hopefully. I hope you're comfortable now at least.

Walksspecial · 29/03/2026 10:53

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Shiticandowithout · 29/03/2026 10:40

Exactly. It’s nonsense to say to refuse to leave or to demand this or that test.

If you are unwell and you know it, then you are, tests can only do so much. If nothing can be found it does not mean nothing is wrong. It means they have not found the issue. They are not looking for the right thing. Pain like this is not normal.
And clearly something is not right.
The question is what?

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FunCrab · 29/03/2026 10:47

Make a request for your notes as soon as possible.
Difficult to think properly when you are so unwell.
Get OH to take notes as much as possible.
You may need these.

ElsieMc · 29/03/2026 10:46

I hope you get some answers today. Your poor experience has made matters even more traumatic.

Natsku · 29/03/2026 10:43

Clearly you were not alright to be discharged! I'm sorry you were not treated appropriately in the first place and I hope that the findings turn out to be something fixable. If you have the strength later on, consider making a complaint that they discharged you when you were still in considerable pain that they hadn't found a cause for

loislovesstewie · 29/03/2026 10:42

Wishing you well and hoping that you get some answers today

Walksspecial · 29/03/2026 10:42

being at hospital and being refused gas and air and morphine then I was on an operating table and I woke up 20 minutes ago on oxygen and all different machines. I’ve got 3 laparoscopic cuts and I’m bleeding vaginally

huh? So you were given a general anaesthetic and underwent an operation? What op?

Lougle · 29/03/2026 10:42

@elm26 hopefully they'll give you a clear explanation today.

elm26 · 29/03/2026 10:40

Sorry id that doesn’t make sense

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elm26 · 29/03/2026 10:40

I haven’t read anymore messages but quick update I got home and had a bath and collapsed in our bedroom, ambulance called I was sick again and screaming in pain I don’t remember a great deal other than my 3 year old screaming, being at hospital and being refused gas and air and morphine then I was on an operating table and I woke up 20 minutes ago on oxygen and all different machines. I’ve got 3 laparoscopic cuts and I’m bleeding vaginally. Nobody has spoke to DH either they called him at midnight to let him know I’m stable and on the ward and they’d talk to
us today and wouldn’t tell him anything over the find so now I’m really scared and confused from all the painkillers. My blood pressure is 83/42 and says 88 with oxygen.

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