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What’s wrong with me, hospital clueless

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elm26 · 26/03/2026 15:24

Yesterday at 1pm, I put my 6 month old on the rug with his toys and went for a wee.

As I was walking back I had a sudden severe pain in my right side radiating into my lower back and up to my shoulder, I was in agony.

I called DH who was luckily only on a job 15 mins away, he came straight home and took one look at me and called ambulance, I was shouting out in pain they gave me gas and air and morphine.

I had an emergency CT when dye last night and also have a catheter as lost the ability to wee. Nothing showed on CT, they got me settled on morphine and today I’ve had a transvaginal scan which shows ovaries and womb look normal.

Gynae can’t find a reason so they’ve stopped painkillers and just giving me paracetamol but somethings wrong I feel like somebody’s twisting my insides. The gynae consultant was horrible and said the surgical team will come see me if they think it’s worth it?? So I’m waiting for that if they come.

I’m in so much pain and genuinely scared they’ll send me home not knowing what is wrong with me.

Has anyone has anything similar?

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Laurentizer · 29/03/2026 13:13

Just ran it through Dola a good AI, here are the results:The symptoms described – sudden, severe pain in the right side radiating to the lower back and shoulder, experienced after urinating – could indicate several medical conditions. It is crucial to seek professional medical evaluation for a definitive diagnosis and appropriate treatment.
Potential Causes of Severe Side and Back Pain After Urination
Several conditions can cause severe pain in the right side, lower back, and radiating to the shoulder, particularly after urination. These include kidney stones, urinary tract infections (UTIs), and issues related to the appendix or pelvic floor muscles.
Kidney Stones
Kidney stones can cause intense pain, often described as sharp and radiating. This pain, known as renal colic, typically starts in the flank (side) and can move towards the lower back and groin. The pain can be so severe that it radiates upwards towards the shoulder. The act of urination can sometimes exacerbate the pain as the stone moves or irritates the urinary tract2.
Urinary Tract Infections (UTIs)
While UTIs commonly cause burning or pain during urination (dysuria), severe UTIs, especially if they affect the kidneys (pyelonephritis), can lead to pain in the side and back. The pain might be felt on the right side if the right kidney is involved. Dysuria itself is pain or discomfort when urinating1.
Appendicitis
Although appendicitis typically causes pain in the lower right abdomen, the pain can sometimes be more generalized or radiate to the back. Movement or muscle contractions, such as those occurring during urination, might worsen the pain2.
Interstitial Cystitis (Bladder Pain Syndrome)
This is a chronic condition characterized by pain and pressure in the bladder area, which can also manifest as lower urinary tract symptoms. While often described as bladder pain, it can sometimes present as pain in the side or back, and symptoms can be triggered or worsened by urination4.
Pelvic Floor Muscle Issues
Weakness or inflammation of the pelvic floor muscles can contribute to pain during urination and discomfort in the lower abdomen or side. These muscles support pelvic organs and their dysfunction can lead to various pain patterns2.
When to Seek Medical Attention
Given the severity of the pain described, it is essential to consult a healthcare provider promptly. They can perform a physical examination, ask about your medical history, and order diagnostic tests such as urine analysis, blood tests, or imaging scans to determine the exact cause of the pain and recommend the most effective treatment. Prompt medical attention is crucial to prevent potential complications and manage severe pain effectively5.

Sailawaygirl · 29/03/2026 12:59

Gosh. You poor thing. Please get your husband to contact PALS ASAP as well

FunCrab · 29/03/2026 12:59

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A person needs surgery and this is your comment.
Unbelievable.

likelysuspect · 29/03/2026 12:53

RAA2026 · 29/03/2026 11:51

Thank you for explaining @wracky
I don't post often so wasn't aware of this guideline/rule.

lol, whats particularly amusing is that on threads where the OP really isnt genuine and theres loads of people questioning it and then getting deleted, the thread will suddenly disappear because its been pulled because the OP isnt genuine!!!

BinNightTonight · 29/03/2026 12:52

Gosh, I'm so sorry. It could be so many things. I hope you get answers today.

Natsku · 29/03/2026 12:52

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Seeing as she just had emergency surgery it looks like there was a good reason for that health anxiety. Far too often women's symptoms are dismissed as anxiety, sometimes with devastating consequences.

Emilesgran · 29/03/2026 12:50

elm26 · 29/03/2026 11:38

wait do people think I’m lying? If you search my username I’m a long term user of Mumsnet I’m genuinely as baffled as everyone else

Someone misread your comment about having woken up 20 minutes ago and thought you were claiming to be posting 20 minutes after the end of emergency surgery and leapt to the conclusion that it was all impossible. One other person (that I saw - maybe there were others) thought the same.

People misreading posts and leaping to conclusions seems to be a practice on MN doesn’t it!

Anyway I really hope you get good news when you see someone for the post op update and that things get better from now on. You’ve been treated terribly. Someone who’s in terrible pain shouldn’t be just sent home and told to come back if it happens again - there needs to be an explanation because it’s obvious that it will happen again.

hedgebets2 · 29/03/2026 12:41

It sounds like an endo surgery, I bled after mine because I had a tear from the uterus manipulation instrument

PurpleReindeer2 · 29/03/2026 12:39

So sorry OP. When you have recovered. Which I hope is soon, please raise an official complaint about how you have been treated. Sending you lots of love and hope you start to feel better soon xxx

MustWeDoThis · 29/03/2026 12:35

elm26 · 29/03/2026 10:40

I haven’t read anymore messages but quick update I got home and had a bath and collapsed in our bedroom, ambulance called I was sick again and screaming in pain I don’t remember a great deal other than my 3 year old screaming, being at hospital and being refused gas and air and morphine then I was on an operating table and I woke up 20 minutes ago on oxygen and all different machines. I’ve got 3 laparoscopic cuts and I’m bleeding vaginally. Nobody has spoke to DH either they called him at midnight to let him know I’m stable and on the ward and they’d talk to
us today and wouldn’t tell him anything over the find so now I’m really scared and confused from all the painkillers. My blood pressure is 83/42 and says 88 with oxygen.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, OP. When you're better, I seriously hope you put in a complaint for medical negligence and inappropriate behaviour from staff. They shouldn't get away with this because they've potentially caused your health to deteriorate.

I hope they have gotten to the bottom of this. A friend of mine has endometriosis and she had a burst cyst on her ovaries. It caused her to her to he in crippling, excruciating agony and had the same symptoms you are experiencing.

Lougle · 29/03/2026 12:35

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Anonymouseposter · 29/03/2026 12:33

I’m very sorry about the way you have been treated. I hope it was something they have been able to completely sort out for you. Please let us know what they say later.

BlueMum16 · 29/03/2026 12:32

Sorry to read your update but hopefully now with surgery you'll get some answers today.

Sending virtual hugs. This must be so stressful for you all.

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MRSRUDEBOX · 29/03/2026 12:27

Hope you finally get some answers OP.

Eightofus · 29/03/2026 12:22

Find out not fund 🤦‍♀️

Eightofus · 29/03/2026 12:21

I hope you are OK @elm26 it's really horrendous how you've been treated, you need to put in a complaint definitely! But first get yourself better and we'll rested, endo is awful! Wishing you a speedy recovery and hopefully you'll fund out what's going on soon 💐

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 29/03/2026 12:10

Sorry to read your latest post. Once you've found out what's happened and are more lucid you need to raise a complaint as there's far too much of this type of treatment going on.

Just because someone's got anxiety doesn't mean there's isn't anything more serious going on.

It's so easy to say it's anxiety. I spent a lifetime being told it was all in my head until I nearly died in 2001.

wracky · 29/03/2026 12:05

agh they'll probably have to delete my post now for referencing that. Apologies!

RAA2026 · 29/03/2026 11:51

wracky · 29/03/2026 11:36

You're taking it far too personally. The talk guidelines are really clear - any questioning of authenticity of poster gets deleted.

Thank you for explaining @wracky
I don't post often so wasn't aware of this guideline/rule.

Widowwith2 · 29/03/2026 11:47

Oh my goodness im so sorry how are u feeling today? I had similar symptoms years ago and was rushed to hospital i had a ruptured cyst and also my endo had got quite bad.The gynaecology ward sent me home after a day and had to go private to find out what was wrong with me causing me so pain.I truly hope you get sorted asap sending hugs 🫂

FunCrab · 29/03/2026 11:45

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Are you serious?
A person needs an operation and you talk about anxiety.
If you listen to the likes of Emma Barnett or Naga Muchetty they talk about their experiences of health services and not feeling heard.
All too often this is the case.
Look at maternity care too.

Walksspecial · 29/03/2026 11:41

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elm26 · 29/03/2026 11:38

wracky · 29/03/2026 11:36

You're taking it far too personally. The talk guidelines are really clear - any questioning of authenticity of poster gets deleted.

wait do people think I’m lying? If you search my username I’m a long term user of Mumsnet I’m genuinely as baffled as everyone else

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wracky · 29/03/2026 11:36

RAA2026 · 29/03/2026 11:13

Wow! So my previous comment has been deleted.
Are people not allowed to express their opinions anymore?
I didn't use abusive speech or bad language, just expressed my opinion and it got deleted along with several others who expressed the same opinion as me...
I'm done with mumsnet now....

You're taking it far too personally. The talk guidelines are really clear - any questioning of authenticity of poster gets deleted.